Can Reading Your Bible Make You More Attractive?
I mean that in the most spiritually attractive way possible.
Recently, I was flying home from a Christian writer’s conference, sipping my coffee and reviewing my notes. My friend and I had an empty middle seat between us—prime travel real estate. Out of the corner of my eye, I noticed movement.
Across the aisle, slightly behind me, a nice-looking, young man was reading his Bible. A real, hold-it-in-your-hands Bible. I did a double take. Yep, that was Scripture. And he was even holding it at eye-level, like they tell us to do with our phones so we don’t end up permanently hunched over.
Intrigued, I debated my options. As a campus minister of over twenty years, I knew this sighting was rarer than a college student voluntarily waking up early. But yelling across the aisle, “HEY, NICE BIBLE!” seemed … counterproductive.
After we landed, I turned to him and casually asked, “Hey, I saw you reading your Bible. Are you exploring Christianity or would you call yourself a Christian?”
The next 5-10 minutes were delightful. He was a Christian, headed back to his renowned university in Baltimore after winter break. A student-athlete, newly involved in campus ministry, conversational—smart, polite, AND intentional about growing in his faith.
As he talked, I thought, Is there any possible excuse for him to meet my daughter (a high school senior)? Maybe she needs a personalized campus tour?
After we deboarded, my friend—who had also been eavesdropping—immediately launched into mom-mode. We whispered about his “husband potential” and debated whether he’d prefer blondes or redheads (she has a redheaded senior, mine’s a blonde). At baggage claim, she even snapped a discreet photo so we could send it to our daughters, letting them know we’d found their future husband.
I know, I know. We’re those moms.
But seriously, ladies—want to know a good sign in a guy? A man publicly reading his Bible. He’s probably not doing it for show, but because he genuinely wants to grow in his relationship with God.
And that? That’s attractive.
But this isn’t just about finding a godly husband. It’s about looking for and becoming the kind of person who prioritizes spiritual growth.
For young women, sure—if you’re looking for a relationship, seek someone whose faith is evident in everyday life, not just in words. But for all of us—single, married, young, or not-so-young—this moment on the plane made me reflect on a deeper truth:
What we prioritize shows.
Jesus didn’t just tell us to seek God first—He showed us how. Throughout His ministry, He prioritized time with the Father, often withdrawing to pray (Luke 5:16), rising early to seek Him (Mark 1:35), and even spending entire nights in prayer before major decisions (Luke 6:12-13). He made Scripture central, quoting it in teaching (Matthew 4:4), using it to resist temptation (Matthew 4:7), and fulfilling it through His life (Luke 24:27).
If Jesus—God in the flesh—needed this kind of connection with the Father, how much more do we? His example invites us to do the same: to be intentional, consistent, and deeply rooted in God’s Word and presence.
That young man on the plane's faith was noticeable not because he made a big announcement, but because he simply lived it. He opened his Bible in a public place, making his pursuit of God’s Word a natural part of his life. And isn’t that what we all should be doing?
No matter our season of life, we can ask ourselves: What would it look like to live our faith so naturally that others take notice—not because we’re trying to be seen, but because we’re truly seeking God?
So maybe the next time you board a plane, walk into a coffee shop, or even sit in your room, take a moment to be intentional. Because you never know who’s watching—and who might be encouraged by the simple act of prioritizing God.
Know a young woman who's looking for a godly guy? Or just needs a little encouragement in her faith? Send this her way—no discreet airport photos required.
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