COMPARE YOURSELF TO YOURSELF.

What are some of the things we do to sabotage our happiness?

There are several, let's discuss a couple.

First, we have to acknowledge that we are in a constant struggle to compare ourselves to others. Always looking at what we have or don’t have that others might. Like cars, houses, jobs, shoes, money, relationships, social popularity and so on.

We have to learn to stop! If we don't, we will continue to create way too many negative feelings and thoughts by the end of the day. It’s like comparing “apples to oranges.” Funny thing is, they are probably doing the same destructive behavior.

What are some ideas to help us stop these terrible comparisons?

1. Acknowledge that you can’t always be THE winner. 

We have to be understanding that somewhere, there is someone that is going to have more than us or is going to be better at something than us. It’s a constant shift, and we cannot put all our energy into thinking we will always “be on top of that mountain.” Doesn’t mean you have to give up and stop trying. Just stop comparing.

2. Stop putting people up on pedestals. 

I see so many professionals and people in general that instead of recognizing their own talents, they would rather talk about others and their accomplishments in a way that leads them to believe that they are inferior to them. Take professional athletes, pop stars, movie stars, and wealthy individuals. Our society is fascinated with these people. They become trapped in what we call “hero worshipping.” When we do this, we continuously compare and only focus on our lacking. Stop this immediately!

3. Stop comparing(judging) both ways. 

When we find it hard to stop the unfavorable comparisons of us to others and what we don’t have, we need to stop all comparisons. What else is there? Well, we compare to others that are struggling to make ourselves feel better about our situations. It’s true. How many times have you said, “glad that’s not me.” Once we start that “comparison” thing, it’s hard to stop. So then when we see someone who is flourishing, we automatically start comparing them and become negative because of what we don’t have. Stop both ways.

4. Try to be kinder. (probably the most Important)

The way you treat others has an effect on how you treat yourself. If you judge others, you are more likely to judge yourself. Compliment others for their individuality. If you see something, you like or notice anything different on someone, be sincere, compliment them. Move your energy outside you to a positive level, so it returns inside the same.

“Always do the best you can, and everything else will take care of itself. Focus your energies on doing what you can rather than worrying about what you can't.”

Be mindful of your thoughts. Don’t let them influence how you show up. 

We have so much in our life that we take for granted and yet all we focus on is what we don’t have. Stop this terrible way of living.

Be grateful!

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