Challenging Deep-Rooted Beliefs: Redefining Success and Support in

In 2024, one would think that societal roles and expectations have evolved significantly. However, my recent experiences have #highlighted that deep-rooted beliefs and blind spots persist. This article delves into my #journey of redefining success and support within my #personal and #professional life, particularly focusing on the unexpected #role reversal between my husband Jake Pietras and me. #Through this #narrative, I hope to provoke thought, encourage challenging conversations, and emphasize that inclusion is a human right, not a privilege for minorities.

The Launch of HERZAUGE and Its Unexpected Challenges

The last few months have been a whirlwind, primarily due to the launch of my book, HERZAUGE - Warum Du Dich nur in Dir selbst finden kannst, in April 2024. This journey began much earlier, filled with #self-reflection and revisiting challenging memories. When I first told my husband, Jake, about my decision to write the book, his response was simple yet profound: “I am here and I hold the space.”

Jake’s support extended far beyond submitting the manuscript. He helped set up the webpage, prepared for the book launch, and ensured everything ran smoothly. Yet, as the launch date approached, I became overwhelmed by the pressure of achieving success through KPIs and numbers, losing sight of why I wrote the book in the first place—to reach #hearts and #transform thinking. In my anxiety, I turned to my own book, holding myself +accountable and “walking the talk.”

Role Reversal and Societal Blind Spots

Walking the talk involved traveling and speaking engagements, while Jake took over everything at home. This role reversal prompted many questions, especially from women, about Jake’s professional endeavors. Initially, I felt compelled to provide reassuring answers about his clients and projects.

However, a few weeks ago, during one of our cornerstone conversations, Jake was preparing dinner and joked, “Well, I’m the houseman now while you conquer the world.” I asked if he was okay with this role reversal, and he replied, “Sure, this is how I can best support our future right now. I trust you and us, and there will be other times. It’s up to us to define how we work as a team.”

This exchange made me realize that societal expectations still heavily influence our perceptions of gender roles. When I openly addressed these questions, pointing out that no one would question the arrangement if our roles were reversed, the response was always the same: “You’re right, Lina. I wouldn’t ask if you were the man and he was the woman.”

Redefining Success and Support

It’s 2024, and yet, when a man stays home, he’s seen as taking advantage of his wife’s success, whereas a woman staying home is viewed as a great support. This realization has reinforced the urgent need to discuss roles and expectations openly. I am incredibly grateful to have a partner like Jake, who is secure in his ego and acts as my biggest supporter, critic, and enabler.

The Impact of HERZAUGE

HERZAUGE has significantly impacted its readers, particularly those aged 55 and above. The book has helped them revisit their past with an open mind, facilitating personal healing and growth. It emphasizes that inclusion is a human right and has sparked essential conversations about societal roles and expectations. Readers have reflected on their blind spots, challenging deep-rooted beliefs, and fostering a more inclusive and empathetic mindset.

Embracing Change and Challenging Norms

This experience has taught me the importance of maintaining open and honest communication, trusting each other’s roles, and redefining success on our terms. It’s crucial to recognize and address societal blind spots, understanding that support can come in various forms. Embrace resilience, stay true to your purpose, and don’t be afraid to challenge and change traditional roles. Remember, inclusion and empathy start within the relationship, and building a strong, supportive partnership is key to navigating any challenge.

Conclusion

Let’s #challenge these blind spots and redefine success and support in a way that includes everyone. What are your thoughts on this? Feel free to share your experiences and let’s start a conversation about the roles and expectations that shape our lives.

By focusing on personal experiences and societal observations, this article invites readers to reflect on their own beliefs and engage in a meaningful discussion about inclusion and roles.