Chasing Peace Is A Race We Will Never Win!

I’ve been reflecting on a recent conversation where I asked a businessman--a friend-- what he wanted in his life. Emotionally he struggled to answer but described his life as being on a chase of something while traveling with unwanted feelings of emptiness, stuck, uneasy, and void of deep meaningful relationships.

I could relate to his feelings as I reflected on my own years of deep struggle with bankruptcy, relationship issues with children, health problems, my father’s depression/anxiety, and expectations that seemed to fall empty-handed back into my life.

My experience has been that when we have a disagreement with life (lack of peace), it's often because of habits of thinking, (subconscious noise) that suck us into an emotional chase of the unrealistic-schedules, goals, deadlines, resources, perfection, controlling outcomes, controlling people; and when we chase peace, it can feel just beyond our grasp-a mirage, never crossing a finish line.

If you are chasing-You may feel lost!

It strikes me that peace/joy is not an unrealistic expectation, but behaves as an unrealistic expectation if it is seen as a destination. It doesn't end with peace, it starts there.

You see, we don't arrive at peace by chasing the external; the raise, a better home, the completion of a project--it's not a one-time destination. it's discovered and experienced on an imperfect journey with us, who are imperfect people.

My observation is that we live in a world full of constant loud distracting stimuli driven by agendas to pull us out of focus-distracted out of peace while projecting itself as the answer to finding peace. That is unrealistic!

Our job is to live peaceful lives in all that stimulation. When we are authentic, clear on expectations, and focused on people/service, and action, we connect with ourselves, we connect with people, and we connect with peace.

Authenticity is difficult to get to—in part because we’re very good at lying to ourselves—therefore, my key to getting authentic is to ask a question of alignment—am I thinking of others or am I thinking of myself? If I’m thinking of others, I’m in alignment with God/Universe and my understanding of service—and if I’m thinking of myself, I’m creating distraction.

I want to be engaged with my mind. Not distracted by my mind.

When I told my friend that the most important gift that I discovered through all my struggles, was how to live in peace, he suddenly became clear, sat up, and said, “That is what I want, Peace!

If it would benefit you to explore where peace is eluding you and how to connect and live in peace in your life, family, and business, please DM me, I’d be happy to connect and chat.

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