The Centrepiece | Dream BIG -Stop Worrying

#flowtherapy by Devin J Stinson

We KNOW what it is

We're just afraid to dive in

It's that imagined fear of something that could kill me

If we shine a light on that fear

It's oftentimes a puppy in a wolverine costume... #flowtherapy

We think of fear as something you can't run away from completely, because it always stays one step ahead of you. You see, that is the problem...we keep running away...instead of taking a deep breath and facing our fears...

The fear factor

Stress from not having a job,

Stress from having a wrong job,

worrying about certainty,

worrying about uncertainty, ...

Constant worry is not getting us anywhere but why do we worry so much, in particular, about things we don't have any control over it? So many outside variables, tics, tac's and toe's that we can't control.

That said... there is one variable that we can manipulate and control. The only variable that we can adjust, modify and re-wire. Our own mindset.

#flowtherapy by Devin J Stinson

#flowtherapy - The Centrepiece

"THE CASE"

Has got me going to a place

That's uncomfortable

Because before,

When there were leads to chase...

I'd just run from em.

But now it's mine to face

And my excuse

Has been that I'm not confident

Enough,

To feel like I could handle what's behind

That door that might punish me

Beat me up and pummel me

Treat me like the punisher

Eat me up

Chew me up and spit me out,

To tell the truth...

But, when I

Add it all up

The sum of truth,

Is gonna hit real hard

A sobering doce

Like, a hundred proof...

But this is where my destiny lies

I gotta run into

That place

That I've been afraid to investigate

For a month or two

Even though I knew

It would solve the case

And I knew

That this is where everything would funnel to

And as long as I've held it together

I knew,

This is where I probably would come unglued.

But, it's gut check time

See, this is where it bubbles up

This where it bottle necks

I either go inside that place

With my novice neck

Exposed and vulnerable

Waiting for what's comin' next...

Or I watch this case go cold

And sign my autograph

Signing off on all the crap

That everybody talked with respects

To the fact that this case

Was just supposed to end up in a box like an artifact...

But I am not done

I will not run

Away...

If I have to

I will run

Right into the barrel of a shotgun.

But man, I am scared to death

Of what comes next

I am scared to death

To put myself out there...

Because honestly,

I am terrified

That from these lips

All the plans to solve this case

That I had talked up

Have been the same lips

That I never pulled the trigger on

And shot from.

The only way to rid of worries is to free our mind from the fear of consequences and prevent a denial to make itself comfortable in our own mind. To do that we need to accept the worst possible outcome and deliver the message to our mind that we have nothing more to lose. Once that happens our mind is free.

What if | This Could | Make You | Stop Worrying

WHAT IF...

If you are presented with a difficult situation, ask your self all available"What IF" questions. Analyse the situation from all "What if" angles. Try to answer all "What if's" honestly in the purpose of figuring out - what is the worst that could possibly happen.

What IF, am I going to ( the worst possible scenario available for the situation ).

Example: What If, I don't submit this report on time...

There is a chance that I would lose my job;

There is also a chance that my employer would have to ...

the company will lose x amount of dollars...

THIS COULD...

After figuring out what could be the worst scenario that could possibly happen, you need to accept it.

Example: This could be a blow to my record, and it might possibly mean the loss of my job; but if it does, I can always get another position. Conditions could be much worse; and as far as my employers are concerned- well, for them this could mean loss of revenue, they can lose....

MAKE YOU...

Once you understand the worst possible outcome and what could happen, take time to reflect on the outcomes and ask yourself one question: How does that make you feel?

It also MAKES YOU accept the feeling and establish the understanding of improvement rather than fear. You can only improve upon the worst which you have accepted mentally.

Example: It would make me feel good if I figure out ways and means by which I might be able to submit my report on time.

I can make several changes...By solving x I can reduce Y to produce Z. That would make me feel good with a rewarding outcome.

STOP WORRYING...

Probably the worst consequences of worrying are that it destroys our ability to focus and concentrate. When we worry, our mind is unstable and wanders off looking for reasons to be worried. In the process, we lose the power of decision.

Once we manage to face the worst and accept it mentally, we then eliminate all second-guessing and put ourselves in a position in which we are able to concentrate on solutions rather than on the problem itself.

Article by Devin James Stinson & Dave Setic

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