Can You Actually Win When You Fail

When you Win by Losing

In sports and competitive endeavors- there are clear-cut winners and losers.

But What do you think about winning and losing when you look at each day in your life. Are you winning? Are you growing, learning, succeeding.

Everyone can win. Everyone can also lose. It’s through our experiences that we grow.

To become an expert, you have to have experience and to get experience you have to experiment – and no experience ever come with water-tight positive-only experiences – meaning you will fail and lose battles once in a while.

You will WIN

1.      When you take risk of ridicule AND IN-SPITE OF THE OUTCOME

      I.           Expressing what you feel

   II.           Expressing your fears

 III.           Asking for what you want

 IV.           Suggesting ways for improvement

    V.           Taking responsibility

 VI.           Taking initiatives by sticking your neck-out

VII.           Being scared yet taking action

VIII.           Challenging the experts

 IX.           Losing an argument – letting another person win

   X.           Refusing to be part of the rumor/gossip group

 XI.           When you go along with your own beliefs and passions – irrespective of popular wisdom being against it

XII.           When you be totally yourself – vis-à-vis living a life as per others

2.     When you let your child go for his/her dreams – instead of imposing your own wishes on him/her

3.     When you make mistake – and – accept it

4.     When you make mistake – and – then keep trying and making mistakes – till you find the most correct solutions

5.     When you fail – but then you get up again – and restart

6.     When people laugh at you – you also laugh at yourself – but still follow your heart

7.     When we lose our innocence through being cheated/getting hurt/back-stabbed – but gain wisdom

8.    When we lose/let-go of our expectations from others of for their approval, their appreciation, their recognition

9.     When we lose our own false self-image and we face and accept who we are with our weaknesses and strengths

10. When we fail – but learn – where in our life we need to make changes – to grow

11.  You are willing to give things a shot, even when you think that in probability it won’t work out - Probability means that the supposed odds are not in your favor. But make no mistake — probable does not equal possible

12. When even facing hurdles - you Follow your dreams - never even think of surrendering

13. When you take on new challenges – and then going on and learning all about it

14. When you get the spirit of just doing it

15. When you kill your urge to speak and be heard – and – listen with respect

16. When you respect others

17.  When you don't let anyone dis-respect you

18. When you respect, accept and love yourself

When is winning actually losing

In life and business – going for short-term gains through short-cuts/cutting corners often creates long-term losses – they happen when

1.      In organizations - where politics takes preferences over progress

2.     People backstab to get ahead of peers

3.     People are more focused showing-off for looking good – rather than actually working on themselves to excel at whatever they do

4.     Form policies those are aimed at win[theirs]-Lose[others]

5.     Someone tries to cheat others of their rights – through lies, deceit

6.     Takes advantage of other's trust to deprive others of what they were entitled for

7.     Taking advantage of other's weaknesses and helpless-nesses

8.    Using your power to get what you want

9.     You don't have any problem sabotaging others for your own gain

10. Preferring profits over people's growth

11.  Reaching the top of the ladder anyhow

12. Gaining edge by stepping on others

13. Engineering results

14. Saving money by forcing people take cut in their earning

15. Taking credit for other's efforts

16. Exploiting the system and people to your advantage

17.  Short-changing your customers

18. Winning an argument

19. Playing favoritism

20. Encouraging idol-worshiping

All of above would seemingly get you profits/success/name/fame/power/satisfaction – but it is really very short-term – these are self-destructing in longer frame of life.

A punch in the gut comes from an enemy.

But A stab in the back comes from a friend – These are the ones we have to be the most scared of, who stab us in the back.

Stabbing others in the back to get what you want creates too much harm - later.

When you choose to focus on creating sustainable constructive outcomes - you soon learn that short term gains never outperform the long-term side effects of short-term actions.

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