Chapter One: Yes, Eating and Exercise ARE Different From Other Behaviors – and So Are the Ways We Change Them

Welcome to my monthly newsletter. I hope you join me on this journey through what it means to make positive, sustainable changes to our eating and exercise behaviors and self-care more generally, even when our plans are continually being upended and other responsibilities call loudly.?

This monthly newsletter will be relevant to you as an individual, and will also give you solutions to create sustainable self-care behaviors in the work you do with the people across healthcare, organizational, and fitness context. I’m going to share cutting-edge science and practices that turn the outdated behavior change story on its head.?

We so easily – and often, and over and over – decide to make changes in our eating and exercise behavior as if this is as simple as developing a flossing habit. But it’s not.

Despite the fact that many change experts toss them together with other types of behaviors, eating and exercise are in a class of their own when it comes to behavior change – and for a very important reason: In our society, both behaviors are inextricably tied to losing weight. This infuses goals to eat better and exercise more with any number of negative and complicated experiences and associations that our life history has firmly planted in our memories, minds, and bodies. This long list may include powerful emotions like angst, shame, stress, fear, anger, and rebellion . . . Cut out sweets? Run after work? Aack!

Here’s a thought experiment: Consider how you might feel about deciding to get more sleep or trying to meditate. These behavioral aspirations may give you a twinge of excitement or trepidation, but do they hold the same deep emotional charge for you as thinking about cutting out high-calorie desserts or exercising? Most people tell me no.

Now, in addition, think about how healthy eating and exercise plans are affected on an almost daily basis by unanticipated changes in your real-life responsibilities. That's right, we need some different thinking here.

Eating and exercise are in a "change" class of their own because of the cultural influences, heightened emotional meanings, and high-maintenance logistical needs they have. Yet – and this is important – we can't lump them together: They are very different behaviors with their own distinct change needs.

I am very excited that new theories just about exercise and just about eating are coming to the forefront of science as scholars create new ways for us to understand them through the complexities related to culture, bodily experiences, and how our brain functions. We can better adopt healthier eating and regular physical activity in sustainable ways if our mindset and strategies are designed out of the science that really "gets" their unique and distinct natures and needs.

In the next newsletter, I'll give you a quick peek into two emerging frameworks that offer us exciting insights we can use to rethink our approach to sustainably including more intentional eating and exercise in our busy lives.?

During the next two weeks, try to become aware of the thoughts and feelings that pop into your mind when you think about eating in healthier ways or exercising more. If you want, email me what you notice. (Whether you notice negatives or positives, I bet you'll discover that they map onto the two new frameworks we'll be exploring next time!)

Here’s the deal: If we don’t understand the most strategic ways to change a behavior based on the essential nuances of that actual behavior, our efforts can’t be as focused and successful as they have the potential to be. My blog will help you learn these nuances so you can not only become successful with creating changes that last - but actually enjoy the journey!?

Lastly, If you pre-order my new book, The Joy Choice (before April 26, 2022) you will be invited to participate in an exclusive, live four-session book club that I will host + you will receive the special workbook I designed to use during it. The book club will help both individuals in their own lives and professionals in their work helping others change their behavior in sustainable ways. The pre-order process is easy. Check it out!

Until then, stay safe and well.

Michelle?