The Coach and/or Boss you Need

Sometimes in Life and Work, the best coaches and/or bosses are not the ones we want, but the ones we need.

Does your boss only tell you your good all the time?

Do you struggle to get solid feedback at all?

I have noticed leaders that barely give feedback at all. Most of the leaders I have worked for fall into this category. While they were great people on a personal level, they failed to give me constructive guidance on how to get to the next level. Almost as if they thought I would stay in one spot forever. They almost solely relied on the military PME to teach all the things about leading.?

They would give me feedback on how to drive a forklift better, for example, but I am not going to drive a forklift forever, what about communication, time management, program management, and how to get to your 5 year goal??

Do you have a 5 year goal??

Do you have any short and long term goals?

If you do not, what do you and your leader talk about during feedback sessions??

Do you even have 3-4 formal documented feedback sessions a year?

I have had other leaders, a few in and out of the service, that really pissed in my Wheaties…lol…and constructively let me know my weak areas and gave me the feedback I needed and the space to grow into that feedback outcome.

The feedback sometimes was rough to hear, but if I had not gotten it because my leader was a chicken or in a role they really should not have been in, I would have continued to walk around with blind spots and fail to grow as much as I could.

There are managers and then there are leaders.?

Many managers think they are good leaders, but when you start going through the tenets of leadership, you will find they lack in many areas, including feedback, accountability, and recognition.?

Leaders should Inspire!

Recently, Jerome Bettis made a post sharing his appreciation of Former Pittsburgh Steelers Coach Bill Cowher, sharing "Coach Bill Cowher was exactly the type of coach I needed to succeed."

You can read his post here

Employees want a leader that can get them to the next level, keep the team synergized, Actively communicate and actively listens, pumps them up, and leads by example.?Don’t get on an employee about being late, if you are always late. Nobody wants a do as I say, but not as I do manager. Set the example!

As a leader, Don’t complain that your employees are not good if you never give constructive feedback or recognition, why would anyone give you 110% for no reason? Maybe you are not as good of a leader as you think.

You wanna break records and do the impossible? Inspire your team to do it.?

Get in the trenches with them!

Show them how to do it and then let them do it. Allow them room to fail and do not smash an ant with a hammer when they fail.?Review the decision and the process that led to the failure and give feedback on how to avoid that in the future, while also pointing out the specific things they did well.?

Just like Bill Cowher did for Jerome Bettis and the entire Pittsburgh Steelers team.?

It was awesome watching that team excel when I was growing up!?

And it is no surprise why they were effective…They had the Leader and Coach they needed!

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