Carry Your Own Colors: Ditch the Modesty, Own Your Success

Own Your Success: Why Play Small?

Success Isn't Something to Hide

Why do you need to shrink in the face of yours?

Ladies, too many of you—even the most accomplished, still downplay your achievements, worried about being labeled as "too much," "too confident," or "too...whatever"!

But here's the real question: Who benefits when you cloud your own light?

Recognize Your Value

Owning your success isn't about arrogance—it's about recognizing your hard-earned value and standing tall in it.

Success is earned, not something to hide behind a veil of false humility.

Break Free from Minimizing Your Wins

Stop hiding your achievements, and start challenging this habit to break free from the cycle of minimizing your wins.

What would happen if you stopped playing small and truly carried your colors?

Think about it—Who will if you don't own your success?

So, exploit your full potential and visualize what you can accomplish without second-guessing your worth. Let your achievements speak for themselves.

Recognize the Stereotypes That Hold You Back

To fully own your success, first, recognize and push back against the stereotypes that quietly undermine your confidence and hold you back:

1. False Modesty: Statements like "I'm pleasantly surprised by this recognition" or "I don't see myself as a role model" might seem humble, but they downplay your achievements. These phrases suggest that your success is unexpected or accidental. Remember, your hard work earned you this success—no need to downplay it.
2. Self-Deprecation: Casual remarks about your appearance or behavior, such as "I'm just the person in jeans and a t-shirt on the weekends, so it's funny to be seen as a leader." It can make you seem more relatable but also reinforce the idea that women must downplay their professional persona. Instead, stand confidently in your role—your achievements deserve recognition without diminishing them.
3. Overemphasis on Gratitude: While expressing gratitude is essential, overemphasizing it can imply that you're more surprised than deserving of your success. Phrases like "I'm honored, and I thank everyone who helped me get here" are fine, but don't let them overshadow your acknowledgment of your efforts. You worked hard to achieve your goals—own it.

The Problem with Playing Small

You're diminishing your worth when you fail to carry your own colors.

False humility, while seemingly harmless, is a trap that can keep you from reaching your full potential.

It teaches others that success, especially for women, should be understated. But why let this destructive mindset control your narrative?

Disowning your success sets a tone encouraging others to do the same, leading to a cycle in which women continuously undervalue and ignore their accomplishments: It is the plague of genuine #leadership.

Imagine the transformative impact if more women confidently owned their achievements. By carrying your own colors, you inspire others to break free from the limits of false modesty and step into their power.

Time to Carry Your Own Colors Naturally

"Carry Your Own Colors " isn't just a catchy phrase—it's a call to action—a powerful directive.

It means showing up with all your accomplishments and owning every part of your experience without hesitation. By acknowledging your work, you're also setting a new standard for leadership.

Carrying your colors means recognizing that your success is earned, not accidental—it results from your dedication, vision, and strategic thinking.

It's about stepping into your role with determination and clarity, knowing your path is uniquely yours. You signal to others that it's natural to do the same.

This confidence can inspire a new wave of leaders—women unafraid to assert their power and claim their place in the world.

Own Your Success: No Apologies, No Disclaimers

Carrying your own colors means embracing your success without qualifiers.

How often have you heard (or even said), "I was just lucky," "It's nothing really?" or "I am pleasantly surprised to be nominated?"

These phrases diminish your accomplishments.

Instead, consider saying:

- "This recognition reflects the effort and passion I've poured into my work."

- "I'm proud of the path that brought me here—this moment is well-earned."

- "I've been focused and driven, and it's rewarding to see it acknowledged."

- "This achievement results from my commitment and strategic thinking."

- "I'm honored and know the dedication it took to get here."

These alternatives allow you to own your success confidently without undermining your hard work.

Let the world know you're not afraid to be recognized for your achievements.

Lead with Authenticity and Confidence

Authenticity in leadership is magnetic. People are drawn to confident leaders not because they boast but because they're comfortable in their skin.

When you carry your own colors, you naturally attract others who want to learn from your experience, extending your #impact.

Carry Your Colors: Be the Change

What if you wholly owned your achievements without holding back? Confidently setting a powerful example for others.

Success isn't just a personal victory—it's an opportunity to lead by example.

How will You Own Your Success moving forward?

Your decision to own your success could create a movement where women feel empowered to step into their achievements.

Will you be the one to lead by demonstrating to others how to own your success and impact as a power within you?

Share with us!

And remember to Keep Fully Carrying Your Own Colors!

Your leadership can bring the necessary #change to encourage women to reach their full potential.

The world is watching—let your actions catalyze the change we all need.

Saliha Oukaci

The Impression Architect

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