Commitment - Marriage, Relationships & Family Legacy

Commitment.

Dedication to a person, or a cause.

In a marriage relationship, it’s often referred to as a ‘covenant’.

Not just an agreement, a promise or a vow, but a legally binding contract between two or more people.

Many view it as holy; sacred.

As I reflect back on a decade of marriage, I’m reminded of the commitment I made to my wife; to our relationship.

I think about those sacred vows I made to her, before my Creator & others.

I consider where I have fallen short as a man; where I have been lacking in those commitments to her & to our relationship.

I think about the times we struggled, when in the heat of the moment, I said unkind things to her; caused her hurt or pain with my words.

I think about the regret I felt after doing so, knowing I couldn’t take back what was said, but sincerely apologize & do what I could to make things right.

I think about the times I didn’t love her the way I could have, or the way I should have.

After a moment, those feelings of sorrow are overcome by immense joy & gratitude.

We are still together, still committed to each other & still deeply love one another.

We’ve made the choice to learn & grow together; to forgive each other.

I look at our lives, our children & the fruits of the love & commitment we made to each other.

I see the beautiful legacy we are building together.

We both understand that true love is not a feeling, or an emotion; it’s a choice.

It’s two imperfect people choosing to commit to one another.

I’m convinced before we can truly commit to others, we must first commit to ourselves.

Commit to becoming the best possible version of ourselves, as we progressively transform & mature.

Before we met, I had gone through a tragic divorce.

For over 5 years, I stayed a single dad, doing my best to rear a daughter, take the time to heal, & focus on self-improvement.

It was a difficult season of my life, but totally worth the wait.

A lot of folks refer to their spouse & say, “Oh, I didn’t deserve him or her”.

Don’t know that I agree.

I think we often get exactly what we deserve in life, in proportion to our personal faith & belief system.

I’m convinced God/Universe will bring us into alignment with the right people, in the right time & place.

We were both specific about what we wanted in a spouse.

We both stood our ground for that &, thankfully, got our hearts desire, based on what we believed & made personal agreements for.

Making a true commitment to anyone; to anything, is not easy.

It requires honor, character & integrity to uphold that commitment.

It means you’re gonna have to put in the work.

I’m short on words to fully articulate the gratitude & appreciation I feel for this human who is my partner, my lover, my friend & my companion.

What a woman.

What a lady.

What a wife.

What a mother.

What a person.

I write this post to celebrate our journey together, but to also encourage you:

Recommit & honor the commitments you’ve made;

To yourself, your spouse, your kids, your relationships, your business, & your dreams.

Commit to the legacy you want to leave behind.

Take the time to mend, to recover, to heal & to grow.

Have faith that what you want out of life is gonna come your way at the right time, & the right relationships will be established.

As we celebrate the gift of life & love, I’d like to offer you a personal gift & help with the areas I just mentioned.

A PDF of my chapter book, ‘A Glass Heart Shattered” and an email filled with lots of resources on how you can build & protect your family legacy.

Legacy begins with family.

It’s up to us to create the kind of legacy we want to be remembered by.

It’s worth prioritizing; worth protecting.

But it’s up to US to make sure it endures!

Type “commitment” in the comments.

I’ll DM a link for you to register so I can send you those gifts.

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