Choose 2-3 of these 15 things to initiate each week to improve your life during Covid-19

This COVID-19 crisis has radically changed our lives. Just a few months ago, we had no idea our 'world' would be confined to our homes.

This crisis is a powerful reminder of how important freedom is - and how much we need human connection! 

Remember you are not alone. Because what is DIFFERENT here is that everyone is impacted! Your neighbour, mum, boss and friends as well as your counterparts around the world are all going through something similar.

So, it's important to remember:

“The story you tell yourself nearly above anything else determines the quality of your life”

This is the challenge each of us must rise to! If we're going to be stuck at home, we may as well make the most of it.

Here Are 15 Things You Can do to Make Your Life Better while Physically Isolated:

1) Create a Healthy, Supportive Routine

When we feel powerless or helpless (as so many of us do at the moment), one EXTREMELY easy thing to do is to create a routine or schedule.

While we're all stuck in anxiously waiting at home, it's easy to lose our sense of time. Days can begin to blend into each other. A routine can give us an anchor and greater sense of control over our lives. And if you have children, creating a routine is especially important to give them a sense of normality.

This routine or schedule can be as simple as:

• 7am - Wake-up
• 8am - Breakfast
• 10am - Exercise
• 11am - Connect with family/friends
• 12.00pm - Lunch
• 1-4pm - Learning or a home project
• 5pm - Make & Eat Dinner
• 7pm - Connect with family/friends
• 8pm - Reading, Journaling, Self-care
• 10pm - Bed

Be sure to include food preparation, social time, exercise and outdoor time and some learning or creativity so you get some benefit from this challenging time. Perhaps you are working from home? You can create your own schedule to your needs.

It's also important to recognise weekends because it's too easy for weeks to blur together. So, make a looser schedule for your weekends. For example, you could include:

• Sleeping in/later bedtime
• Brunch
• "Treats"
• Movie night with popcorn
• A virtual happy hour with friends or colleagues
• A larger project, perhaps some art, craft, gardening or home redecoration.

So, create a routine for a sense of control and mastery over your environment and life circumstances. Reclaim what power you can over your own life, because with all this uncertainty it's important for you - and especially important for children - to have predictability.

2) Build Your Physical Strength, Fitness Levels or Flexibility!

Building your physical strength is powerful and health-boosting! Not only is physical strength and flexibility life-affirming and good for our health, but feeling more physically powerful actually helps us feel more empowered and less helpless in life too!

So add some physical activity into your schedule - as little as 15 minutes daily. Maybe by the end of this you'll be fitter or even be able to do 10 (or 100!) push-ups!

There are many options to boost your physical strength and health. Here are some ideas:

• Take up a yoga practice - excellent for strength-building, flexibility - and calm! There are lots of online options. Here is one with everything from 10 minutes for beginners to an advanced practice. Sarah Beth Yoga on Youtube has more (free) yoga videos than I can count
• Learn do a push-up. Then see if you can get to 10 (or more - depending on where you start)!
• There are so many online fitness classes on Youtube - for beginners, experts - with equipment and also with no equipment whatsoever. PopSugar Fitness has many options to choose from.
• Home Workout!

Time yourself and do this twice a week for three weeks to see your improvements.

After you do a warm up (I do 15 minutes of yoga to get my body warm).

3 rounds for time.

50 x squats

40 x sit ups

30 x lunges (plyometric lunges if you dare)

20 x push ups

10 x burpees

REMEMBER: BEing stronger = FEELING stronger and more in control! And building your PHYSICAL strength or fitness = REDUCED feelings of helplessness!

3) Learn with Non-Fiction Books:

Use this time at home to educate yourself with non-fiction books. There is so much to be gained - like self-confidence, negotiation skills, health (sleep, nutrition), how to have difficult conversations and much more.

What keeps you up at night? There's probably a book about that! What do you wish you were better at? There's probably a book about that too!

