Clear Limiting Beliefs and Transform your Life

"If you learn how to change your beliefs, you can change any aspect of your life. Childhood wounds and trauma can be cleared from the psyche permanently. This is because you HAVE beliefs, but you ARE NOT your beliefs. You are much more magnificent than you can imagine."

Hi Everyone and welcome to The Rise Movement, today I am excited to share our conversation with Lion Goodman, a professional certified transformational coach, author, and teacher. He developed the Clear Beliefs Method for permanently deleting limiting beliefs and healing core wounds from the psyche. More than 500 coaches, therapists and healers from around the world have graduated from his Clear Belief Coach Training. Accredited by the International Coach Federation.

Lion, how did you ended up doing what you’re doing?

Thank you Nunaisi Ma. When I was a kid, I thought there was something really wrong with me. I was different to everybody else. So I watched other kids trying to figure out why are they doing what they do, and how do they have friends, and what does it mean to be a friend? I was kind of a loner and so I spent a lot of time watching other people. Because I thought that there must be something wrong with me, I started looking for ways to fix myself. That sent me on a long journey of self-development.

I was starting in junior high school, when I found books on psychic phenomenon, ESP, and I began practicing ESP with my girlfriend at the time, I was 13. We practiced psychic projection and telepathy, and psychokinesis. I never made anything move with my mind, but I got quite good at reading people. Then I studied with many, many teachers from that point forward, over 100 workshops and trainings. Just for the pure joy of learning about myself and trying to figure out who I am, what I’m doing here, what my purpose is, and how to be healthy, and how to be clear in my mind.

So, with all of that work, I finally realized, I know a lot about this, and I want to begin sharing it with other people. About 20 years ago, I began sharing what I knew with others, and it grew and grew, and now it’s a major worldwide institution teaching how to clear beliefs and?heal trauma.

What I found in my studies is that beliefs are actually the infrastructure of the human mind. They’re what the mind is made of, in the same way that the brain is made of neurons. It’s not just our vision, not just our ears, not just our sense of touch, but it’s all happening at once. Our ideas are happening, and our feelings are happening at once. We are multi-dimensional beings and we’re having multi-dimensional experiences. So a belief is a conclusion that we’ve come to from our experience that also has to be multi-dimensional. Instead of it just being a mental construct, it’s mental, emotional, physical, spiritual, it includes all of our senses. It includes our connection to other people, and our connection to the world.

That’s what I’m talking about what when I refer to beliefs as the infrastructure, the patterns that we’ve grabbed on to as children in order to survive, and they worked, we survived, right? If we survived the patterns work. The problem is that they worked well for us as children, but they don’t work so well for us as adults. One example would be that a baby could come to the conclusion based on its experience, if I cry and make a fuss, I’ll get my needs cared for, and that’s a really good conclusion for a baby.

Belief System Software versus Human Operating System

The patterns that we accumulated through our childhood served us at one time, and we keep using them, because that’s how the mind works. It figures well if it worked then, it should work always, and it doesn’t make adjustments for our growing up or learning new things. And that’s why old patterns are so difficult to change, because people try all kinds of techniques for changing their beliefs, but they’re usually trying to change it at the mental level only, at the conscious level only, they haven’t involved the subconscious mind or the superconscious mind. You could say, well, I don’t like that belief anymore and it’s not true, so I’m going to believe something else, but the pattern is much deeper. We have to use a multi-dimensional experience to change the multi-dimensional conclusion or belief.

For me, the software is on top of what’s underneath, what’s underneath is the operating system. The beliefs are the human operating system and then the beliefs are the programs that get put on top of the operating system. how we operate in the world is based on those programs that we came to as children, and we’ve made adjustments for them as adults, but they’re still there, they don’t go away. You can fix a computer by adding more programs, but unless you go and find the bug in the operating system that’s causing the problem, it’s still going to appear over and over again.

I’ve tried many, many different methods of change, of personal change and consciousness change, and mind change, and most of them didn’t work very well, most of them were temporary or partial, and everybody’s had that experience. I would say affirmations for a while, and feel pretty good for 20 minutes or so, and then I’m back to my old process. Or I go to psychotherapy, I have a big realization, oh my god, it’s not my mother’s fault, that was one of mine. It was a fundamental change, it shifted me, but it didn’t cure me in any ways, I was still having the same problems. But that was a shift in the deep infrastructure, I didn’t have to blame my mother for everything anymore, I was quite young when that happened, it wasn’t last year.

