Children who can't express feelings may grow into adults who...

Dear Parents,

As we navigate the intricate journey of parenthood, it's crucial to recognize the profound impact our actions and reactions can have on our children's emotional development. Today, we delve into the delicate topic of how our children's ability to express their feelings—or lack thereof—can shape their future selves.

1. Over-Apologizing and Oversharing: Have you noticed your child constantly saying sorry, even for the smallest things? Or perhaps they tend to share too much personal information in an attempt to connect with others? These behaviors can stem from a desire for validation and connection, but they can also indicate a deeper struggle with expressing emotions.

2. Viewing Emotions as Weakness: If your child sees expressing emotions as a weakness, they may be mirroring what they've observed at home. As parents, it's essential to create a safe space where all emotions are welcomed and validated, teaching our children that vulnerability is a strength, not a weakness.

3. Ignoring Feelings and Pretending They Don't Exist: Children who learn to ignore their feelings may grow into adults who struggle to recognize and address their emotional needs. Encouraging open communication and active listening can help our children feel seen and heard, fostering emotional intelligence from a young age.

4. Fear of Speaking Up: Does your child hesitate to speak up about things that bother them? This fear may stem from a fear of judgment or rejection. By validating their feelings and teaching them assertiveness skills, we empower our children to advocate for themselves in healthy ways.

5. Struggle to Ask for Help and Support: Asking for help can be challenging for some children, especially if they feel ashamed or embarrassed. By modeling vulnerability and seeking support when needed, we show our children that it's okay to ask for help and that they don't have to navigate life's challenges alone.

6. Finding It Overwhelming to Deal with Others' Feelings: Children who find it overwhelming to deal with others' feelings may struggle to navigate social interactions and build meaningful connections. Teaching empathy and emotional regulation can help them navigate complex social situations with confidence and compassion.

7. Dismissing Their Own Need for Validation or Support: When children dismiss their own need for validation or support, they may internalize the belief that their feelings don't matter. By actively validating their experiences and emotions, we help our children develop a strong sense of self-worth and resilience.

8. Believing That Their Feelings Don't Matter: Ultimately, children who believe that their feelings don't matter may struggle with self-esteem and self-expression. As parents, we have the power to shape our children's beliefs about themselves and their emotions. By consistently affirming their feelings and experiences, we lay the foundation for a future filled with confidence and emotional resilience.

Remember, mistakes are an essential part of the learning process. Instead of striving for perfection, focus on creating a nurturing environment where your child feels safe to express themselves and learn from their experiences. Together, we can empower our children to embrace their emotions, navigate life's challenges, and thrive in an ever-changing world.

With warmth and encouragement,

Anita Soni

Founder and CEO -COGNITION (Unleash your true potential )