Change: The Uninvited Guest That Can Break You or Make You!

Change is all around us—trees grow, new gadgets hit the shelves, and kids magically turn into adults. We’ve learned to accept these changes as part of life’s rhythm. But when it comes to tougher stuff like a job loss or a relationship going sour, suddenly, change feels like a military operation —with you as the unsuspecting target of pain and misery.

We pour our heart, soul, and sanity into our jobs and relationships, hoping they’ll work out near perfect. So when they don’t, we feel cheated. But guess what?

As we all know, change is inevitable, whether we like it or not. So, how do we deal? A different take on it is understanding why we resist it in the first place.

Here are four key suspects in your battle against change:

Your Thoughts – Did you know we have about 70,000 thoughts a day? And most of them happen at work. What are your thoughts about the changes happening around you? Remember, how you think about change shapes how you experience it. Maybe instead of focusing on the doom, you can ask: What if this change is actually bringing me something better? Is there a new opportunity around the corner

Your Feelings – So, how do you feel about change? Excited? Anxious? Red hot with anger? Your feelings and thoughts are in a dance-off, influencing each other constantly. Acknowledge how you feel and ask yourself—am I scared of losing this job because I don’t trust my abilities to land a better one? Change, though annoying, might be the plot twist you never knew you needed.

Your Programming – Think back to your first seven years of life (if you can remember), this was where we soaked up everything like a sponge. It's when we started forming beliefs about the world. So if a relationship ends, and you start blaming and shaming yourself, it’s probably because your programming says, "Good people don’t get left

It could be time for some self-reflection:

What outdated programming are you clinging to that’s holding you back from accepting change?

Your Environment – Look around. Who are you hanging out with? If you just lost your job and everyone around you is complaining about how hard life is, guess what? Their negativity is contagious. Try surrounding yourself with people who inspire you or, at the very least, don’t drag you down. Your environment plays a major role in how you bounce back from change.

You can’t always control what happens to you, but you can control how you respond. Get your thoughts, feelings, programming, and environment working for you, not against you. After all, the best stories often come from the most unexpected changes.