CHANGE THE WAY YOU THINK-THE DASH BETWEEN THE DATES ON YOUR TOMBSTONE SAYS IT ALL-THINK ABOUT IT.

CHANGE THE WAY YOU THINK-THE DASH BETWEEN THE DATES ON YOUR TOMBSTONE SAYS IT ALL.

(PREFACE-Over the past 72 hours, four friends, all very successful, well thought of by peers, had money, owned expensive houses, luxury autos, contacted me for advice. They had everything but peace of mind and time. Loss of -health, -a business, -a loved one attacked their sense of well- being and they were devastated. They were unable to cope. They were desperate. I found myself thinking, if only they had read my book. I sent each of them my book, and thought I would share my thoughts with you, as well, BEFORE life’s challenges happened to you or someone close to you. It may not help everyone now, but perhaps just one person out there, may need a ‘life-line”, and if this serves them, my humble efforts to assist by this missive was well worth my time.)

Frank Sinatra once told me, that the one with most toys-wins. He even had a plaque on a wall at his Palm Springs compound with those words on it.

I loved the private Frank, his legendary music, zest for life and the incredible generosity and humanity not many know about him. But I do not agree with this one statement, and am confident he knew there was so much more to life.

Throughout this book, I have intentionally misspelled the word “be” as “BE”. My intent is to brainwash the reader. Every time you see the capitals BE, you will think of how and why I use it, in the wisdom I shall BE sharing with you. Any word hereafter that starts with the letters “be” shall appear capitalized as BE, as in the word BElieve.

If you do not BElieve, you cannot live an abundant life.

The word “BEing”, signifies a state of consciousness, a special sacred space, wherein you are connected to the Source (of all things) in that moment. Source is indestructible and all knowing, of all that is and will ever BE, far greater than the worldly you are, or ever can BEcome.

By living in a state of BEing, one is able to attract all that one desires.

I repeat…by living in a state of BEing, one is able to attract all that one desires.

One must travel to a market, to obtain groceries.

One must travel to a hospital, to obtain medical care.

One must travel to a restaurant to dine out.

ONE MUST TRAVEL TO A STATE OF BEING TO FIND ABUNDANCE!

The BEing I am writing about has no restrictions or limitations. There are no fences or walls separating the true you from the eternal ever present Self, a state of pure enlightenment.

Over 70 years I have learned a few things. There are over 195 countries in the world. I have visited many of them, as I have travelled extensively for business, pleasure and my former hobby of climbing. I have experienced different cultures of all the continents except for Antarctica.

My travels led me to conclude that people on this planet are the same everywhere. And as a result, they face many of the same problems.

The root of all these problems I submit, revolves around abundance or the lack thereof.

In today’s turbulent, violent and uncertain times of unrest, socially, politically and economically, so many are confused about the true meaning of abundance.

Abundance means so much more than a copious or plentiful amount of something or gathering symbols of affluence.

For many, measuring abundance has been reduced to abstract economic terms, and by doing so they have substituted a concept for an experience.

Many feel they are stranded on an island, cut off from humanity, waiting to be discovered in order that they can be saved, and returned to a normal life of comfort and stability.

No man is an island, as John Donne wrote in his epic poem. No man stands alone. We are all brothers and sisters of the same family.

I wrote this book, BEcause I BElieve we must redefine abundance, and honestly deal with a sense of lacking and scarcity that permeates our society.

We all search for abundance whether we realize it or not, and many look in all the wrong places or fail to look at all.

After the great recession (and depression) of 2008, where the world’s economy spiraled out of control in a steep downward dive, many still are fighting to recover.

So many lives shattered.

So many hurt and suffering losing everything, both financially and emotionally.

Many wake up each morning, and the very first thing on their minds is SURVIVAL.

Problems come one at a time and often in herds, and we have to deal with them or suffer dire consequences. They are all different yet the same. Their nature may be different, but their effect on us is all the same.

Perhaps for you, bills are pouring in beyond your ability to pay, or your income is reduced perhaps to loss of employment, or you have felt the shock of unexpected health issues robbing you of both your time and money. Or maybe, you are struggling with a divorce, loss of a loved one, closing down a business, or having marital problems.

We as humans live with serious life altering challenges on a daily basis. Many can cope but for those who feel trapped by circumstance, they only exist and forfeit real living and give up on a life that is filled with the potential for joy and abundance.

The vast majority of these people have had to accept a new world of lacking, a void, an emptiness that morphs into a life filled with stress and anxiety.

It is not the world that is insufficient, that we can blame others for our circumstances of feeling we have been left out of the success and happiness we feel we are entitled to, i.e. THE AMERICAN DREAM.

It is how we see it. How we relate to it, to each other, and most importantly to the deepest part of ourselves, where the problems and cures relating to abundance live. Problems do not go away. They grow. They must be resolved. More about this topic later.

