CAN YOU LIVE WITH YOURSELF?

It’s no secret that I don’t like whiners or complainers very much. You know them, and you might be one of them. Either way, take some notes.?

Part of my job as a Master Business Coach is to be a master at observation. I listen to audible cues of how people talk and their tone of voice. I watch people walk, talk, smile, sit, eat and listen. Try it sometime; you’ll learn a lot about people.?

Over time, I have understood how I can help people improve and prosper faster than they ever thought possible. I teach several different elements that a person can do to “unleash” their potential. Ok, I know that’s a dramatic, dime-store motivational book language with ten-dollar words, but it fits. The steps are surprisingly simple but elusively challenging for most people to adjust. Here’s the truth: unleashing your full potential requires effort. People want to get a better job, they want more money, they want to be more successful, yet most aren’t willing to do the work.?

Here are five ways to get you started if you have the nerve.?

1. Raise Your Standards "Raising your standards turns your should into must. Everyone has a list of should items: “I should spend more time with my kids. I should lose some weight.” People don't change. They end up 'shoulding' all over themselves. Convert 'should' into 'must,' and your entire life changes."

2. Change Limiting Beliefs Even when our goals and vision are crystal clear, we fail to act, we pull back, or sabotage ourselves somehow. We want all kinds of things to better our lives and those we care about, but we allow those stupid little voices in our heads to talk us out of our dreams. We want more, but the voices tell us we can’t have them. We don’t deserve them. We allow fear and doubt to stifle all things good. Unless you can finally say “enough” and not let the voices control your life, uncover your inner conflicts, and do something about them, they will cause you to fail. You can tap into your fullest potential when you align your inner beliefs with your goals.

3. Model Strategies That Work Success leaves clues. I don’t understand why everyone seems to feel good about repeating mistakes others have made. Why are we always trying to reinvent the wheel when it comes to being successful in life? The model is already there for you if you get off of your rear end and look for it. Look for people who are already achieving the kind of success you want, and then model it.? Learn from the past and people who have failed and succeeded, then write or speak about it. Read books, listen to podcasts, and get a mentor, but learn from the past and save yourself an immense amount of time and money.?

4. Intensify Your Emotions Lasting change will never happen until you become so passionate about your vision that no one can get in the way. You might be the only one on earth who believes in your vision, but you must fervently believe in it to burst through the barriers. You must be passionate about your vision, dreams, and goals. You can see it when someone is dedicated to thinking they can achieve anything they want and are ready to change, learn, and work to make it happen. You can see it in their eyes. Hear the passion in their voice.? Nothing, and I mean nothing, can get in their way. When something or someone does try to get in the way, face it head-on; it will give you the muscle of life—psychological strength. View it as a gift and find a way to use it.?

5. Give Much More Than You Expect to Receive The meaning of our lives is shaped by what we give, not what we get. Live every day to give something of value to those around you. You will experience a life of meaning and joy. Every day, I remember something Zig Ziegler wrote, “Help enough people get what they want, and you always will get what you want.”

Use these five straightforward strategies and change your life. Be honest with yourself. Will you be satisfied the rest of your life having dreams that never happen? Can you really live with yourself with that thought? Get off of the couch and stop being satisfied. Nothing of value happens until you step outside of your comfort zone.?

?So, what are you waiting for????