"CHALLENGES HELPS US TO DISCOVER OURSELVES"

"CHALLENGES HELPS US TO DISCOVER OURSELVES"

Overcoming a Challenge is..To defeat (another) in competition or conflict: overcame the opposing team in the last quarter. To deal with successfully; prevail over; surmount: tried to overcome the obstacles of poverty. To overpower, as with emotion; affect deeply: was overcome with grief.

Life Challenges

Do you find yourself in a life challenge or trial - not sure which way to turn? Has an event or illness suddenly changed the whole pattern of your life and your plan for the future? Life Challenges can shake you at your very core. It is our desire that through the article below, you will find comfort for your past, practical help for today, and lasting hope for your future. While we try to be practical we believe that some of the best "medicine" for loved ones, their caretakers, or yourself is found in undertaking a genuine journey of spiritual discovery that can lead to the ultimate healing in this life and the next!

Here are seven strategies to help carry us through:

  1. Turn Toward Reality. ...
  2. Embrace Your Life as It Is Rather than as you Wish It to Be. ...
  3. Take Your Time. ...
  4. Practice Gratitude. ...
  5. Stay Close to Your Feelings, Even the Painful Ones. ...
  6. Accept Success and Failure as Part of Life's Journey. ...
  7. Tend to Your Loving Relationships.
In our personal lives as well as on a global scale, we face challenges that test our emotional mettle: injury, illness, unemployment, grief, divorce, death, or even a new venture with an unknown future. Here are seven strategies to help carry us through:

1. Turn Toward Reality

So often we turn away from life rather than toward it. We are masters of avoidance! But if we want to be present—to enjoy life and to be more effective in it—we must orient ourselves toward facing reality. When we are guided by the reality principle, we develop a deeper capacity to deal with life more effectively. What once was difficult is now easier. What once frightened us now feels familiar. Life becomes more manageable. And there’s something even deeper that we gain. Because we can see that we have grown stronger, we have greater confidence that we can grow even stronger still. This is the basis of feeling capable, which I think is the wellspring of a satisfying life.

2. Embrace Your Life as It Is Rather than as you Wish It to Be

The Buddha taught that the secret to life is to want what you have and to not want what you don’t have. Being present means being present to the life that you have right here, right now. There is freedom in taking life as it comes to us—the good with the bad, the wonderful with the tragic, the love with the loss, and the life with the death. When we embrace it all, then we have a real chance to enjoy life, to value our experiences, and to mine the treasures that are there for the taking. When we surrender to the reality of who we are, we give ourselves a chance to do what we can do.

3. Take Your Time

As the story of the tortoise and the hare tells us, slow and steady wins the race. By being in a hurry, we actually thwart our own success. We get ahead of ourselves. We make more mistakes. We cut corners and pay for them later. We may learn the easy way but not necessarily the best way. The old adage puts it like this: the slower you go, the sooner you get there. Slow, disciplined, incremental growth is the kind of approach that leads to lasting change.

4. Practice Gratitude

It is easy to count our troubles rather than our blessings, but such an attitude undermines our ability to draw from the good that we have been given and to see our lives fundamentally as a gift. A change in perspective can make all the difference. Recognizing the good and receiving it with gratitude is a recipe for emotional health and well-being. This attitude enlarges the possibility that we can make use of the good we have been given and even use it to cope with the difficulties that we inevitably have inherited.

5. Stay Close to Your Feelings, Even the Painful Ones

Often we find our feelings scary, heavy, and confusing, so we try to keep them at a distance. But we need our feelings in order to find satisfaction, meaning, and pleasure in life. Getting rid of feelings not only backfires but it also drains us of the psychological energy that makes life worth living. Feelings are the gas in the engine of our personalities. They are the source of motivation. They are the energy, the vitality, the juice of life. Without them, our lives wouldn’t have any personality or dimension or color. There wouldn’t be any joy or creativity or fun. There wouldn’t be you. There wouldn’t be me. Without our feelings, nothing would really matter.

6. Accept Success and Failure as Part of Life’s Journey

We are all learning. No one gets it right every time. A more compassionate attitude toward ourselves only helps us to stay in the game. The dynamic process of life—trying, succeeding, failing, and trying again—is the only way to develop lasting confidence in ourselves. We learn through experience that we can both succeed and recover from failure. We also learn to be humble and so develop a view of ourselves as limited creatures that will always need the help and support of others. No matter how mature or successful we become, the child within always will need mentors and friends who’ll see us through.

