Changing the Narrative: How Reframing Can Redefine Your Journey

Change is inevitable. Whether it’s moving to a new city, starting at a new school, or joining a new organization, we all experience moments of uncertainty. Many of my colleagues have often asked me if I ever get stressed or angry—honestly, I sometimes wonder if they know something I don’t! The truth is, I’ve leaned on a simple habit called “reframing” for many years now. Reframing is a powerful tool that can carry us through the toughest times in our lives. It’s not about ignoring reality, but about shifting how we perceive it.

I’ve had to lean on the power of reframing many times in my life, especially when stepping into new roles or environments. There’s something incredibly human about feeling uncertain or overwhelmed when change hits. But what I’ve found is that how we frame those challenges—the stories we tell ourselves about them—can either hold us back or propel us forward.

When we join a new school or organization, it’s natural to feel out of place. We might struggle to find our footing, feel like we don’t belong, or even question if we’re capable. This is where reframing becomes essential. Instead of thinking, “I don’t fit in here,” we can reframe it to, “This is an opportunity to learn something new and grow.” Instead of asking, “Why is this happening to me?” we can ask, “What can I learn from this experience?”

Reframing helps us shift our thoughts and belief systems in a way that opens us up to possibility. It allows us to see new opportunities, forge deeper connections with those around us, and become more resilient in the face of adversity. And the ripple effect of this change doesn’t just impact us—it influences our environment and the people we interact with.

Imagine walking into a new school or workplace with a mindset that says, “I’m here to contribute something valuable, even if it feels uncomfortable at first.” That shift in perspective changes the energy we bring to interactions. It helps us approach situations with curiosity rather than fear. And when we do that, we invite others to do the same. We become a source of calm and encouragement for those around us.

Some of the toughest situations we might find ourselves in when we join a new school or organization can feel overwhelming. We might face misunderstandings, feel isolated, or find ourselves in a role that isn’t what we expected. These moments test our resilience. But they also present a powerful opportunity to reframe.

For example, let’s say you’re in a new position, and nothing seems to be going right. The temptation is to think, “I’m failing, I’m not cut out for this.” But what if we reframe that thought to, “This is just part of the learning curve, and every mistake is a chance to grow.” Suddenly, instead of feeling defeated, we feel empowered to keep trying.

Reframing doesn’t mean pretending that everything is perfect. It means acknowledging the challenge and choosing to view it through a lens of possibility rather than defeat. It’s about asking ourselves, “How can I see this situation in a way that allows me to move forward?” In doing so, we change the narrative, and we change how we respond to the situation.

The Steps to Reframing

So how do we actually reframe? What are the steps involved?

1. Recognize the Challenge

The first step is acknowledging that you’re facing a challenge. Whether it’s fear, doubt, or frustration, name it. This step is about being honest with yourself and not trying to hide from the reality of the situation.

2. Listen to the Story You’re Telling Yourself

Ask yourself, “What am I telling myself about this situation?” Often, we create narratives that are limiting or self-defeating. These stories can keep us stuck in patterns of negative thinking.

3. Ask the Right Questions

Once you’ve identified the story, ask yourself, “Is there another way to look at this? What opportunities or lessons could this challenge offer?” This shift in questioning is the key to reframing. It moves us from a place of fear to a place of curiosity and growth.

4. Choose a New Perspective

With this new awareness, choose a perspective that empowers you. This doesn’t mean ignoring the difficulty but choosing to see the possibility within it. For example, instead of focusing on what’s going wrong, focus on what you can learn and how you can grow from the experience.

5. Take Action from the New Perspective

Finally, act on this new perspective. Whether it’s reaching out for support, trying a new approach, or simply being kinder to yourself, use the reframed perspective to guide your actions. Over time, this practice builds resilience and optimism.

Reframing is necessary because it’s the key to navigating change and uncertainty with grace. Without it, we can easily get stuck in cycles of negativity and fear. But when we consciously reframe, we open ourselves up to growth, learning, and connection. It allows us to embrace the discomfort of change and transform it into an opportunity.

In moments of transition—whether it’s moving to a new city, stepping into a new role, or navigating personal challenges—reframing helps us stay grounded. It reminds us that we have agency in how we respond to situations. We may not be able to control what happens, but we can control how we see it.

At its core, reframing is about being human. It’s about accepting that challenges are part of life and that our mindset determines how we move through them. As I’ve navigated various roles and environments, reframing has become an essential part of my toolkit. It has allowed me to remain open, resilient, and compassionate toward myself and others.

The beauty of reframing is that it doesn’t just change how we see the world—it changes how the world sees us. When we approach challenges with curiosity and a willingness to grow, we inspire others to do the same. And in that shared human experience, we create environments where both individuals and communities can thrive.

So the next time you find yourself in a tough situation, take a moment to pause. Recognize the story you’re telling yourself and ask, “How can I reframe this?” You might be surprised at how much power there is in shifting your perspective.

Remember, life happens FOR you, and not TO you.