Be Careful What You Ask Yourself
Jeff Nischwitz (he/his/him)
CEO, Law Firm Accelerator, Performance Coach, People Whisperer, Snow Globe Shaker ... Lover of bold red wine ?? .. Cuban cigars .. Hearty bourbon ?? .. Broadway theater ??
BED Talk 250 is about being careful about the questions you ask yourself.
You've heard that saying, “Be careful what you wish for,” but we also have to be careful about our questions.
Recently, I was talking to someone and they asked me this question: “At what point should we stop being positive about a situation and instead be realistic?”
To me that's like speaking two different languages at once. What does one have to do with the other?
My response was, “Think about this – Why on earth would you ever want to stop being positive?”
It really depends on what you define as being positive. Perhaps they had a definition that positive was naive, which is often the case.
People put on a happy face, which is really not a grounded positiveness. With a grounded positive mindset and gratitude perspective, it's not a question of when do I stop being positive and start being realistic.
Realistic is totally based upon the context, the situation or unique perspectives and experiences.
I don't know that there's definition of realistic that's always the case. Even for an individual, their view of realistic is going to change almost every day, and sometimes by the hour.
I'm encouraging you to be careful when you ask yourself questions or seek input from others.
We've got to be really careful what questions we ask because the quality of our questions determines the quality of our answers, or as some people have said, the question is the answer.
So not only be careful what you wish for, be careful what you think, and be careful what you ask yourself.
Listen to BED Talk 250 for the rest of the story: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MGbQ2tTD90Y
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3 年I heard a speaker once say he got into a car once with an executive who was driving him back to the airport. The executive didn’t put his seat belt on. When the speaker asked him why, he said he was positive he wouldn’t get into an accident. The speaker said that’s not positive thinking, that’s delusional optimism. There’s a difference.
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3 年My rule of thumb is this. Optimism without data is just wishful thinking.
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3 年Good one Jeff. I think with my audience I have to convince them it’s ok not to hide their sadness and it is ok to find moments of joy and laugh.
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3 年I'm positive that this is a great and realistic post. great stuff