7. Tend to Your Loving Relationships

It is easy to neglect what matters the most: our relationships with those we love. These relationships don’t just happen magically; they grow and are sustained through attentive care and hard work. Mature love—whether in marriage, family relationships, or friendships—is a dynamic, living experience. It is something you choose every day. It is something that is earned every day. It requires commitment to keep it working. It involves a daily process of overcoming the distance and honoring the separateness between us. It accepts the reality that we will hurt one another and be hurt by one another. It is the nature of being human. These pains cannot be avoided. We can only devote ourselves to do what we can do to weather them and to mend them. So then, love essentially is repair work. We tend to the hurts. We try to heal them. We express our concern. We take responsibility for our mistakes; we learn to say we’re sorry. We try to make amends. We learn to forgive; we accept the forgiveness of another. As the monks do every day, we fall down and get up, fall down and get up again

HOW TO FACE CHALLENGES IN LIFE

Handling stress takes practice. You'll find that you have an easier time facing challenges if you face more of them. When you keep yourself sheltered and always take the easy route in life to avoid the challenges, you'll never show yourself that you can in fact face a challenge. Let challenges happen.

Everyone faces challenges in their life. Even people that seem like everything comes so easily to them. So how does everyone cope? How do you keep from just giving up and moving to Antigua? We'll help you change your outlook with a few coping skills and strategies and we'll walk you through the steps you need to take in order to tackle that challenge like a champ.

Tackling the Problem

Accept that this challenge is happening.

A lot of people will dismiss challenges that come before them. They’ll convince themselves that the problem is smaller than it really is or that it doesn’t exist in the first place. You need to recognize when you start thinking this way because it’s true what they say: the first step in overcoming a problem is admitting that you have one.
  • This isn’t a fun part of the equation. Accepting that this challenge is real and that you’re going to have to deal with it can be really scary. If you’re scared of what this challenge can mean for you, just remember: so far in life, you’ve met every challenge that’s come before you and made it out okay. There’s no reason to think that this is any different.

Take action.

  • It’s important, with any challenge that you end up facing, to start doing something about the problem as soon as you possibly can. Each moment of inaction becomes an action in itself. By doing nothing, you’re still doing something. And that something probably isn’t helping the situation. Problems usually multiply when left to themselves, like rabbits. The sooner you start facing the challenge, the easier it will be to overcome.

Evaluate the facts.

So, you’re ready to start tackling this challenge? Great! The best place to start is by evaluating the facts. What do you really know about what’s going on? Are you sure you understand the situation? Don’t just deal with what you think the problem is; the real issue might be something you didn’t even realize was a problem. Take some time to make sure that you understand the situation as fully as possible.
  • This usually means that you’re going to have to talk to people, although who will depend on your situation. Are you having problems with school? Talk to your teacher. Problems at work? Talk to your boss or a coworker. Problems in your relationship? Talk to your partner. Problems with your health? Talk to your doctor. You get the idea.
  • It can help to make a list. A challenge is rarely one single task or problem, but is instead made up of lots of different parts. Make a list talking about what the smaller, sub-challenges are and what you’ll need to do in order to combat them.

Take account of what you have.

  • Now that you know what you’re dealing with, you’ll want to think about what tools and resources you have available to help you in facing this challenge. What resources are most important will depend on your problem, but there are lots of things you can consider. Think about your strengths, the people that can help you, and any physical resources you might have (like money). You should also think about areas in which you are weak. This will let you plan ahead so that you can compensate or at least be prepared in areas where something might go wrong. Be realistic about both the good and bad things that you have to offer this situation: fantastic optimism is not your friend here.
  • For example, let’s say that you’re facing a challenge in your marriage. What do you have that can help you face this? Well, you’re good at communicating how you feel. That’s important for reaching understanding in interpersonal issues. You also have your parents available to you, as they’ve managed to stay together through some pretty serious fights. They might have some advice. You also know that you’re not good at changing your habits, so you’ll know that you’ll need to be prepared to pay extra attention to that.

Find more information.