The most critical life lesson I wish to share with you as I have with thousands of folks when I mentored clients, from every walk of life, nationality, skin color, and social/economic strata, is so simple.

You must think.

That’s the solution to every problem you face!

Sounds too easy?

No learning to think is an art not a science.

Each of us think differently and as a result, we must be taught how to think.

Read my words carefully in this book.

That takes action on your part.

However the words herein will not read themselves.

You must intend and BE committed to do so.

Are you willing to do that?

When you change the way you think about things-the thing you think about changes. In other words, each human BEing is given the gift, to think, yet few recognize, never” mind” use this enormous power. And it is FREE! It costs you nothing! Allow the wisdom shared hereafter to resonate.

BE receptive.

Open yourself up to the magical world of possibilities. Yes, possibilities.

I personally know what defeat is, to struggle, to fail, and contemplate what to do about it. Divorce, failed health, disease that ravishes the body, losing loved ones, and not achieving goals.

I can relate to your pain and suffering.

I have BEen there.

I also know HOW to overcome, fill the emptiness and feelings of scarcity and lacking with a constant flow of the true everlasting wealth found in the abundance I have come to enjoy and share.

Remember, no one is perfect, we all are WIP’S-works in progress. That’s the point! Progress!

No one is trapped in a life of misery and want, if they do not wish to BE.

Albert Einstein, allegedly said the definition of insanity is doing something over and over again and expecting a different result. Whether he said it or Twain or Franklin, the witticism makes great sense.

Not doing something about problems is also insane.

It is Time for change, unless you enjoy beating yourself up.

Change the way you think, by understanding the simple process and methodology set out in this book, and thus eliminate stress, anxiety, and worry blocking you from your true potential.

The world defines abundance (or lack thereof) in terms of economic scarcity and abstraction. However abundance is not just about an obsession with money, cash flow, collecting possessions, pursuing glamor and fame, and focusing on power and beauty.

Abundance is much much more.

Abundance in our society that is narcissistic and artificial, is not found anywhere except in the values of humility, gratitude and service to others. Where many BElieve the true measure of abundance is of celebrity and social status, it is really about human dignity and self- worth above any prize or outer recognition.

Where we have abandoned the inner self to outer goals, and spirituality to materialism, we must focus firstly on cultivating the inner treasures within.

That’s square number one. The starting gate to change awaits YOU!

 I have never said it was easy, but I can tell you if you are motivated to stop your pain and suffering, read on.

 I mean a burning desire deep inside to change your life-read on.

If you are reading these words without that desire, STOP! DO NOT WASTE MY TIME! I am opposed to WASTING TIME! CONTINUE TO WASTE YOURS!

You are that individual snowflake, amongst billions, different than any other, and are a gift waiting to BE unwrapped.

BELIEVE IN YOU!

I know, what change is. You can experience it as well.

Sounds a bit Pollyannaish?

Maybe you have not had any luck in the past with self-help books on HOW TO…improve your life?

Perhaps any writings sharing motivational thoughts now sound too good to be true? 

I think having a certain amount of skepticism is healthy, but if you are searching for answers, to your life circumstances, and have not yet found a path to resolution, why suffer any longer?

Know this-I offer no path to glory or to riches.

I offer no self-help. That’s right, you cannot help yourself unless you are sick and tired of BEing sick and tired.

I offer you the opportunity to see that which is available to you. You get to choose if that works for you or not.

 I know there is hope for you. I BElieve in you!

 Why not give these teachings that follow a chance? All you have to do….is turn the pages hereafter and absorb. Just absorb! Read to the end!

It costs no money to do so, and I have no ulterior motive in trying to help.

My motive pure and simple is to help you define the symbol that one day will appear on your tombstone, the space between your date of birth and date of death. That space is but a mere small line, a “dash”, used as an abbreviation symbolic of your personal story, the highs and lows, triumphs and defeats.

 Next time you are at a cemetery, look at any tombstone and at that insignificant often unnoticed line.

That line, a thin dash sums up the totality of that person’s life.

A poignant poem called THE DASH, by Ron Tranmer, states;

 

I knelt there at the headstone

of one I love and cried.

Name, with dates of birth and death

were perfectly inscribed.

 

I pondered these two dates

and how little they both mean

when compared to the tiny dash

that lies there in between.

 The dash serves as an emblem

of our time here on the earth,

and although small, it stands for all

our years of life, and worth.

                 

And our worth will be determined

by how we live each day.

We can fill our dash with goodness,

or waste our life away….

 

For If our hearts are full of love

throughout our journey here,

we’ll be loved by all who knew us

and our memory they’ll hold dear.

 

And when we die, these memories

will bring grateful, loving tears,

to all whose lives were touched

by the dash between our years.

Imagine you have passed, and a stranger looks at your tombstone and wonders “who you were”.

What does your dash represent? What is your legacy? You get to define it.

 Now let’s time travel, in reverse, from the cemetery of your future to the present day, today, right NOW.

 Let’s define that dash, TODAY!