Communicate With Others To Get More Done With Ease

I admire my mom, but I will never be like her.?

My mom was a very productive and efficient manager.

Whether it was at home or working in an office.?

But, I mostly knew her excellence from living with her.?

Dinner was always ready on time, more or less. 6pm.?

Laundry was always done on Tuesdays.?

She got all of us everywhere while keeping her home schedule.?

I was always on time to dance classes, piano lessons.?

I always arrived with a check on time to my voice lessons.?

She went to the bank on Mondays and took out cash for the week. She kept it in neat little envelopes and only spent was in the envelope.?

She exercised every day.?

And she was a professional volunteer for a Jewish organization. Ultimately, serving on the National Board for 15 years.?

When she hosted 40 people for the Passover seder, she made it look easy.

She was amazing and admired by many.

But, she didn’t like carrying the burden of managing the house, food, clothing and three children all by herself while my Dad worked long hours away from the house.?

I could hear the stress in her voice when I arrived home from school.

When I started telling her about my day, she’d listen for a minute, then she'd pop up from the conversation, remembering something else she had to get done.?

She was always in GO! Mode, sometimes in GO!GO! Mode.?

Going, doing, thinking, planning, anxious about it all coming together.

And all I ever wanted was time with her as a human and as a daughter.?

I longed for her undivided attention and presence.?

I longed to be seen as a person, and not just as someone to manage, to feed and to clothe.?

My mom is not alone.

Many high achievers get caught up in GO! Mode.?

Our minds are focused on the mental checklist that judges us for how well we are doing and how close we are to being the ideal of our aspirations.

But, when we are in GO! mode, we miss other opportunities that are in front of us.?

Most of the conversations I remember with my mom from childhood were either her nagging me to do something around the house, scolding me for not doing it well, or her interrupting a conversation because she remembered something she had to do.?

It wasn’t just what she said or how she said it, it was who she was being when she said it. Her internal monologue was about getting things done the way they should be done.?

(There are a lot of good reasons for that, but I’m not addressing that here.)?

How often do you get so caught up in productivity and efficiency, or measuring your own worth, that you lose track of the relationships around you??

And, how does that affect your communication and leadership?

What if you could get more done with more ease?

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In The Communication Lab, you can learn how to get things done through others with more ease and grade so that you don’t have to carry the whole burden yourself.?

It's too late to give that gift to the mother of my childhood, but I am happy to share it with you.

To explore and experiment with the miracles that could change it all for you, consider joining the next Communication Lab.

If you are looking for how to get people to do the things you want them to do without sounding bossy, nagging or controlling, then save the date, February 20th, and?March 19th.

It is a weekday workshop that requires 3 hours of your time. I know that can be a lot for some people.

My guarantee is that if you invest that time in yourself, you will soon find that you are saving time because you can have more impact, more influence and get more things to happen more easily.