Here are some book ideas to get you thinking:

• Be more productive & upskill yourself with “The Power Of Habit” by Charles Duhigg or “High Performance Habits” by Brendan Burchard or “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” by Stephen R. Covey
• Think (or rethink?) who you are with books like “Breaking The Habit Of Being Yourself” and “Evolve Your Brain” by Dr Joe Dispenza or “The Power Of Vulnerability” by Dr Brene Brown or “The Art of Thinking Clearly” by Rolf Dobelli or “Presence” by Amy Cuddy
• Get personally inspired with "Dare to Lead: Brave Work. Tough Conversations. Whole Hearts" and "The Gifts of Imperfection" by Brene Brown, or "Man's Search for Meaning" by Viktor E. Frankl and “The Twelve Rules for Life by Jordan B. Peterson.
• Learn about leadership & teams with “The Five Dysfunctions of A Team” by Patrick Lencioni or “Measure What Matters” by John Doerr or “Effective Communication” by Dalton Kehoe, or “Find Your Why” & “Leaders Eat Last” by Simon Sinek
• Learn about the human mind with “The Idiot Brian” by Dean Burnett or “Unthinkable” by Helen Thomson or “Subliminal” by Leonard Mlodinow
• Look into spirituality with “The Faith Agreement” & “Mastery of Self” by Don Miguel or “Archetypes” & “Sacred Contracts” by Caroline Myss or “The Art Of Living” by Thich Nhat Hahn or “Becoming Supernatural” or “You Are The Placebo” by Dr Joe Dispenza
• Get healthier with "Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams" by Matthew Walker PhD or “The Microbiome Solution” by Robynne Chutkan or “Rushing Womens Syndrome” by Dr Libby Weaver or “Gut” by Giulia Enders or “A Mindfulness Guide for the Frazzled” by Ruby Wax
• Sort Your Finances with “The Barefoot Investor” by Scott Pape or “Rich Dad, Poor Dad” by Robert T. Kiyosaki
• Be more influential with “Emotional Intelligence Mastery” & “Persuasion Mastery“ by Ryan James or “Key Person of Influence” by Daniel Priestley or “Influence” by Robert B. Cialdini or “The Charisma Myth” by Olivia Fox Cabane or “How to Win Friends & Influence People” by Dale Carnegie
• Be more confident and discover your strengths with "The Confidence Code: The Science and Art of Self-Assurance - What Women Should Know" by Katty Kay and Claire Shipman" or "Now, Discover Your Strengths (How to Develop Your Talents and Those of the People You Manage)" by Marcus Buckingham and Donald O. Clifton.
• Finally, read memoir! Choose someone you admire, get inspired and learn how other people think - and live their lives.

Reading one book will expand your mind, reading several of these books is going to make you more interesting, help you learn new skills - and maybe even make you more employable too!

4) Gain a New Skill with Online Learning:

There are so many opportunities online to gain a new skill and they're growing by the day!

Grow your personal or creative skills or choose a new skill to learn and take back to work with online training providers like Coursera or Udemy.

There are many other providers.

If there's a skill you always wanted to learn, search for it. But be sure to read the course descriptions thoroughly, check reviews if there are any - and check money-back guarantees as you need to!

And with so many learning options ranging from FREE to tens of dollars to the low hundreds of dollars, there will be something out there just perfect for you.

Find the perfect coach for you and work through some underlying things that have been holding you back. Is now the time you’re ready to drop all the baggage and move forward?

5) Explore your Life Vision:

Rather than watching endless news streams, you can choose to focus on a bigger picture - your future. What do you want from the rest of your life? What would you be disappointed you did NOT do? Where do you envision yourself in 10 years?

Having a clear vision of how you want your life to be is a powerful motivator. A vision helps us work towards our goals, take action and make change. Soon, we'll all be super-busy again - and a vision might be just what you need stay focused!

Here are 5 questions to ponder or journal around to go deeper:

• What do you desire or yearn for in your life?
• How do you want to feel?
• What do you really, really want to be different in your life?
• What would have happened in 3 years time such that your life is spectacular and you feel magnificent about yourself?
• What's your dream for this lifetime? Imagine you're 90 years old and looking back over your life; what did you do that made you proud and happy?

TIP: Remember to think possibility not probability! Don't limit yourself and your ideas because you don't believe something is likely. Instead believe it's possible - and even if you don't get all the way there, you may get close - or even find something better along the way!

I am happy to help you with this and invite you to a free “Assess Your Life” session where we can uncover what is really going on for you and see where you’d really like to be. https://calendly.com/corporatecoaching/initial-consult

Lastly, if you like guided meditation, you can meet yourself 20 years from now in this "Still Lake" Guided Meditation

6) Be in the moment:

In THIS moment you are OK. You are safe. Take one day at a time. One hour or even one breath at a time if you need to.

