Cheer up, I am always with you
Kishore Shintre
#newdaynewchapter is a Blog narrative started on March 1, 2021 co-founded by Kishore Shintre & Sonia Bedi, to write a new chapter everyday for making "Life" and not just making a "living"
A kind word from a stranger can change a life in wonderful ways. There are several ways you can approach them: Find something nice or good about them and give them a sincere compliment. Ask them if they can help you with something that you know they are good at. Invite them to participate in an activity you enjoy. Ask them what they enjoy and ask if you can participate with them. There are countless other ways you can do this, and hopefully, you will. You are to be commended for being so kind and reaching out to a fellow student.
You don’t know him well. What makes you think that? Maybe he’s just introverted and prefers not to talk to you or anyone. Why don’t you talk to him? Not with a bunch of people around. And listen to what he has to say. Maybe he’d really like a friend. Maybe he really just wants to be left alone. Strangers on the internet can’t tell you which it is. Sometimes people have real issue that are upsetting and they may choose to talk to their family or good friends about this, or sort of muddle through.
You don’t know this person well, and trying to cheer someone up is actually precisely the worst thing ever. He is entitled to his feelings, and maybe he would talk to you about whatever is going on in his life, but probably not as you and he don’t know each other well.Respect others, and understand that sometimes there really are problems or events that will make them, or you, sad.
Maybe his sadness reflects your inner sadness. If this is the case, forget him by a while and find the cause of your sadness. Fill yourself with your own love and confidence. That maybe reflects on him. Or, you frankly want him to feel better, without second intentions. Then, just be with him. The only persona you can change is yourself. But being happy yourself can make other happy too… if you not put that intention. It just happen or no. No expectations.
Well first you could talk to him if you don't know him well doesn't mean you cant not talk to him) believe me talking to someone always helps. But just start a friendly conversation with him try to find out why is he so down don't make it that obvious search for a common topic so once u start getting to know him then you can cheer him up by doing something special for him and by saying that you are always there for that person
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Sometimes you can’t because you don’t know him well. And if he’s down, the last thing he needs is intrusion from a stranger. If you’re really interested, then become a friend, have a conversation. But depending on what is going on for him, this may be the worse time to initiate a new relationship. What is motivating you to do this? Are you interested in him romantically and you think he’s vulnerable? I agree with the other posters that say don’t bug him.
It’s not your job to do so. If he asks you to cheer him up, you could respond and say, “oaky I’ll try” but if he didn’t ask, it’s simply not your job. You could offer to help and maybe he’ll say Yes. But if not, I suggest you be you and he be who he is. This doesn’t perfectly apply, but it gives you a hint of “mind your own business” whether others intrude upon you, or you upon others in which case that guy might want to leave. Being a good friend holds space for that person gets to know them and love them and is interested in their wellbeing for greater good.
To help him, get to know him then he can open up to you and then you can go from there. The greatest of all gifts is to lift and help another, it is by caring and trying to feel and hold space for them you'll recognise the start of what they need. Well done for being a good friend. This will be the start of a beautiful friendship if you both try it. Then be natural and direct just like what i do sometimes…like hi there I am “__” nice to meet you at least that's a good start for me when someone starts that way to me it feels good..then if they response in a nice way then you can start talking just don't get too shy or else you there's nothing you can do
But of course who else will do it if you want to do it or help right…only you can control yourself to take actions…and if after you start initiating then for example he/she did not response well then i guest just live them alone you cant force someone to be nice to ypu after you did being nice to them its like you cant help everyone in this world not just you but maybe others can, in the right time, and its also for them to be willing to accept others help them. Cheers!
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