Why my process works is because it’s based on this infrastructure principle, and we’re going down into the infrastructure to make changes, and when that happens the change is profound, and comprehensive, and permanent. It’s like suddenly you’re seeing the world differently, because our beliefs operate like lenses, we’re looking at the world through our beliefs. If you believe life is hard, then what you see is all the hard parts of life, if you believe life is joy, you’re seeing joy everywhere. The filter operates to let certain things in, keep other things out, like sunglasses. When you change your filter, that’s at the infrastructure level, then you’re seeing a different world, you see new possibilities, and the old patterns disappear.

The belief structure is ancient, we look at our deep history of human beings, and we’ve learned that listening to our elders and our betters is a good idea because we’ll survive more. So, we actually want that programming and our parents want us to have their programming because they survived with it, so they figure we will, even though the times changed, the place changes, history changes, but that’s the initial desires, I want to program you so that you survive.

Pick a belief system or topic such as sexuality for example, what you can do to begin to excavate your beliefs is, you have a piece of paper or a computer page open, and you say, “What do I believe about sex? Something I believe about sex is…”, and then you let your mind speak, “Sex is dirty. Oh, okay, well, I didn’t know I had that one, but it’s what came up.”, and then you say it again, “Another thing I believe about sex is… sex is wonderful.”, so then you write that down, “Another thing I believe about sex is… it’s hard to get.”, okay, you write that down, and so you just keep asking that question over and over again, and the subconscious mind goes, “Oh, here’s another one, here’s another one, here’s another one.”.

And people usually get 40 or 50, or sometimes 100 different beliefs in this very simple process, and then you look at the list and go, “Wow, I had no idea that that was in my mind.”. Why? Because we get programming from our media, and we get programming from TV and commercials, and from our friends that talked about it, and our parents, and our relatives, and the experiences we had. So, we have 10s of 1000s of beliefs, and we don’t have to clear all of them because some beliefs are really helpful, like look both ways before you cross the street, that’s a good belief not only for children, but also for adults, right? If you don’t have that belief, you could get hit by a truck.

But some beliefs are problematic, they’re causing problems in our lives, and those are the ones that we need to work on to clear. If you clear the problematic beliefs out of the way, now you have an open space in front of you, new possibilities appear. If you are walking around with a belief, “Nobody’s gonna love me”, or “I’m unlovable”, it’s going to be really hard to see anyone who’s expressing love to you. So, if you clear that belief and you replace it with, “I am the most wonderful lovable being in the universe”, other people are going to perceive you differently, because we pick up the energies of each other all the time. And if somebody is walking around like this, you know, if they’re not very attractive, but when someone’s walking around like you, full of light and love, you know, we’re naturally attracted to people like that.

If you are walking around with a belief, “Nobody’s gonna love me”, or “I’m unlovable”, it’s going to be really hard to see anyone who’s expressing love to you.

The beginning step, is to discover what you have inside of you. Most people now, today, know that they have limiting beliefs and they know what some of them are, but the problem is that the true limitation is not at the verbal level and most techniques are working with verbal beliefs, “there’s something wrong with me”, so we have to go deeper than the words because the words are just at the conscious mental level, and they’re an abstraction, they’re not the actual feeling. So, all of my techniques work at the feeling level. Let's look at an example:

Close your eyes for a moment and feel what it feels like, I want everybody to do this. Feel what it feels like to hold the belief as if it’s true, “there’s something wrong with me”, I know you’ll have other beliefs that say that’s not true, but just see what it feels like if you believed it 100%, and tell me what that feels like to you.

Some people feel a heaviness, or they have a feeling of shame, or their head goes down, that’s often a very big block of feeling, some people have a feeling of withdrawing or running away. So, these are quite common feelings that are associated with that belief, the belief’s actually creating those feelings. So, beliefs and feelings are like this, they’re interwoven, okay, so take that one off, throw it away, and now close your eyes and feel what it feels like to hold the belief, “I am a sacred and worthy being”, what does that feel like?

Expansion and lightness is the most common experience of that particular belief, and everybody has a slightly different flavor of it, so our beliefs are creating these feelings and sensations in us, and in order to clear a belief, we have to clear it at the sensation and feeling level, not just the mental level. So that’s one of the principles, so almost all of our processes start with this feel what it feels like to hold that belief. So, if someone says, “I’m unlovable.”, the first step is okay, feel what it feels like to be unlovable because we’ve got to get into the somatic arena, because that’s a significant thing.

If somebody’s walking around with that belief, they’re feeling that thing all the time, it might be in the background, it might be subtle, but it’s there, so we have to experience what the belief is creating, because it’s creating not just feelings and sensations, but circumstances, and we have a history of that belief, now it’s impacted us, we have the future vision of what might be experienced with that belief, we have all the experiences related to that belief, so when we clear something out we need to clear it from all those arenas at once. And then when you do, then it’s really gone, and it doesn’t come back. So that’s the way to get a complete clearing of the belief, now, not as a mental construct, but as a multi-dimensional program.