This tip is about being super-present, not thinking ahead or remembering the past, but practicing BEING.

This is a PRACTICE - meaning you will have to do it over and over again - bringing yourself back to the NOW. Over time it gets easier, and it's a great skill to have to take back to "normal" life.

So when you notice you're worrying, feeling twitchy and want to pick up your device and find out what the "latest" is about the COVID situation, say to yourself, "It's OK. In this moment, I am safe. In this moment I am OK." You can also add or say, "In this moment, my children/husband/family are safe."

EXTRA TIP: Reduce or minimise how often you watch and read the news! And DON'T read or watch the news (or articles about COVID-19 or similar) just before bed!

Another way to stay present is to start your days phone free. You can download your “Start Your Day Phone Free” Ebook straight from my website. www.freedomiswithin.com.au

7) Actually Laugh Out Loud !

Laughter releases helpful chemicals in our bloodstream - Endorphins (our natural "happy" drug) and Dopamine (part of our bodily "reward" system).

• What are your favourite comedy shows?
• Is there a comedian you like?
• Netflix and similar have so many watching options, so find something that makes you laugh!
• Always a favourite of mine, just google ‘funny cats’

IMPORTANT: We should NOT use over-use laughter as a distraction technique. And it shouldn't be used for ongoing and persistent fears in regular life. But for a situation like this, where this isn't much that any of us can do other than sit and wait - distraction can be a great coping mechanism.

8) Start a Journal!

If you've always wanted to journal, now is a good time to start. More than just keeping a record of your day, a journal can help you explore and sift through your feelings and experiences and learn from them. It's a great way to get to know you.

It's great to choose a beautiful notebook, but the most important thing is to just get started. Here are some prompts to get started with:

• Today I am feeling _________. I think this is because __________.
• One big thing I have learned during this crisis is _________.
• I remember the last time I was stuck in the house _________.
• One thing that's surprised me recently is _________.
• What matters most to me in life is _________.
• Describe your ideal day _________.

"A journal is expressive by nature and it contains feelings, emotions, problems, ponderings and it is more reflective on the meaning of life being lived." Lynda Monk

You may find this How to Journal article from the IAJW (International Association for Journal Writing) helpful to get you started.

9) Be Kind!

Kindness and compassion are one of the most powerful tools any of us have in our toolbox right now. Many of us are largely housebound, never mind the fear that you or a loved on might actually catch the COVID virus! So, of course we're going to feel unpleasant and weird.

• Use kindness to comfort yourself when afraid or feeling anxious or fidgety. Be gentle. Imagine you're soothing a friend, small child or animal who is afraid - what would you say to them? Then say that to yourself!
• Use kindness to give yourself - and others - the benefit or the doubt. Instead of getting upset when you see other people behaving badly, remember that we all do silly things when we're scared
• Imagine you have a kind, wise self. A part of you that is unflappable, intelligent and unconditionally loves ALL of you. Now, when you need it, imagine that kind, wise self is with you, supporting you, maybe giving you a hug - and saying exactly what you need to hear (not just the sugary stuff, but also the tough love and common sense)

10) Help Others

Helping others is empowering and makes us feel better. Here are a few ways you could help others.

• Check in on a neighbour or friend and see if they need anything. You can do this by phone, or in person, remembering to maintain social distancing
• Offer to get someone groceries if you're going
• Help someone less technically savvy learn how to use Zoom or WhatsApp or whatever they need to get online
• Host a virtual get-together with your regular friends
• Reconnect more deeply with friends or relatives who have moved away

Feel free to share what you have been doing to inspire others to help those in need.

11) Live Your Values

When we know your values, we understand what motivates and drives us. When we build our lives around our values, we create a life that is meaningful. Finally, when we align our actions with our values - we're being truly authentic. It's a very satisfying and fulfilling way to live.

And living your values could be the single most important thing any of us can do right now.

Here's an exercise you can do:

• List your values on a piece of paper or in your journal.
• Give each value a score ___ / 10 as to how well you are living that value in your life now (where 0 is not at all and 10 is full-out).
• For the scores that are 8 or more - great!
• For the scores that are 7 or less out of 10, ask yourself, "How could I express this value more in my life right now?" "What could I do differently or approach differently, so that I feel good about how I live this value in my life?"

