Carers feel alone
Hilary Cragg
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Hilary Cragg
Solicitor and Partner specialising in Elderly Client Law. I do Wills, LPAs, care advocacy and Court of Protection work.
Recently I've attended a couple of advocacy meetings and at the end the clients have said to me that they don't want to shake my hand, they want to hug me, as they are so grateful!
I've attended meetings that are about the client's needs. They want someone independent yet compassionate, so that they can talk about the uncomfortable things and not feel judged and things that they don't want to burden their family with. They also don't want to feel bullied or bamboozled by the meeting chair / assessor.
When the meeting is over, their response is wonderful, I love that I have made a difference to them, one client told me she "hated trying to cope on her own".
Retired at Ex EPOC Health Limited
8 年The fact is not enough value is placed upon what Carers do! They need to be given greater priority for resources from government and society as a whole.
Co-founder Purple Angel Global.
8 年Carers need support too. We try our best but the odds are stacked against us. We don't want people telling us - we need people like Hilary who understand that we need a friend and some support especially when we feel we have made mistakes despite trying our best. As it is with people with dementia so carers are also individuals too and by no means perfect in a role that is demanding.
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8 年I would like to acknowledge all care givers for their many many hours of patience, love, strength, fortitude and nurturing ways with their loved ones. As a therapist- one of the reasons I created this movie was to offer adventure, beauty, color and love to care givers AND their loved ones. If only for a small break, care givers have reported back to me that - "the change of scenery from this movie; and the colors and images made me smile." " I felt as though I was there!" Used in nursing facilities, hospitals and private homes, I hope to offer this comfort to all of the angel care givers. www.journeyscapedesign.com
Relocating to France
8 年wow...Lyn fda i am a family carer 11 years for my father with dementia. I also support family carers of PWD within my compant ACT on dementia cic and im a dementia trainer and advisor. Not everyone choses to care full time it sometimes thrust upon them and most times in cases of spouses expected of them. Long term caring sometimes over 20yrs for someone with dementia brings a lot of regret and i wouldnt call it self pity...i would call it emotional stress, exhaustion, no training, guilt, anger, resentful, social isolation, loneliness. Our family carers are heros in their own right they give up so much and they dont know how long for. There is a line you cross from spouse to carer from daughter to carer etc and the support offered to family carers is no where near enough.
HOSPITALITY AND PROPERTY INVESTMENT.
8 年Everyone has gone through this dialema at some point in their lives. Caring is a natural mode of process in all our lives and choosing to give time and effort without any regret and self pity is also a choice we make.