Can You Handle It?

***What Is Your Mental Age When You Receive Rejection?***

How does rejection really feel to you?

It is difficult to be appraised; to be held under a spotlight, a magnifying glass, to be judged and left wanting, yet it happens to us all the time, and while some of us seem to notice only the more significant events, those of us with low self-esteem, see judgment and rejection from moment to moment in nuanced ways, throughout each day.

What does the word “rejection” mean to you? Are you thinking about an interview, audition, presentation, interaction, childhood, family, friend, love, sexual, physical, spiritual, mental, religious, cult, self?

Maybe it means something else to you? Please feel free to comment.

In sales we are taught that rejection could mean “no” or “not for now” or “not yet” and it’s one step closer to someone saying “yes.”

In auditions we are taught to grow a thick skin because it will happen a lot.

I know a bright graduate who patiently waited two years and took around seventy-five interviews thus experienced around seventy-five rejections, before landing her dream job.

In relationship we are taught that rejection actually means honesty, because why take up or remain with someone unsuitable or who only likes parts of you and not the whole? The trouble we get into is shoehorning potential partners into a mould we believe is right for us, but it’s not right for them. I spend a lot of time with clients who find great comfort and the ability to move on emotionally, once they get clarity on this.

I know a smart and successful woman who, through her robust technique of weeding out undesirable mates can spot a potentially argumentative type before she even agrees to date. It doesn’t leave much up to serendipity, but although more fun, speaking from experience, it’s not exactly a reliable method, so she’s probably got the right idea...

But, to a sensitive soul, it’s the niggly little rejections over time that are the most corrosive. If childhood wounds are deep and unresolved, your “Rejection Radar” will be highly responsive and you will pick up subtle signs that to you, will infer inadequacy.

Hopefully by meditating on some of these questions, you will be able to get a clear idea of how you actually feel about rejection.

When did you last feel rejected?

Can you honestly accept a rejection, knowing it is at it should be?

Assuming you have been rejected for something or other in your life, were you gracious in defeat?

Looking back, where there ever times where you now see the benefits in your rejection?

***If you're curious about the answer to the first question, Inner Child Work will give you the answers***

I help you recalibrate your emotions so that you can have better business and personal relationships

I use psycho education, meditation, visualisation both in and out of trance and, where legal, plant medicine

Tanya

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