For example: You have a value of creativity, but you're only managing to 'go through the motions' right now and your score is 4/10. Ask yourself how you could be more creative during this time - whether it's cooking, gardening, art or writing or helping your kids do something creative, or even watching a documentary about someone creative you admire...

If you would like help identifying your values I would love to offer you an “Assess Your Life” session to work these out https://calendly.com/corporatecoaching/initial-consult

12) De-Clutter

I bet you have some organisational things on your to-do list (like going through summer clothes, sorting out toys to donate or tidying the laundry cupboard, garage or shed) that have been on there for a while. Use this isolation period to get them done!

Getting organised and de-cluttering allows us to exert some control over our lives - and therefore feel less helpless! Plus it'll feel amazing just to have it done.

Organise your cupboards, your garage, your books, your photos, office, kitchen equipment. Whatever needs organising. Or perhaps you need to go through your receipts or file your taxes!

• If you need some inspiration (and great clothes-folding tips) you could watch the Marie Kondo series on Netflix!

A simple 3 Step Method to go through your stuff:

1. If you're keeping it, be sure to DECIDE where it will "live" from now on.
2. If you're not keeping it, create two piles:

• Things to DUMP
• Things to DONATE (and if relevant to pass on to specific people).

1. When you're done, put each pile into bags or boxes, and then once this crisis is over you can get rid of what you no longer need.

• TIP: You don't need to do any of this 'in one sitting', do an hour a day - you'll be surprised how much you get done if you keep it up for a week!

13) Grow Something - Or Get an Indoor Flowering Plant!

There is nothing quite like growing something - whether it's flowers, fruits or vegetables that makes us feel good! Even if you live in an apartment and you could grow fresh herbs on your windowsill or balcony to cook with!

• Get some seeds, (a pot and some soil if needed) and get started.
• Many plant nurseries are still open, or you could order seeds etc. online.
• Follow the instructions - and remember to water it!

If growing something is just too much work, get yourself a spring bulb or succulent (cacti) planter, or you could get an indoor plant like a Spathiphyllum* (Peace Lily) is good for cleaning the air of pollutants (and easy to take care of).

* Be aware that some plants are poisonous to pets - so please check.

14) Send "Real" Snail Mail Letters or Cards

Go old-fashioned. Who doesn't love to receive a lovely card or handwritten letter in the post box! Rediscover the lost art of letter-writing and make someone's day.

Yes, you could send an email appreciating someone, and that's great. But imagine your recipient's face as they pick up that hand-written card in the mailbox.

Wondering what to say? Write from the heart! Here are some ideas to get started:

• I really appreciate having you in my life because ________.
• I love hanging out with you when we ________.
• I've realised that you bring ________ to my life.

15) Begin a Meditation Practice

Meditation is a practice that has been proven scientifically to calm us, help us be more creative and be happier (for starters). It's extremely beneficial.

There is a lot to learn about meditation - and it's called a Meditation Practice for a reason. But it's also not as hard as it sounds. You can start with as little as 5 minutes a day - and it's good to build a routine, so you meditate at the same time every day. Get a book on "Meditation for Beginners" or go to Youtube or Google and search for "How to Meditate". Another good place to start is "Metta" or "Loving Kindness" meditation. Again, search online and you'll have lots of options to choose from.

It helps to have a quiet space without interruptions - which many of us don't have at the moment. And for some people, trying to meditate when anxious can be stressful. If this is the case, listen to a relaxing guided meditation instead.

Here is a great one for the morning or early afternoon. https://insig.ht/OlTC83IEI5

Another idea is to listen to a sleep meditation or "Body Scan Meditation" before going to sleep.

Wrap-up

Which of these resonates with you enough to try? Could you choose two things this week to give focus to?

When you believe you have the power to tackle this situation you will! Choose to make the best of a difficult situation. This current and strange COVID-19 situation will end. And when it does, you'll be proud you made the effort to learn something - whether it's about yourself, fresh knowledge, a new skill - and who knows what else!

Book yourself a free session with me here: https://calendly.com/corporatecoaching/initial-consult