Checking Your Ego at the Door: A Lesson in Assumptions

Some time ago, I found myself in a conversation with my manager about taking on a new project. Initially, I was taken aback as I perceived the role to be beneath my skill set. Without hesitation, I expressed my concerns, framing my response in a way that might have come across as harsh. I questioned why I was being assigned to what I perceived as a more junior role, feeling frustrated and assuming it was a form of punishment. In my mind, I considered myself a top performer and strategic thinker, and this assignment didn't align with my expectations.

It turned out that my manager had a different perspective. He needed someone senior who could serve as a strategic partner without needing constant oversight. However, this wasn't communicated clearly initially, leading to misunderstandings on both sides. He assumed I was looking down on the role, while I assumed he didn't appreciate my skills.

I received valuable feedback from my manager, who expressed concerns about how my frustration might affect my interactions with clients. This prompted me to reflect deeply and set my ego and frustrations aside. I realized that while my manager could have communicated better, I also could have asked more questions to understand his reasoning.

This experience reminded me of the importance of curiosity over assumptions. Despite priding myself on asking questions, I failed to do so effectively in this situation. Instead, I created a narrative based on assumptions and sought evidence to confirm my beliefs.

Have you ever found yourself in a similar situation? How might we approach such scenarios differently, fostering curiosity and open communication rather than jumping to conclusions? Let's explore together.

Coaching Tip:

• Explain the Why: When assigning a new project or task, always communicate the purpose behind it. Highlight the unique skills and insights the individual brings to the table. What makes them valuable to the project?
• ·?????? Remain Curious: As an employee, don't hesitate to ask your manager why you were chosen for a specific project. Seek clarity on how you can contribute and what unique skills you can leverage.
• ·????? Reframe the Situation: If faced with uncertainty or hesitation about a project, take the initiative to reframe the situation. Look for the positive aspects and opportunities for personal and professional growth. How can you shift your perspective to embrace the challenge?

Effective leadership and employee engagement thrive on clear communication and a mindset of curiosity and reframing challenges positively. I hope these tips help and that you’re able to navigate the conversation a little easier.