There’s a whole process that I teach for doing the clearing, but I’ve given you the fundamental steps, the first steps to get into it, and then there’s a clearing process, we use the imaginal realm, because the brain doesn’t really know much of a difference between what’s happening on the inside in our imagination, and what’s happening on the outside. So, we take people through a process using their imagination to clear it from all of those parts of us, and to get rid of it completely, and we use metaphors to make that happen.

And then we also use a visual form, so we’re imagining things in our imagination, we’re seeing something visually, we’re experiencing it physically, we’re feeling it emotionally, and then when you clear it, it’s gone, and then in that clear space, you can then create a new belief, it’s like, if you’re going to plant a garden, you’re going to make a garden, the first thing you do is you need to clear the rocks and the weeds out of the soil before you start putting anything in it, because otherwise, you’re throwing seeds on rocky weedy ground and nothing much will grow.

That’s like affirmations, I’ll just keep putting seeds on top of my rocks and weeds, and maybe something will grow, right. That’s why you have to keep putting more seeds and more seeds, and more seeds, and say the affirmation over, and over, and over, again. Once you clear the ground, when you clear the old beliefs, then you have open ground, fertile soil, and then when you plant a new belief, it will naturally grow and blossom in your life. And you don’t need to do it over and over, and over again, you plant the seed and it takes shape, and it replaces that old belief, but it’s doing it at all the multi-dimensional levels that the old belief was stuck in. So that’s the principle.

Conflicting Beliefs & Parenthood

Conflicting beliefs are where most people get stuck. So for example, I want to lose weight and I want to eat chocolate cake, those two beliefs are in conflict with each other, and so that’s why people, you know, go on yo-yo diets, it’s like this part takes over for a while, and “I want to lose weight”, and then the other part takes over, “I want to be comfortable and eat sweet foods”, and so they bounce back and forth, or people can get stuck in, you know, “I can become a pianist, I can play the piano, and I don’t like practicing”, that’s going to cause people to finally give up because the conflict is always there, “I love you, I don’t like you”, that’s going to be a problem in a relationship.

Right and wrong are belief structures, good and bad are belief structures, and unfortunately, parents aren’t clear about the issue of when their child does something wrong, they say, “That’s bad.”, but the child hears it as “I’m bad”. They don’t go, “Oh, I did something that wasn’t acceptable.”.

Parents can really help their children by separating who they are from what they’ve done, like “That behavior is not acceptable, this is acceptable, I love you, you’re a wonderful being and don’t do this anymore.”. But children hear the bad as themselves and they blame themselves, they naturally say “I’m the cause of this problem.”, even kids who are being beaten or traumatized, will come to the conclusion “It’s my fault. I created this” because their little creator beings, right? So, they’d figure they’re the creator, they don’t know that the parents are screwed up. So those are some of the deep trauma beliefs that we need to clear down at the very deep infrastructure subconscious level.

I teach 12 different technologies in my training, the Core Beliefs Coach Training, because you never know which one’s going to be the best. So, some of them are somatically oriented, some are history-oriented, sure, another piece of it and that is that in psychology there’s this thing called memory reconsolidation. It’s a fairly new field, but they’ve figured out based on rat studies and brain studies, how memories are formed, and how to interrupt them. And so, in psychology when you’re doing memory reconsolidation, you’re going back into the past, unhooking, or de-consolidating memory, changing it, and then reconsolidating it.

And that’s what we do in a number of our processes, is that we go back into the memory, because memory is malleable, you know, we made it up, it’s our one perspective or one point of view, so we go back and we actually change what happened, change the experience, the multi-dimensional experience that occurred in the past, and give the person a new memory of what happened, and then they don’t have that bad thing anymore.

It’s now a good thing or a neutral thing, and so it’s not a drag on the system, they’re not pulling that horrible memory with them anymore. This is part of our trauma healing practice, they now have a different experience in the past, then I like to say it’s never too late to have a happy childhood, because we can actually go back and change what was unhappy, and the inner child is stuck in that place, the inner child who was traumatized, there’s a little piece of us stuck in that experience.

And this is shamanic healing, and what I teach is a form of shamanic healing, which is to go back and recover that piece of us that we left behind, that memory that got locked in with a trauma, we’re changing the memory, letting the trauma go. The trauma actually happened, we’re not changing the fact that it happened, but what we made of it, the conclusion that we came to, that’s the belief structure, that’s the meaning-making machine that we have in ourselves, that can be shifted. So, we’re changing implicit memory, not explicit memory, not what happened but what we made of what happened.