  • Now that you know about what the facts of the situation and what you have available to you, you can start finding information that can help you. Find out more about the challenge you’re facing. Talk to people that have faced the same challenge. The more you know about the facts, similar situations, and the experiences of others, the easier time you’ll have making smart decisions about facing your own challenge. It’ll also help keep you from feeling alone.
  • You can find a lot of information by going online and using Google to find websites that deal with your specific problem.
  • For example, let’s say that you’re facing a challenge at work; you are up for review and you’re worried that your performance has been poor. Now, go to Google and search for performance reviews. You’ll learn about the process and hear how things have gone for other people. You can also learn about what you can do to improve your chances for keeping your job if your review goes badly.

Look at all possibilities.

  • When we’re worried, we tend to see only a few paths out of a challenge. You might see your situation as “either I do this or I do that”. However, this is rarely an accurate view of the situation and thinking of it in this way can often be harmful to your decision-making process. Challenge your ideas of what is really necessary to the situation or what your options really are. Find the paths between the ones that are so clearly marked in your mind. You may find that a middle road or a total detour is better for you in the long run, even if it doesn’t match what you thought the situation would be.
  • If you’re having a hard time looking at a situation and finding an alternative route, one of the easiest ways to get ideas is to talk to someone you trust. Get advice. If you’re on your own though, look at you main goal point (the thing you’re trying to reach). It’s got a problem in the way, keeping you from getting there, right? Now, look at the actual function of the goal. Is there another way to get the same thing to happen? This can open another path for you to take.

Communicate, communicate, communicate.

  • If the challenge you’re facing in any way involves other people, then a large part of your challenge can be dealt with by talking to other people. Most of our problems come up in the first place because we fail to communicate in the way that we should.
  • For example, let’s say that you’re having problems in your relationship. The best way to solve relationship problems is to talk to your significant other. Be honest about how you feel and what you want and encourage them to do the same. If they won’t talk with you, well that kind of answers the question, doesn’t it?
  • Another example would be if you’re having problems at school. Talk to your teacher or the school’s counselor. No matter what the problem is, one of them should have some ideas that can help you. You might think that they might be mad at you, judge you, or make things worse, but that is very likely not true. You’re very unlikely to tell them something that would surprise them and they’ll have a lot more experience in handling the problem and will probably have some good ideas for you.

Look for a mentor.

  • When you’re facing a challenge, one thing you can do to really transform your experience of the situation is to find a mentor. This can be a person, a website, a book: anything that can give you advice on your specific situation and inspire you to take it like a champ. Having a mentor can make your experience more positive and help you change how you experience what’s happening to you.
  • For example, if you’re having problems with a friend, talk to your older sister. She’ll probably have had similar troubles at some point in her life, so she’ll be able to give you advice. She’ll also be able to support and comfort you.
  • Online communities can also fill this role, so don’t worry if you’re not that great at talking to people or asking for help face-to-face.

Keep trying until you find a solution.

  • The final key for dealing with challenges in your life is to just keep trying. You have to be persistent. Without being persistent, you’ll frequently find yourself unsuccessful in the things you try. We won’t recommend trying the same approach over and over again but you shouldn’t give up on finding a solution. Every challenge can be met and every situation made better, so long as you keep your mind open.
  • Now sometimes the solution to a challenge is accepting the inevitable. Let’s say that your challenge is that you’ve been diagnosed with a chronic illness. Now, you shouldn’t keep fighting to get rid of the illness. The reality is probably that you’re stuck with it. However, the solution in this situation would be that you should find a sense of community and identity with others who share your situation and learn to better embrace and appreciate the good things that you do have in your life.


Changing Your Perceptions

Recognize that this too shall pass.

So you’ve got this incredible challenge before you: now you need to really face it. How do you deal, how do you cope, when this very upsetting thing is happening to you? It’s very important to remember that time passes and things change. Always. The only constant is that the sun will rise each morning. Whatever you’re dealing with, however terrible and permanent it feels, it’s important to remember that you will not always feel this way. Your challenge will not be there forever. A new reality will form and you will find a way to keep living. Just keep telling yourself: This too shall pass.
  • For example, your boyfriend that you’ve been with since you were young might have just left you. It will feel horrible, like you’ll never be happy again and you’ll never find someone else that you love that much. It might feel like you’ll never find anyone. But time will pass, you’ll be out at a party, and then suddenly...your prince charming will walk into the room. He’ll be funny and charming and he’ll think you’re just the most incredible thing to grace this Earth. It’ll happen. You just need to be patient and give it time.

Remind yourself of the good things in your life.

