Checking In: What We Can Learn from Elmo's "Are You OK?"

In today’s fast-paced world, it’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and overlook the simple yet powerful act of checking in on those around us. Whether it’s through the Buddy Checks conducted by organizations like The American Legion or through beloved characters like Elmo reaching out with a message of empathy, the act of asking, “How are you doing?” has become more vital than ever.

Back in February, Elmo, the iconic red Muppet, shared an important reminder that resonates deeply in our current times. “It’s important to remember that we all have a lot of feelings, and that’s OK,” Elmo said. He encouraged everyone to recognize their emotions and not shy away from them. “If you’re feeling sad or worried or confused, then you have to talk to someone that you love and trust, and it’s good to talk about it.”

Elmo’s message wasn’t just for children—it was a universal call to action. In a world where struggles, whether personal, professional, or societal, are a common experience, the simple question, “Are you OK?” can make all the difference. It’s a question that shows empathy, opens a door to communication, and can even save lives. More people need to ask it, and when they do, they need to be ready to listen—really listen.

This idea is echoed in The American Legion’s Buddy Check program, which encourages veterans to reach out to their fellow service members to see how they’re doing. The purpose of Buddy Checks is to reconnect, support each other, and ensure that no one feels alone. By asking simple questions and listening, veterans can help their comrades navigate challenges, whether they’re related to mental health, employment, or just the everyday struggles of life.

Listening with empathy means creating a safe space for someone to express their feelings without fear of judgment. It means being present, offering support, and recognizing that sometimes, just being there is enough. In some cases, this simple act of connection can be the first step toward helping someone find the support they need, whether it’s assistance in finding a job, coping with stress, or simply celebrating the small wins that often go unnoticed.

But the process doesn’t stop at asking the question. It’s crucial to follow through with action. If someone shares that they’re struggling, offer help. If they’re celebrating, join in their joy. Being an empathetic listener is about more than just hearing words—it’s about being a proactive part of someone’s support system.

In today’s world, where so many are struggling silently, it’s up to each of us to reach out and make that connection. So, take a moment today to check in on a friend, a family member, or even a colleague. Ask the question, “Are you OK?”—and be ready to listen, support, and act. Because sometimes, the simple act of asking can make all the difference.