Career Basics Course: Week 1, Day 3
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Career Basics Course: Week 1, Day 3

What we save ... Saves us. ~??T-shirt in Yerevan?

Renegotiate Five Commitments

"We are constantly making small commitments, to ourselves and to others, that we sometimes don't even notice. Some people accept us as a part of a busy life - overcommitted and overwhelmed, running from one thing to the next, trying to follow through. If you want to want to have the mental space to deal with the uncertainty of navigating your job search, you need to come aware of this and renegotiate your commitments regularly.

We rarely consider that we can even do this. I used to think about commitments either those we delivered on or those that we didn't -- success or failure, a pass/fail test. Then I began to notice the commitments that fall into a perpetual purgatory -- the endless delayed ones, the bottom of the to-do list, the ones that I would say get to but never did.

These are the commitments you are going to renegotiate. Renegotiating them can feel hard to do, like you are admitting failure or letting people down. Clearing your commitments will be immediately gratifying and will create free space you didn't realize you were missing. Here are a few tips that can help you confront the reality of your situation and negotiate your way to clearer mental state.

  • Focus on what you're saying yes to. ...
  • Lower expectations and practice surprise and delight. ...
  • Talk about what you've learned. ...
  • Make the pain of not doing something large. ...

If you recognize that the pain of leaving things in limbo is worse that the temporary pain of having an honest conversation, renegotiating your comments becomes easy."


Note: This is either ...


For me, here are the 5 commitments that I will renegotiate:

  1. Renegotiate and renew my commitment to be a better husband/partner, father, son and sibling and friend.
  2. Set end times for volunteer and board activities to create space for new opportunities and also for others to lead and learn.
  3. (re)Examine limiting beliefs around attention to detail, organizing, and planning; I like to think about myself as a "curator of memories," but it also means that I might tend to hoard a few more objects that are necessary -- and plan for midterm and long-term goals concretely and with clear expectations for myself and establishing accountability partners. (Top on this list, cleaning my office!)
  4. (re)Negotiate a limiting belief about the value of and exchange for time including my relationship earning money.
  5. (re)Negotiate my collaborative, entrepreneurial and consulting ventures with

Scott Downs ( Tri Cosain: Weaving inspiration, learning and career ), Eva Prokop ( GetSet Learning ), Dan Feely ( TSI - Transforming Solutions, Inc. ), Amir Badr ( Upkey ) and TD4ED2020 .

I owe these folks -- and others -- the best of me. With greater clarity of self, I believe that I will be able to lead a more fulfilling, purposeful and meaningful life.


Today's Recommended Viewing:


Looking ahead: Thursday, 2 March 2023-- "Describe Your Dream Job"


All the best to everyone; thanks for accompanying us on this journey.

Gerald and?Al Nunez

P.S. A huge expression of gratitude to Al for his "random" selection of these Ways. I'm already looking forward to his selection for Week 2.

Gerald Doyle

Human Centered Design and Innovation: "You know, I believe it's sometimes even good to be ridiculous. Yes, much better. People forgive each other more readily and become more humble, ..." Fyodor Dostoyevsky, The Idiot

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Zoe Hatch Welcome to Week 1, Day 3. I trust that you might recognize this image; it's a place that Carlos, our daughter's rescue do, and I walk by most every day. In today's reflection, we're invited to (re)think and (re)negotiate several (or a set of) commitments that we're currently living with. The question is to be deeply intentional. For me, this has been some of a challenge because I have a tendency to "like routine -- there's comfort in patters and some are good and provide structure." However, sometimes, these commitments or accepted patterns serve as constraints; I often require a bit more "bandwidth" to make the changes in my life than I might initially imagine -- so this has been a good invitation for me. All the best on this sunny morning in Chicago. Much peace. Gerald

Gerald Doyle

Human Centered Design and Innovation: "You know, I believe it's sometimes even good to be ridiculous. Yes, much better. People forgive each other more readily and become more humble, ..." Fyodor Dostoyevsky, The Idiot

1 年

Maalik Henderson Matthew M. Woodfolk Wolcott College Preparatory High School Thought to share with the two of you. Talk tomorrow. Week 1, Day 3.

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Al Nunez

University Advancement | Passionate higher education professional who builds relationships with alumni and friends of the university.

1 年

It seems that most of our lives are filled with commitments that come from all parts of our lives. Some are informal that you may make with a friend or family or others that come in a more formal space like at your job or in an organization you join in your community or church. If we aren't careful we get overwhelmed or commitments fall through the cracks as Dev writes in his book. I know that during my job search I find that I need to find the right balance between commitments focused on landing a job and those other commitments that sometimes are unimportant or can be rescheduled or simply cancelled. Personally spending time at home I sometimes I have home projects or chores that seem to move to the top of my commitment list. I think that it's important to develop habits that keep you on track and focused. You may want to think twice about making commitments big or small to keep you in charge of you life.

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Gerald Doyle

Human Centered Design and Innovation: "You know, I believe it's sometimes even good to be ridiculous. Yes, much better. People forgive each other more readily and become more humble, ..." Fyodor Dostoyevsky, The Idiot

1 年

Chase Baggs Appreciative of our conversation earlier this week. All the best with the new venture Fooda.

Gerald Doyle

Human Centered Design and Innovation: "You know, I believe it's sometimes even good to be ridiculous. Yes, much better. People forgive each other more readily and become more humble, ..." Fyodor Dostoyevsky, The Idiot

1 年

Carl Manello Jodi Schafer Thought to share an Open Career Basics Course that we're prototyping. Your feedback is most welcomed and invited.

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