When bad things happen to us or when we’re stressed, we tend to forget about all of the wonderful things that exist in our lives. No matter how bad things seem, the world really is a wonderful place. Take account of the good things in your life. Spend time enjoying them and tell the people that love you how much you love them in return. Not only will this keep you sane during this challenging time, it might also help you find a way to take on your challenge.
  • People sometimes have a hard time seeing the good things in their life. Don’t let this happen to you. You don’t have a significant other? You do still have friends and family. Not much in the way of friends and family? You’re alive and you have the wonderful opportunity to go out into the world and make friends and have experiences. There’s always some incredible experience that’s just waiting for you to get up and take it.

Be flexible, always.

  • No matter what challenge you’re facing, being flexible will make a huge difference in helping you face it. See yourself as a tree that’s fallen in a river. You can try to go against the flow, but you’ll end up struggling and you’ll bang against every rock on the way. If instead you go with the flow, change with each direction that the river wants to take you, you’ll glide smoothly until it carries you to a resting place.

Find meaning in your life.

When you have a goal or find some kind of greater meaning in your life, you’ll find that facing any challenge is easier. This is because it gives you something to work towards, hope for, or will simply inspire you and make you happy. There are lots of ways to go about this. You can set a goal, like that you want to buy a house in five years. Some people become more religious and find comfort in their religious community. Some people volunteer and find strength in helping others. Find something that works for you.
  • Finding meaning if you don’t have meaning can be tricky. The best way to go about it, as with most things in life, is to give it a try. When you find the right thing for you, you’ll know it. Just keep yourself open to as many possibilities as possible and don’t keep yourself from getting out there and trying things.

Let yourself be challenged.

Handling stress takes practice. You’ll find that you have an easier time facing challenges if you face more of them. When you keep yourself sheltered and always take the easy route in life to avoid the challenges, you’ll never show yourself that you can in fact face a challenge. Let challenges happen. Take risks that have promising rewards. You’ll find that you can do more than you give yourself credit for.
  • It’s a bit like learning to ride a bike: you have to get up on the bike and you might get a few scrapes and bruises while you learn to keep your balance, but each wobble will teach you something about staying upright. If every time you wobble you get off the bike and stay off for a few years, you’re never going to learn.

Be grateful for the challenges you have.

  • When you do face challenges in your life, be grateful for them. Each challenge you face will teach you more about yourself. It will become a part of who you are...and that person is an incredible person. You are unique and wonderful and it is your challenges that have made you that way. You might be struggling right now but remember, even while you’re worrying and upset, that this challenge is going to make you a better person.

Believe in yourself.

The most important thing you can do for facing any challenge is to believe in yourself. When you doubt yourself, you’ll falter. You’ll make poor decisions. You want to make good decisions! Not believing in yourself can also powerfully transform what you take away from this experience. Either you believe in yourself and what you take away is ultimately good and you learn from it...or you don’t believe in yourself and this experience is negative because you see it as a failure on your part. Which experience would you rather have?
  • Sometimes, life has been so unkind that we really don’t want to believe in ourselves. Please, don’t let your experiences diminish your wonderful spirit. You are so strong. Look at all the stuff that you’ve made it through so far! We know that you can face this challenge and do so with grace. We believe in you and we are so proud of the person that you are. Just keep trying and don’t forget to be awesome.

Concentrate on the Bull’s-Eye

  • Life is full of urgent activities—like that email that just pinged onto your computer as you were reading this sentence. In our busy lives, we often get distracted from the tasks that are really important, and start trying to do 25 other things, too. But those 25 things put together are less important than the bull’s-eye. Particularly in times of challenge, you have to focus on what’s most important, and let the rest go.0

Facing challenges makes you stronger

Challenges are a part of everyday life. They make us stronger and without them life becomes somewhat meaningless because we have nothing to compare the good times to.

These challenges come in many forms. For some, the challenge is doing well at school, for others it is getting to grips with financial worries.

But, regardless of the challenge, facing up to it is key. Doing so will make you feel like you can take care of yourself, it will also make you understand the value of what you have now.

Facing up to challenges and living through them give us the experiences that make up our life.

But it's important to remember that, whatever the problem, there is almost always a solution.

Facing challenges is a way to push ourselves and see what we are capable of.

What's more, when we look back on tough times, we can be proud of how we dealt with the challenge and remind ourselves that life does get better.

And challenges aren't always unpleasant. Challenging yourself to score better on a test, run faster in a race or learn something new can be very enjoyable! Why not give yourself a fun challenge today?

