Challenging Misconceptions: A Closer Look at Bisexuality

We live in polarised global world at an information age. Rightfully, it should mean that people are more knowledgeable and have the information to make informed decisions, but unfortunately this isn’t the case. Disinformation, further compounded by ignorance, bias and reliance on conservative views, has created divisions in many societies. LGBTQIA+ people are of no exception with exclusion and in many societies, they fight everyday to exist, for their rights and against bias.

But what if I were to tell you that even within the LGBTQIA+ community, there exists some form of bias too? Today, let’s have a peek into the lives and challenges of Bisexuals who awkwardly sit at the intersection of Gay or not Gay question. Let’s start with the most basic question:

Why does society push us into “either-or” boxes, especially when it comes to sexuality? Bisexuality+ challenges this binary, revealing the complexity of attraction. Let’s explore why acceptance remains difficult and how we can change that, starting with a story about Anna:

Anna, a project manager in a corporate firm, never thought much about labels until she met Sophia. Sophia openly identified as bisexual, but most of their colleagues didn’t understand what that meant. "She’ll eventually choose one side," they’d say, assuming that Sophia’s bisexuality was just a phase. Others thought she was confused or that her relationships wouldn’t last.

At team gatherings, people would ask Sophia if she was "really gay" or "just trying things out." Her identity was often ignored whenever she dated a man, as everyone just assumed she was straight. This made Sophia feel invisible—her bisexuality erased by assumptions based on outdated societal norms that force people into narrow categories.

Anna, initially confused herself, decided to learn more. She discovered that bisexuality isn't about indecision but rather about embracing attraction to more than one gender. She realized the harmful impact of society's binary thinking and began advocating for Sophia and others like her. Over time, Anna worked to create a safer space for bisexual colleagues by encouraging open conversations and challenging misconceptions.        

[Disclaimer: This is a fictional story and does not depict real events or persons. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, is purely coincidental.]

I want to explore 6 questions to help you build a broader and more open view about Bi+ people”

ONE - Why do societal norms often push people to categorize others as either straight or gay, leaving little room for sexual fluidity?

Societal norms are often based on binary thinking, where identities are simplified into rigid categories. The pressure to fit into "either-or" boxes comes from longstanding cultural, religious, and historical structures that view sexuality as fixed. This binary framework overlooks the complexity of sexual orientation and marginalizes those who don't conform to it, like Bisexuality+ individuals.

TWO - What are the common misconceptions about bisexuality and how do they affect the way straight people perceive Bisexuality+ individuals?

Common misconceptions include the belief that bisexuality is just a "phase" or that bisexual people are "confused" or "indecisive." Some also believe bisexual individuals are more promiscuous or cannot maintain monogamous relationships. These stereotypes lead to stigmatization, making it harder for bisexual people to be accepted or validated in either straight or LGBTQ+ spaces.

THREE - How does the notion of “invisibility” or “erasure” of Bisexuality+ manifest in society, and why might this contribute to discomfort or misunderstanding?

Bisexual erasure happens when bisexual identities are dismissed or rendered invisible, often through media representation or assuming someone’s sexuality based on their current partner. This contributes to discomfort because many people don’t fully understand bisexuality or encounter it in real life, reinforcing false narratives and misconceptions about its legitimacy.

FOUR - Why do some straight people view bisexuality as a “phase” or “indecision,” and how can we challenge that assumption?

Straight people might see bisexuality as a phase because of the binary way society views sexuality, or they may perceive bisexuality through their own limited understanding of sexual fluidity. To challenge this assumption, it's important to share stories, research, and perspectives that affirm bisexuality as a valid, stable sexual orientation, and to educate people about the spectrum of human sexuality.

FIVE - What steps can individuals and allies take to foster a more inclusive and accepting attitude toward Bisexuality+ identities?

Allies can actively challenge biphobic remarks, learn more about bisexuality, and amplify Bisexuality+ voices. Supporting bisexual visibility by engaging with inclusive media, advocating for bisexual representation in LGBTQ+ spaces, and normalizing conversations around sexual fluidity helps create a more accepting environment.

SIX - How can we create safer spaces for bisexual people to openly express their identities without fear of judgment or invalidation?

Creating safer spaces involves promoting a culture of respect and understanding, where bisexual people can freely express their identities without pressure to conform to binary labels. Encouraging inclusive language, fostering open dialogue about diverse sexual orientations, and ensuring representation in media and policy can help reduce stigma and validate bisexual experiences.

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By understanding the biases surrounding Bisexuality+, we can create more inclusive spaces for everyone. Acceptance requires challenging misconceptions, promoting visibility, and fostering environments where bisexual people feel safe and validated.

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