If it comes it let it, if it goes let it, don't loose your peace of mind

If you love it, you let it go if you're putting more effort into the relationship than your partner and not getting anything back from your partner on any level and that means the relationship is one sided and only beneficial to your partner instead of both of you as a healthy, balanced relationship should be. If you love something, set it free, if it comes back to you better than before then it's meant to be but, if it hasn't changed at all, let it go and free yourself because self love is the best love and when you truly love yourself, all of yourself, you will attract the type of love you deserve and want into your life.

Have you told people not to let love go but to lock it up and throw away the key. Of course I was being facetious but only slightly. The more you love someone the more you want them to be happy. The more you lust for someone, and I don't mean just physically, the more you want to possess them. Love isn't ownership. People often confuse lust with love; the reason this is is because there is only one English word to describe love and there are different types of love.

Remember that familial love, brotherly love, parental love, sensual love, etc. all these have different reasons for being but all are just called “love”. But if you love someone truly, not selfishly, then what you want for them is the best for them, not ownership or possession and thus loving them means neither letting them go or not letting them go, it means you never held them in your grasp in the first place.

A love that is possessive is not love at all, and people who feel possessed almost always feel the need to escape the possessor. Therefore, letting it go doesn’t mean that you should stop loving it. Letting go what you truly love is very heart trashing, but you can’t hold on to something which is not yours or will never be yours. One can have the same love towards it which they used to have earlier even after letting it go. You have to wish for your partner’s happiness though you are not the reason for their happiness anymore.

And don’t have a hope that they will come back to you one day. One never leaves you alone if they love you. If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yours forever. If it doesn’t, then it was never meant to be. But, what if it doesn’t get back to you? Stop holding on to things which you did let go. Arduous situations like this makes you even more stronger. Therefore, letting go doesn’t mean you stop caring. It means you stop trying to force others to.

“I have not been in an altered state for many hard days now and still cannot understand why you won’t talk to me or even see me. Less can i see how you can want to see me in jail, you always promised me this was the last thing you wanted or would let happen to me ever. When you thought last time this might happen you said you would take the blame for this whole mess you put us in.I never wanted any of this and cannot ever find it my heart why you feel i deserve this.

And being sane and straight is so hard with all this going on and all the time the pain in my stomach around you will not go away. I wish you would tell me why you are doing this to me and wish i could reason the whole thing. It was drugs you may say? Well you wanted me to do them once a month so i cannot see that. Do you think i would have done any of the things i said i could to get you in trouble -i have not despite being in jail and despite feeling so much hate from you, not for you despite feeling hatred from you.

However, I have been tested beyond belief by you and have passed all the tests so when will you stop this and sit down and talk to me and see the me you have tested beyond belief and in many ways broken. I am the me you always wanted- the one who was clean and and now the one who who loves you too, despite all this. This is what you wanted babe and i am here waiting for you. What more can i do.

Moreover, if you were ever after only money or something, revenge for men in general ,then have i not earned the right to sit down with you and talk and even smile with you, and for you to tell me this. is that so much ask after these ordeals and the pain and suffering i have endured to earn that right. Hard knocks to cope with -revenge- well it maybe but i think he now feels he made a mess of things. I think they both did. Therefore, let it go if you are given the ability to - or fight for it, but know when to stop, don’t listen to people who don’t understand and listen only to your heart and to the one who you are letting go or they will let you go.

Alternatively if you do not know or cannot get an answer then you must listen to your own heart and hope the one you love will respect you enough to help you live life again, with or without her or him or an answer -but so much pain comes from not knowing there has to be an end to it or it will send you to the depths of despair. Stop trying and start living. Faith and love will win the day. Slowly perhaps thanks to actions of others, but ti will come and true love will be yours -once you know your true love was not loving you at all. Come on, cheer up and say hi to life!