How Your Challenges Make You A Stronger Person

Life is full of challenges especially when we are hit with something unexpected. But this Direction Diva is here to tell you that no matter what your challenges are, they will make you a stronger person if you let them. For most of us, when life takes a twist and our daily lives are more difficult than normal, we want to move through the situation quickly. We just want to get it over with and move on – and the sooner the better, right?

Our thoughts begin to focus on how much better life would be if our current situation had never happened in the first place. Sometimes, I wonder if that’s really true.

Would we really be better off if

we never had to deal with life’s challenges?

I know for myself, without exception there has not been one difficult moment or experience that hasn’t helped me grow as a person in the long run. It may have taken me years to figure out the why, in fact I’m still asking WHY US when it comes to our life in crisis, but I also know that…

I am who I am

BECAUSE of everything that has happened,

not in spite of it.

I watch people spend their energy wishing for a better life, praying that things could be different. But instead of doing something about it, accepting what is or looking for the silver lining, they embrace a victim mentality and continue to do the same things wishing things were different.

They miss the good stuff – the magic that is there if you look hard enough because they spend all their time complaining or silently feeling sorry for themselves.  Now compare that to the people who embrace their “stuff”, the individuals who don’t spend their life wishing.

  • That individual fighting cancer that is smiling and soaking in every moment of every day.
  • The child with a disability that only sees the good in people.
  • The person who lost their job and happily takes the first thing that comes up to so they can feed their kids.

These are the people I look up to and try to emulate. They are strong, happy and moving forward despite the hand they have been dealt.

Those people – you know the one’s you think “have it easy”- don’t. They don’t have less challenges than you do, they just understand that they need to grow from their experiences and let them go…

Now compare that to the person always whining about money, career or their relationships –  ask yourself – do they ALWAYS complain about the same thing? Don’t you just sigh and think…here they go again…? I know I do.

I don’t mean to sound harsh, but until you learn to accept your life – all of it – you can’t move on. And that’s a good thing.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had to learn the same key lessons over and over because I was to caught up in the life isn’t fair cycle rather than accepting what was and doing something about it. For years I was stuck in the “same crap different day” mindset and spent more time using the excuse that other people had it easier rather than getting off my butt and changing my situation.

For me it was boundaries and balance in all spheres of life. for you it may be something different. Life happens and we all have tough times. But those who learn from them and become stronger in spite of them know something that I didn’t....They know that who they are is a direct result of what they have been through. They embrace that fact, the good, the bad and the ugly and use it to grow stronger. And that… is something to aspire to.

The Beauty in Challenge – the more you overcome it the stronger you will become

Challenge is an opportunity: make it gold or a tough stone, it only depends on you, you are your own alchemist.

Every time you overcome a challenge, it will lift you up, build you strong and make it easier for you to overcome your next trial. But if you surrender to the challenge, it will downsize you, break a piece of confidence in you and make it harder for you to overcome it the next time. It’s like building muscle – the more you train it the stronger it will become. Once you lift 50 lbs, then adding 5 lbs more is easy. By adding a harmless 5 lbs each time, with consistent practice you will eventually lift a magnificent 100 lbs of challenge, effortlessly. But if you give up on your first 20, 30 lbs, you will never build strong enough muscles. Make a decision now – do you want to live with powerful muscles or saggy fat?

Now I have my diet healthily streamlined and I am so happy that I made the first few tough choices towards fighting my food addictions. It built good momentum for me to coast by the rest of the temptations easily and smoothly.

I also transformed my lifestyle into an active one by adding exercise one dose after another.

I am so happy that I made the first tiny steps to walk out of my comfort zone. Soon I was catching up with the rhythms and running spontaneously.

So what is your challenge that you are afraid of? Face it now, conquer it and let it leverage you even stronger.

If you are too timid to speak up for yourself in daily life, then regardless of your fears, force yourself to say one word out of the heart every day. At first, you will only mumble nonsense and totally sound like a nerd. But just keep throwing the balls, you will eventually hit some targets and organize clear sentences.

If you are suffering in your current life but don’t think you deserve a better one, then you will keep living in the suffocating situation. To breathe new air, you need to step out of your dead zone. Once you buck up and make the first courageous step, then adding a few more steps is not that a big deal and soon you will walk farther away from the cave you hated.

