Can We Talk About The Truth...Honestly?

Eleanor Rigby, Waits at the window, Wearing the face that she keeps in a jar by the door, Who is it for? ~Lennon & McCartney

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Is it me, or does it feel like there is a constant bombardment of advertising and commercials, each promising you a happier, wealthier, and healthier life if you just, "buy this product, place your bets with us, shop here, etc.?

Add the false claims and antagonistic rhetoric of social media, much of which is just opinions and not fact-based, it is quite easy to ask yourself the question; "What is the truth?"

Finally, if you add in the continuous, four year, political turmoil we have just experienced with the mud-slinging crescendoing on election day, is it any wonder that we have become numb to the truth?

If we look at the word true, we can see basis for the word tru-th and more importantly tru-st.

As you know, trust is the foundation for any and all relationships, without trust you really don't have a relationship at all, at least not a healthy one!

That said, I thought I would gather a few facts about truth and truthfulness and share them with you.

21 Things You Need to Know About the Truth:

5 Reasons we choose to be untruthful:

1. We are ashamed of what we did and don't want others to know?
2. We don't want people to see a side of us we don't like.
3. We would rather deny our true feelings about something, someone, or some situation than speak the truth.
4. We want to control or manipulate someone else or a situation to our benefit or to protect what others think about us.
5. We are afraid of losing something or someone we value (we just don't value them enough to tell them the truth).

5 Reasons for rationalizing our untruthfulness:

1. We say that telling the truth will do more harm than good.
2. We believe we are doing the right thing by not telling the truth.
3. We think not telling the truth in this?situation is better for all involved (but really it is mostly better for you).
4. We tell ourselves it isn't/wasn't a big deal.
5. We believe we know what's best for the other person or group involved.

5 Things that happen when we don't speak the truth:

1. We deceive ourselves and have to live with the consequences (this doesn't work if you have a sliver of a conscious).
2. The truth eventually comes out and the damage is worst then if you would have been honest from the start.
3. You are intentionally controlling someone else ... and people do not like to be controlled ... so when they do find out (and they will) it expands (see #2)
4. There will always be a gap or chasm between you and the other party that lives just below the surface and keeps you from an authentic relationship.
5. You will find yourself projecting your dishonesty on others and that eventually leads to misery and alienation.

6 Things that happen when you to tell the truth:

1. You respect yourself and the other person or parties involved.
2. You take 100% responsibility for yourself and your actions.
3. You choose integrity and authenticity instead of ?disingenuous-ness and control.
4. You create an opening for authentic relationship.
5. You put out into the universe what you actually want for yourself.
6. ?As a great teacher once said, "You will be free!"

Martin Suarez said, "If you want people to love you for who you are, take the mask off."??

Being dishonest, hiding the facts, spinning the truth, and lying by omission, creates a barrier between you and others. It is exactly the same as putting on a mask so no one can see the real you. While that might feel safe, it is very isolating.

Some folks who are consistently untruthful wonder why people don't "reaaaallly" love them, how could they when you wear a mask that hides your ?"true" self from others. This is one reason why some folks can feel isolated and alone ?in a room full of ?people or in relationship with others.

Remember...

You always have a choice to speak the truth or not...

That is the truth...honestly...I wouldn't lie about that!