The Chaos & Collision...

OH MY... I have had my share of chaos & collision in this adventure that's Midlife so far. That combined with the experiences of the humans I've been blessed to work with over the years and I found that we all tend to lean into one of these three categories when we haven't got our sh*t together!

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AKA, our nervous system, wellbeing and resilience is out of whack and we seek to soothe through fixing, fleeing or falling!

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I powerfully step into FIXING! And in all honestly have done since I was in my 20's (and maybe forever).

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With doing some real hard, deep and honest work on myself I realised that the punishing exercise schedules, mounting books of self development work and endless bookings of weekends away and adventure might just make me feel a little bit better, or fix the relationship issues (with myself and others) or create the life reimagined I desired…

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BUT, it didn't.

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The self development work, whilst ESSENTIAL, in my obsessional application became MORE of a stressor and stole away from my bucket of wellbeing.

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The exercise schedules, that were beyond ridiculous and completely ineffective, found me exhausted and in an endless battle of needing more to feel the highs.

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The weekends away and holidays, whilst incredible, became escapes from a reality that I wasn't ready or willing to face in my life; and ended up creating more divide rather than any form of fixing…

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So what can we do?

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How on earth do we get out of this cycle, especially if you are, like me a fixer who does heaps of self development work (we know that this is important right?).

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For me, it was all about foundational work first.

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Awareness, acceptance & grace of the reality - of how I was feeling, doing and being as a result of being in the chaos and collision without judgement or criticism.

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Creating space - by working on the wellbeing & resilience big 3 (Positive Food, Positive Move, Positive Mind) as a non negotiable, simple habit based must have daily practices.

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Finding SACRED self care - easy, simple rituals that were not more 'fixing, fleeing or falling!' that suited me as a human and created calm and ease in my trigger fest of a nervous system.

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And once this was in flow and I could think a little more clearly, and a little less coco loco - beginning the work on Midlife Re:Imagined (this is what I call emerging into SPRING in coaching) and working on what I wanted and therefore deliberately creating the feeling, doing and being of THAT…

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This is a big part of what underpins my work as a Holistic Coach and Consultant.

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Balanced & Blissed - Where the chaos & collision, become the catalysts for empowered change. Rather than the vehicles of impulsive crashing realities…

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Curious to explore yours?

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Book here ----> https://link.feacreate.com/widget/groups/balancedandblissed

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Love Katie xoxo

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