How do you want to have an authentic conversation with someone when you might be nervous? I have been there. Those times when I feel like I am going to throw up, pass out and cry all at the same time! Guess what, I lived!
It is amazing to have awareness for when we are super nervous. Though, how to overcome that quickly while in a conversation can be super difficult. Here are three ways to start having more authentic conversations that will help us have more impact on others in the most positive way!
- "I don't know." This statement alone can be challenging especially in a society where we have SO much information at our finger tips. If we can't google it then what if the simple statement of "I don't know" will actually open the conversation. The number of times I have said I don't know the answer but would it be okay with you if I find out and then get back to you. There has not been a single person yet who has said no.
- Ask questions. So often we get into the pitch and then forget that the person on the other side might have insights that we don't already know. Ask lots of questions, even if it takes more time as ultimately it creates a conversation that is enjoyable for everyone. Come up with three questions about their business prior to the call that will help you find out if they are truly a good fit as a client for you.
- Find out interesting tid-bits. This is called Appointset tid-bits. Find out more about the person that you are speaking with. What do they enjoy doing? What makes them excited? Do they have dogs? Do they love dancing? What is their favorite breed of dog or favorite dance? There are a million questions to ask as then your curiosity cup will be filled!
To be authentic ultimately is just being human. Be curious about others, don't worry about the pitch and be gentle and genuine as then things can work out even more in your favor! Enjoy a beautiful week!
