(Ch 4 of 7) The Success Code - Clearing The Energy That's Blocking Your Abundance!

Hello Achiever!

Step 1 in The Success Code is to identify the unconscious beliefs (fears) that are blocking your energy!

Step 2 is to clarify what you DO want to believe in (your upgraded beliefs).

Step 3 of "The Success Code" is to discover what emotions you ultimately want to experience more of in life!

Step 4 is to clear the "stuck" energy that holds you back from experiencing more abundance in regards to your confidence, health, wealth and relationships.

In the last article, I shared the metaphor of having a "mind filter" that gets clogged up with fear-based beliefs, attitudes and perspectives.

Yet, we also have "energetic" filters that can get clogged. In Chinese medicine these energy filters are referred to as Chakras.

Acupuncture is often used to "free" the negative energy within the body so Chi energy can more easily flow, which creates a state of balance and harmony.

What clogs our energetic filters? Hate, anger, resentment, grudges, guilt, shame and self-pity.

When working with someone who is feeling stuck in some area (or all areas) of life, this is my 10-Step Transformation Process for making his/her success a Shurr Thing!

1. Identify what the ultimate outcome of the sessions will be.

2. Get in touch with the feeling(s) that is "holding him/her back."

3. Use the feeling to access the event(s) that created the feeling(s).

4. At this event, shift the perspective and add more powerful resources.

5. Clarify the unuseful (fear-based) belief that was generated from this experience.

6. Upgrade the belief to something more useful (proactive and productive.)

7. Use Forgiveness to cleanse the energy filter.

8. Future pace (imagine already having what you desire and experiencing the feelings that come with it.)

9. Add empowering Life Skills

10. Celebrate!

Let's talk about Step 7 - Forgiveness.

Forgiveness is one of the most powerful forces in existence. It's also one of the most misunderstood.

When we hold anger, hurt, resentment or a grudge against someone who has "done us wrong," it actually holds you back more than the person that hurt you.

Buddha once said, "Holding resentment is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die."

Dr. Wayne Dyer said it this way. "When you get bit by a poisonous snake, it's not the snake bite that kills you. It's the venom that's left inside your blood. You must get this poison out of you or you'll be paralyzed by it."

Jesus preached to pray for your enemies. For a long time I did not understand this. Why would you pray for people that purposefully bring misery into your life?

The answer is simple. Your hateful or hurtful response adds gasoline to the fire. Someone hurts you or a loved one so you retaliate by getting them back! "An eye for an eye" as the Old Testament says.

So they attack back. Then you attack again...and so on...and so on... Generations of children end up fighting generations of other children because their great, great grandfathers went to war with each other!

Mahatma Gandhi transformed his world through peace and forgiveness, not violence. Martin Luther King Jr. did the same thing.

The Law of Attraction states that "energy attracts its own kind." In other words, if you hold anger, fear or resentment in your heart, you'll attract (or perceive) future experiences that provoke more anger, fear or resentment!

Let me tell you a story..

James came to see me because he was having trouble "sexually." He was struggling with impotency and it was causing a lot of problems in his new marriage.

He had tried "relaxing" and medication, but it didn't seem to help. His wife was supportive, yet it was obviously bothering her. Especially because this wasn't an issue before they got married

I began taking James through my 10-Step Transformation Process and when we got to the part about forgiveness, James felt blocked. Here's what he said...

"I've been married before. I was with my first wife since we were sophomores in high school. We had a couple kids and things were going alright. We argued about the same stuff everyone does.

Then one night, I happened to see her Smartphone sitting by the bed and for some reason, I felt compelled to look at it. There were a bunch of text messages going back and forth between her and some other guy. The stuff she was saying to him..."

That's when James started to cry.

The belief he formed was that somehow "he" wasn't good enough as a "man" to keep his wife happy. Over time, this hurt turned into anger and resentment and eventually they divorced.

This happened three years ago. Eventually, he met his new bride and things seemed to be going really well...until they got married. That's when out of nowhere, his "plumbing" just stopped working.

I explained how our "energy filters" get clogged and his stored anger and resentment towards his ex-wife had manifested into fear with his new wife. "What if I'm not satisfying enough as a man for my new wife? Will she cheat on me too?"

Those thoughts are enough to block anyone's sexual energy.

When I asked him if he was ready to forgive his ex-wife, he said, "No." I asked why not, even though I already knew the answer. It's always the same set of answers...

1. It's like saying that what happened was OK.

2. It lets them off the hook.

3. If I forgive and forget, it could happen again!

4. They don't deserve it.

5. I can't...

1. First of all, it's NOT ok that this happened. Yet, God does work in mysterious ways and often the things I disliked most in my life were the same things that helped shape me into the person I am today.

2. It doesn't let people off the hook. They will have their own karma to deal with. It does let YOU off the hook though (so you can get the poison out!)

It also doesn't mean this person can (or should) be in your life. You have to make that call. If they have offered a heart-felt apology, changed their ways, or are adding value now, healing can occur.

If they haven't done these things, they likely shouldn't be in your life...even if they are related.

3. You won't forget what happened. Instead, you'll heal up, keep the wisdom you earned, and free yourself from the negativity that's interfering with your progress. Allow your past make you stronger and wiser in regards to what you will (and will not) stand for.

4. Perhaps they don't deserve it. But this isn't about them. It's about you! Forgiving them really has nothing to do with THEM. They don't even have to know you've done this.

5. You can't forgive, or you won't because of the reasons just mentioned?

I just read a story about a woman who forgave the man who had murdered her daughter. It's hard to imagine forgiving something like that. Yet, when asked how she was able to do so, her reply was, "My life could not move forward until I brought forgiveness into my heart."

James decided to bring forgiveness into his heart, so we did! In the following sessions, we strengthened his new beliefs about himself and what it really means to be a "man." His confidence improved, his intimate relationship with his new love was restored, and he's moved on with his life...albeit with more happiness and joy.

In the next article, (Ch 5 of 7) I'm going to share the Forgiveness experience with you. I've found we all have someone to forgive, whether it's other people or ourselves.

Until then, think deeply about what you've read and prepare yourself for the upcoming experience. It's transformational, life-changing and incredibly rewarding!

Make today a Shurr ! Success

:-) Tim

Tim Shurr, MA

President, Shurr Success, Inc.

Founder, Indy Hypnosis Center

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