Communication Balderdash

Com·mu·ni·ca·tion (k?mju?n??ke??(?)n). is a noun. It means the imparting or exchanging of information by speaking, writing, or using some other medium. It is also a verb when we use it in the context of an object.

There are types of communication which include verbal, non-verbal and written communication. ?Verbal communication is linguistic?as it involves spoken words in any given language. Non-verbal communication happens in the absence of a linguistic system, which is primarily using body language, and intonation in its expression. Written communication is sending and receiving information in written format, and is preferred for use for future reference purposes. ?

You need a fair degree of communicative competence to communicate well your message to people and also to understand what is shared back. ?Being able to?communicate effectively?is essential for professionals and involves sharing thoughts, ideas, expressions and observations in a simple way, while also giving the time to listen and respond to others, as they speak.

Communication was an area of interest as early as?Ancient Greek. Plato?and?Aristotle gave a lot of emphasis on the role of public speaking. For example, Aristotle held that the goal of communication is to persuade the audience.

However, has it ever occurred to you that the communication you do (or don't do enough) with your-self is more significant than any other external interaction? ??

One of the central tenets of western civilization is Descartes' famous Cogito Ergo Sum: I think, therefore I am. And here lies the grub.

New research?out of the University of Toronto supports the idea that?what we tell ourselves plays a pivotal role in our ability to control ourselves. If we missed unravelling what we are capable of, while carefully stepping off the burden of feeling 'the atlas' on our shoulders (excuse this term if you read, Atlas Shrugged, Ayn Rand) of what all we are incapable of, accepting just as we are, we create a sense of peace & fulfilment that spells serenity. In each space of effortless correspondence that we engage within, we amplify our confidence, our strengths and precision so that when we speak to other people, they listen to us in admiration, with attention, as we are coherent and precise, without any exertion.?

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Leading psychologist on self-compassion,?Kristen Neff,?talks about it as being kind to ourselves – being gentle, supportive and understanding as you would to a friend who has made a mistake and needs to be comforted.?

?“The most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.” ~ Steve Maraboli?

Of all forms of communication, the one we do with ourselves is perhaps the most challenging one to master, for it is something we fairly forget and rarely acknowledge.?Healthy self-talk is turning compassion inwards. ?Research indicates that self-compassion is one of the most powerful sources of coping and resilience we have available to us, radically improving our mental and physical well-being. ?

Our internal language creates little postcards and if that conversation within is harmonious then we will not struggle with any contradictions as we speak or say anything than what we want to. ?

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There is beauty in communicating internally this mindset - ‘permission to fail’ as then you have leapt away from the edge of failure and into the part where it no longer holds you back to see what happens after you fail, onto the part where creativity resides.?It is also in a way a metaphor for life, for rarely can anyone claim to say it was a perfect life.

Perfection is an exalted hill that is challenging if you obsess about climbing atop every time.?Any prodigality in militarist self-talk is worth switching with a neutral or a positive thought.

Our brain processes more rapidly what you say to yourself than if you spoke it out loud. In contrast to speaking out loud, inner speech leads immediately to an inner image of what you’ve said to yourself and your response to it. (Refer to https://www.psychologyineverydaylife.net/2012/10/25/self-talk-what-you-say-to-yourself-about-you-matters)

Quick tips to get ahead in creating a self-directed communication that spells symmetry

• Talk gently with yourself
• Articulate first to your inner critic
• Know your strengths?
• Acknowledge your weakness(es) and that is okay
• Build on your resilience?
• Trust and allow this thought that a power greater than the sum of parts is overseeing us ?
• Trust your instincts?
• You are important to the people in your life ?
• Be proud of yourself

(refer to https://www.healthdirect.gov.au/)

And remember this, whatever you choose, I believe in you, for I believe and trust in me!?