Coaching Commentary #7: Article 1 on Self-Determination

[Coach Tom’s Commentary] Self-determination is a primal force that allows one to summon the necessary inner resources to act. As opposed to blindly following the herd, or feeling a sense of powerlessness wherein the external environment is greater than self – having self-autonomy is a critical component towards the search for the ‘best version’ of self. Increasing self-determination means mentally assenting that one has the option of choice, and the means to decide whichever course of action from a place of deliberate exercise of one’s free will.

? * * *

Awareness and Self Determination

In the common world, people often overloaded with information and advice. It seems every corner you turn; someone is trying to tell you how to build awareness and self-determination. With all the advertisements and information is often hard to decide what you must listen to. When it comes to assessing the self however, the vast majority of people find it difficult task. This is also one of the prime reasons why most of the people disregard it as a frivolous activity with no positive outcomes.

Awareness and self-determination methods often present concerns that involve the processes of raising the level of consciousness and optimizing one’s potential to the best possible level. Despite of the many concerns it is crucial in today’s high-dollar world to advance in self-growth. People must learn how to control their emotions, fears, etc, to survive. Pessimistic feelings such as fear, depression, violence, and anger are spreading quickly among the municipal men like an endemic. Furthermore, the vogue fashion of pro-independence living, growing segregation amongst people continues to add to the loneliness and hostility of an urban man. In the face of such circumstances, it is virtually impossible for a person to maintain calmness and composure at all times. Many people due to these changes are becoming more irritated, frustrated, and confused. The vast majority of people are living life hastily working overtime and live and in chaos. Because of these complications it has left people have a little time to spend with the self.

Inside of every one is a hidden genius. Yet because of the prevailing culture and the inclinations that drive people to materialistic pursuits, many people are undermining the power and strength of the inner self. On the other hand, a person who invests his time in building a healthy relationship with himself grows up to become more reflective, organized, and conscious of his thoughts and actions.

Awareness and self-determination has a couple of aspects, which is highly misinterpreted, is spirituality. Mysticism is measured as a practice preferential by sages who live in remote lands or the older people. Some people also consider it stroke of luck or a media hype attention-grabber adopted by some people in order to befool the masses by promising them inner peace and contentment. The world of religious studies is misguiding and often leads people off track. In fact, it is exclusively a personal choice whether the entity wants to practice religion or not. Unquestionably, it has its own advantages and can help a person to be at calm, if adopted correctly. Typically our inner self is allied with the psychosomatic aspect of our personality.

Sadly, the competitive world has forced people to try and outdo the other by competing fiercely. Many people embrace strong pessimistic feelings for their competitor, such as covetousness, revulsion, and maliciousness.

Self-control is very essential for the complete self-analysis. If a person is not in control of his or her harmful emotions, he or she cannot sit back and relax the mind in order to carry out an honest analysis of the inner self, thus it will only create more heartaches for the self and the rest of the world. It requires a lot of audacity and open mindedness on the part of a person to amiably, correct the negative side through acceptance. What are more, accepting and working on it are two completely different things. An individual must be motivated and self-determined enough consciously to work at eliminating the negative qualities on a recurring basis.

It may be shocking but all it takes is little amount of audacity, motivation, self-determination and desire to improve and set free the greater qualities hidden within each individual and then convert the self to create a self-determined professional, personal, and social life.

Behaviors and Self Determination

Some people struggle with developing skills because of particular behaviors developed from influences over the years. When they struggle with pre-structured behaviors or genetically related behaviors it often makes it a harder struggle to build self-determination. Usually with some help, a good mentor, counselor, etc, the person can develop skills. It may take longer, but it is worth the wait.

A person's behavior towards a situation could also affect the way others see them. Their attitude towards others could also affect their behavior as well. Ones attitude needs to be adjusted for one to develop and change their self-determination. A person could be assessed in any situation so as to understand what they are going through for one to understand them in any way. May be a sort of group therapy may also help so as the teacher can pick up on any feelings you may have when discussing matters. Some people may feel better if they converse about things first to others and listen to others and there issues or problems they may have or problems they seem to face in every day life. In a child it could be something that has happened to them emotionally or mentally. No one knows unless these issues are raised. If a child has a problem at home maybe the child feels better telling a complete stranger i.e. Counselor so as they can understand from the way they may see things rather than talk to a relative. There may be a lot the person may want to say and may be a bit overwhelmed when talking to someone they know. They may have a lot to say and feel nervous in front of someone. For example you may want to feel less anxious or tired and therefore a session in counseling may be of help to you in some way or another. Counseling may also help in other ways if need be.

Considering the cognitive approach, motivation sometimes crosses over the lines of theory. For instance, implicit motives can set in motion or cause someone unknowingly to react to something when the person is unaware of his or her intentions. By training the mind to learn while focusing on the objective, you can help one to reform unconstructive behaviors. Sometimes counselors will use priming methods to measure the patients contained memory. The process involves scrambling letters. Once the letters are jumbled the entity is asked to choose some words from the letters. The letters in the first instance should relate to success while in the second instance it should relate to relationship.

During these tests patients that chose the success often showed higher degrees of motivation than those that were confined to relationships. Each party during these tests is often prepared with success-related terms or words. You might try the priming methods at home to see if your child can progress and build his or her motivation.

Aside from the priming method, you have other methods to consider to help your child develop motivation and self-determination. It is a proven fact that we often develop behaviors whether consciously or not, and in time unconscious influences that enforced the behaviors upon us will display themselves in our behavior. We must constantly stay on guard to defend our human rights and to make sure that others are not influencing our behaviors.

Another good strategy that you can use is the pro and con measurement test. This test will help your child see the benefits of balance, good skills, motivation, etc, and see the consequences of the cons. It is an effective therapeutic strategy that works.

Coach Tom is an Official Member of the Forbes Coaches Counci (2022).?Check out his articles at:?https://www.forbes.com/sites/forbescoachescouncil/people/thomaslim

?????Follow Coach Tom on Linkedin at:https://www.dhirubhai.net/in/thomaslcl/

?????Follow us on our Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/CovenantRhapsody

?????Follow us on Twitter: https://twitter.com/camelothobbies