Care and attention from others is a gift of life

We are all different and although I know psychologists like to categorise people into groups like introvert and extrovert- this denies the outliers on those scales and also denies this variability between people. Sensitivity can be based on early trauma such as people who had abusive childhood that you do not know about may be sensitive because their developing nervous system was damaged and developed on hyper-alert to try and cope with that environment. and there are far more of them than most people could possibly imagine.

Secondly some people are just more empathic - have more mirror neurons - which makes them more sensitive to picking up stuff from other people and especially strong emotional energies. Some people are just far more aware and interconnected and this can also make you more sensitive, Sensitive doesn’t mean weak - it actually means more in tune - intuitive - to the life around them. Sometimes some people also have learned helplessness and need more care in this way - meaning they were not encouraged to be independent when growing up at all.

Therefore, extra care needed might be because of all sorts of reason and this is also an opportunity for the rest of us to be more compassionate and caring ourselves - without people to care for how can we show how caring we each are? Given the need for attention and preferences in what kind of attention a person wants depends on a lot of different factors. Extroversion is a pretty stable personality trait that seems largely genetic. It varies pretty normally, and whenever something varies, you’ll see extremes.

Some people will be higher in extroversion, demanding a decent amount of attention relatively indiscriminately, although Histrionic Personality Disorder is a psychological disorder where the need for attention is extremely high and extremely indiscriminate, which leads to some very harmful behavior. Dependent Personality Disorder is somewhat self explanatory, and mostly pertains to romantic relationships.

On the other end of the spectrum, introverts will not appear to need a lot of attention, will spend more time alone, but typically have a small number of very close relationships. Schizoid Personality disorder is relatively rare, but it’s basically the lack of desire to form friendships. There is also Avoidant Personality Disorder and social anxiety where people want socialization, but feel unable to actively seek it. Another factor is attachment style. A good relationship with your parents will make you likely to be comfortable being vulnerable as well as comfortable being alone.

Neglectful, abusive, or distant relationship with parents in early development often leads to disorganized or insecure attachments, where people grow up to either demand care that they were taught they needed to work for as toddlers, or refuse attention as they have learned that it can lead to pain. In the physical sense, because some people are less capable of taking care of themselves than others. Maybe because of accidents, maybe because of some genetic defect that causes a disability. The same goes for emotional care. Some people are more self-sufficient than others. Again, part of it is just the way people are, and in other cases it’s caused by illness or disability making people less able to regulate or deal with their emotions.

In the physical sense, because some people are less capable of taking care of themselves than others. Maybe because of accidents, maybe because of some genetic defect that causes a disability. The same goes for emotional care. Some people are more self-sufficient than others. Again, part of it is just the way people are, and in other cases it’s caused by illness or disability making people less able to regulate or deal with their emotions. Just has people different IQ level..intellectual level..they have different emotional level also..they want that extra a care and love..in order to feel loved and appreciated ..may be as a person they provide the same love and care to others and except the same..Cheers!