Of cars, lies, and the lack of self-fulfillment.

The purpose of the car is to transport people, or things from point A to B. Two things that should be considered when buying one and both are important, though not necessarily equally: safety first; comfort second. 

When you consider something else beyond safety and comfort, it is not anymore a matter of transportation, but EGO. Luxury cars fall into this category. They appeal to people who need to trumpet to the world how successful or moneyed they are, or at least to the outsiders’ eyes because a 30-second glance or a look in the street is a validation they crave. To continually seek validation can be addicting, and can morph into a dangerous desire to seek more. All because of low self-esteem, perceived weakness, or lack of self-fulfillment.

Instead of valuing validation as a natural consequence of a job done well, it becomes the reason for your being. Now you do not exist for your own self, but the opinion of others have become far more important than your own. Its consequences are far-reaching without one knowing it, for such a self that continues to seek validation is a self that is afraid to confront its weaknesses. Their reaction to disapproval is legendary. They blame everyone but themselves.

To live according to other people’s perception of you is tiring and infinitely regressing. You initially feed them the false you on social media and people validate with likes, then you want more validation by pushing the boundaries of truthfulness by courting lies, and when people react to the contrary, you quickly feel insulted and irrationally upset, and the hurt ignites in you the desire to create more lies. Truth is, to maintain a lie, more lies must be created, and the liar must remember all the lies to sustain the illusion. 

This is why you need to reflect on your life’s journey continually. Do you do things to seek validation? Or maybe, you should start believing that it is okay to BE DIFFERENT!

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