Coaching

Perfectionists don’t like to reveal their weaknesses, which makes them especially difficult to coach. What’s a mentor to do? Try to focus your coaching on affirmation, validation, encouragement, and support. Express value for the person, not their performance. And when the person falls short or believes they’ve failed, help them cultivate a sense of curiosity, inquiry, and risk taking about what went wrong, and offer approaches for moving forward. Give them permission to make mistakes by disclosing your own missteps. Show them how you learned and grew professionally from each one. And demonstrate that it’s OK not to know all the answers. It can be helpful to say, “I don’t know that, but let’s find out together.”