It is always easier to do nothing about the challenge and remain in the status quo. But I strongly suggest you choose a harder choice, fight with your challenge and let it lift you to a higher position with more beautiful views. Once you get started with throwing a few bold punches into life, you will soon feel comfortable to box with those opponents you thought so tough and tall. And later you will get so good at your skills that you must call in stronger competitors to the ring to match the game and have more fun. Be that aspiring boxer in your life.

Focus on How You Deal, Not What You're Dealt.

Why did hundreds of people survive the Titanic, but Molly Brown is the only one who became infamous for it? Molly commandeered her lifeboat and organized months-long volunteer efforts on behalf of the other Titanic survivors, rallying everyone around her. Two people can be dealt the same issue, with dramatically different results. Your life story isn’t about what happens to you, it’s about what you do from that moment on.

Think big

The biggest barrier to achieving success is often ourselves and those around us. How often have you thought about doing something challenging and find yourself saying: 'I'll never be able to achieve that!' More often, in my experience, it is the lack of support from those closest to you, your family and friends, who play the critical role in halting a challenge before it has even begun. ‘There’s no way you can do that’ is a classic response to the presentation of a potential challenge to friends and family that leads to the first and most important risk to your challenge.

Overcoming this first barrier and identifying your challenge is the first step on your road to success. Make sure the challenge is important to you, that you have the time to commit to the planning, preparation and delivery of the challenge, and that you have the resources to deliver success (money, equipment etc). Having established your challenge, then you should go public and let family, friends and colleagues know what you are aiming to achieve – a challenge shared is a challenge halved!

Set goals

Major challenges can often appear unachievable when viewed as a whole. The key to delivering success is to dissect the challenge into a number of smaller steps which together lead to the delivery of your challenge. Each small step can be viewed as a short-term goal. Combining a number of short-term goals leads to the delivery of a medium-term goal, and combining medium-term goals leads to the completion of your journey, the delivery of your long-term goal (your challenge) and success.

Goal-setting is relatively simple if you follow a few simple rules. A goal should be challenging but achievable - it is important that you establish your goals at the beginning and make sure they are outside your comfort zone; don’t set your sights low. In addition, make sure that the goal is measurable so you can monitor your progress on a regular basis. And most importantly, celebrate success. When you achieve a goal, make sure to smell the roses!

Brain power

Most of the challenges we take on appear entirely physical in nature – losing weight, running a marathon, developing a beach body – but the brain is central to the delivery of success whatever the challenge. It is rarely our physical selves that stop us from achieving a major challenge. More often it is our loss of belief, commitment and motivation that leads to failure. This psychological trio works together in harmony to keep you on the road to success.

Believing you can achieve your goal provides the foundations in overcoming your challenge. With belief comes a commitment to investing the time, effort and resources to make sure you continue to deliver your short-term goals, and repeated success in delivering your goals increases your motivation which, in turn, increases your belief in your abilities to deliver your long-term goal.

Making sure you pay attention to your brain performance throughout your challenge will optimise your chances of delivering your physical goals.

Leave no stone unturned

Achieving a major goal is rarely simply about delivering on a single determinant of performance. The road to a successful challenge requires the optimisation of a range of performance variables simultaneously. For example, achieving a better physique is not simply about doing more sit-ups! You must improve your diet, increase your strength and endurance training, optimise your sleep and recovery etc. So, having committed to the challenge, you must construct a plan to optimise each of the areas required to deliver success.

In addition to those determinants required to deliver success, there will also be risks that negatively impact on performance. For example, if your goal is to stop smoking, a common risk comes from friends who do not share your enthusiasm and continually offer you cigarettes. Making sure you have a plan to address any risks when they arise is vital. The more detailed the plan, the greater your chances of success. If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail! Do not leave anything to chance; success is not a chance event.

Signing the contract

Making a contract with yourself to deliver success is particularly valuable when you are struggling with belief, commitment and/or motivation. By formalising an arrangement detailing your goal and when you will deliver it, you are much more likely to be successful. This may seem a slightly bizarre approach, but the more formal the contract, the greater the chances of delivering on your commitment to it.

Your contract raises the selective importance of your goal and provides the necessary motivation to persist with the appropriate amount of work until you have delivered success. Asking a third party, someone close to you, to witness the contract will raise the importance of the contract and the responsibility on you to deliver success. Having made a contract place in a public place, like the fridge. This will increase the importance of your commitment to the contract and raise the profile of the reward once you deliver success. Here is an example of a personal contract for weight-management that you could adapt for your own challenge.



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