Come and play...
When was the last time you let yourself play? Messy, chaotic, unplanned fun.
I found myself considering this as it’s the first International Day of Play today, organized by the UN. As the kid in the very cute video says: aside from just being fun, “play helps bring us together, helps us understand each other better. It makes us stronger, teaches us how to be a team and helps us discover our hidden talents”.
How do we make time for play in our working lives? Aside from the odd LEGO-fueled Agile workshop, sadly there often don’t seem to be enough opportunities for play office – limiting our access to the skills and opportunities that the UN’s #InternationalDayofPlay is emphasising.
One of my favourite elements of the Barefoot Coaching course was Transactional Analysis. The wonderful Sarah Lowes (she/her) introduced us to Functional Fluency, a development of the original Ego states model that TA is based on. I was really struck by the positive aspects of the ‘free child’ state (bottom right hand corner of the FF model). Previously, when I’ve been taught about Transactional Analysis, it was all about keeping away from the ‘negative’ behaviours of the ‘controlling parent’ or ‘rebellious child’ and moving firmly to the adult space.
Why was I so struck by the idea that there were positive elements of the ‘free child’? If you’ve worked / met me, you’ll understand. One of my core values is ‘fun’. I giggle. I make jokes. This hasn’t always worked out well for me, but fun is what brings us together, builds bonds and breaks down barriers.
Sarah Lowes talked about the value of having one foot in ‘Adult’ while exploring other states with your other foot – Jenga anyone??
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Free child or ‘expressing my own self’ is where self-care happens, authenticity, creativity, where you’re able to express your wants and needs. I was drawn to the creativity of PR agencies for many years, my Consultancy now enables me to flex my creativity regularly for clients: facilitation is essentially my invitation to your free child to ‘come and play’, create with me, let’s see where we go?
So I’m embracing my free child – today and as many days as I can manage. The mole in me (one for another newsletter!) will readily embrace opportunities for deep thought at times and life delivers plenty of time for sadness and reflection, but making time for fun, creativity and collaboration will forever be part of my professional being (and I hope my kids will continue to make it part of my home life too – no matter how tired I am at 6am on a Sunday morning!).
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The UN is inviting us all to play and to make time and space for more children across the globe to have the opportunity to play today. Here’s the Call To Action.
What am I dancing to? While I fully back my former client Outward Bound’s call for more of them, dropping my 11 y/o off for a residential school trip sent me into a bit of a parenting tailspin, so Big Moon’s Here is Everything is on repeat.
Not necessarily a dance-track, but the BBC World Service’s Dear Daughter podcast is bringing me a lot of joy right now.
Just love this, Emma Duke, Chartered PR Fellow and Coach. What fun!
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9 个月I love the idea of 'free child' (and have loved working with you bringing that spirit too!). There are so many wonderful qualities children possess that we should embrace - definitely bringing the fun/ silliness, but also that creativity, energy, the idea that everything is possible, curiosity, and endless enthusiasm for even the most mundane things. I see all of these in my two (very energetic) boys and aspire to learn from them as much as I can while they're still so young. Hard pass on the tantrums though...
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9 个月I'm working through The Artist's Way at the moment (I'm on Week 4 and it is agonizing and brilliant and I am already dreading it being over in 8 weeks!), and one of the 'non-negotiables' you have to do, as well as Morning Pages (3 sides of paper free writing every day first thing, before you're fully conscious!), is an Artist Date every week. That date is time you block out to 'play' - to be creative, to let your mind wander, to not be concerned with productivity or outcome. Mine this week was wandering around the Ash, which provoked a lot of reflection, brought up a lot of emotion, and felt very calming and centring. I can't recommend the book highly enough if you haven't read it, in fact I was going to give you a copy as I know you'd love it so much! So let me know if you've already got one, and spoiler for your birthday this year ??