Memories are there, the experiences are there, the beliefs are there, you know, we can create beliefs in the womb. So, if our mother is traumatized, war, poverty, violent husband, you know, whatever, we’re inside her, she’s feeling fear, her fear hormones are going right through the placenta into us, we’re bathing in her fear, we’re experiencing what she experiences and we could come to the conclusion even while in the womb the world’s not safe. So, it’s not verbal, of course, it’s because we don’t have words, but it’s a experiential conclusion that can come even in the woman.

Ancient Memories, Enlightened Future

We often work with memories that come from the womb, we go back even further, we work with memories from past lives. It’s like there’s multi-generations of trauma, we can work with anything that shows up. You don’t have to believe in past lives to work with them when they show up, you just treat them as oh, there’s just another memory in the system, so, you know, if you believe in reincarnation, or you don’t, most of the world does, but you don’t have to believe in it to know how to work with it when it comes up, and in our work, it comes up quite often.

And so, when you try to convince someone who’s fixed in their beliefs, that their beliefs are wrong, or not valid, they dig in deeper, and they have to make you more wrong for what you believe. And this is why we have fundamentalism, this is why we have wars, you know, we could go on talk about that for a long time.

I work with people who want to change and so the technology is what works. I don’t have to convince them to change, I just say, “What’s in your way? What’s the core essence of the belief, you know, at the multi-dimensional experiential level? Do you want to let it go?”, we always give people a choice, “Are you ready to let this go?”, if the answer is yes we can clear it, if the answer is no we find a different way around it, but it’s always the client’s choice. We’re not imposing beliefs on anyone, because that would be just more indoctrination, we’ve had enough of that.

We don’t indoctrinate people, we just offer them the opportunity to be free of what the past is, and then we ask them, “What would you prefer to believe?”, we don’t give them new beliefs, we ask them to create their own new beliefs and that’s respectful, it gives them their will and their power, and also their creative ability because they know who they want to be. So, the belief that they come up with that they want to create instead to replace the old one, it’s almost always quite wonderful. We work with them to optimize it, but it’s usually something that brings them into their true self, their true light, and their true beingness.

I work with a lot of people with narcissism, narcissistic traits, not NPD, not the psychopathy, but a lot of us have narcissistic traits, especially men, and are trained to be narcissists, right? Like, “hey, you’re the most important person”, we got programmed to be narcissistic by our parents, “Look at little Johnny, he’s so self-sufficient, isn’t that wonderful?”, well, the fact is, is that little Johnny who’s self-sufficient has attachment trauma, like he’s taking care of himself because he wasn’t taken care of by his parents, and so we’re going back to those early traumatic events and circumstances.

Sometimes trauma is just attachment trauma or developmental trauma, you weren’t beaten, but you weren’t cared for the way a child needs to be cared for, you were neglected or abandoned, or you’re left on your own. So, there’s a lot going on in the human psyche and we go as deep as we can, finding the source material, and so developmental trauma has many, many different experiences. Like I’ll use myself as an example, my mother was a good mechanical mother, she provided food and changed our diapers, but she wasn’t connected, connecting, because she didn’t have that connection with herself, so she couldn’t connect with us as children.

So, I felt like an object more than like a person which left me bereft, I was, you know, it’s like, what am I? What am I? Chopped liver? That’s a question we ask ourselves, and so that was a developmental trauma, it didn’t come out of being beaten or anything, but it came out of many experiences, not being attuned to, by my mother who was supposed to attune to me and know who I was, see me for who I am. Which is what set me off on the developmental path, of “I got to find out who I am”, because I don’t have that, you know, essential knowledge and wisdom from childhood.

I call this therapeutic coaching or trauma-informed therapeutic coaching. Coaches are not supposed to do therapy because we’re not trained as therapists, and so the coaching industry itself says, “Well, we don’t work with the past, we only work with the present and the future.”, and this is according to the International Coaching Federation, and many other coaching organizations, and this is the way coaches separated themselves from psychotherapists, and also separated themselves from government control.

And that’s what you need to help people heal, you need to have this comprehensive understanding, and we don’t work with people with diagnosed psychopathy, that’s not what we do. But most people, 60% of people, have had trauma in their lifetimes, according to the ACE study, Adverse Childhood Experiences study. We think it’s probably much more than that, more like 95%, in my experience.

I have an eBook called How to Clear Your Clients’ Limiting Beliefs, it’s dedicated toward coaches, therapists and healers, but it has all the basic information for people who just want to learn to heal themselves, and I’d be happy to give it for free.

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