Busting the Authenticity Myth

Being Authentic is a myth that needs busting… and here’s why…

“I want to discover my Leadership style”?said one participant during a recent the kick off masterclass of the 22 week Emerging Leader Program -?The Future Ready Leaders Toolkit.

What she said was in response to my question?“What are your intentions for the program and why are you here?”

The other participants began to nod in agreement. They too wanted to find their "true selves".

Sure this sounds like a great goal… (and one that I hear a lot in the work I do) "Find out who I am as a leader" (or as a human)… "Uncover my authentic style"….

But... is it really a worthy goal?

In the pursuit of leadership or personal excellence, we often encounter the notion of authenticity as a guiding principle.?

We're urged to be true to ourselves, to lead and live with integrity, and to remain genuine in our interactions. However, a deeper exploration into the philosophy of human nature challenges this rather simplistic view.

In Michael Puett and Christine Gross-Loh's book, "The Path", they delve into the writings of various Chinese philosophers including Xunzi, who distinguishes between human nature and artifice.

Xunzi asserts that human nature, while innate, is not inherently virtuous. Instead, it's the product of conditioning and societal influences. He argues that true human nature is revealed when our innate inclinations are refined and shaped through conscious effort – what he terms as "artifice."

Xunzi's perspective resonates with the timeless wisdom of James Allen's "As a Man Thinketh." Allen emphasizes the power of thought in shaping one's character and destiny.

He suggests that the noble and god-like character we aspire to isn't a product of chance but the result of deliberate cultivation through right thinking and sustained effort.

At first glance, these philosophies may seem contradictory to the modern notion of authenticity in leadership and finding our true self. After all, aren't we encouraged to be genuine and true to ourselves?

However, upon deeper reflection, it becomes apparent that authenticity, as commonly understood, is a myth.

The idea that we can simply be ourselves without any external influence or intentional effort overlooks the complexity of human nature.

Xunzi ‘s and James Allen’s? ideas shaped my response to the participants who wanted to ‘discover’ their leadership style…? I challenged them to think a little differently, instead of discovering who they had become because of external forces, I invited the to ‘create’ who they wanted to be as a leader, empowering them to let go of any limiting beliefs or ideas that may have been handed to them from society, and to self author their leadership journey.

As leaders (and humans), we're constantly navigating various roles, responsibilities, and expectations. We interact with diverse stakeholders, adapt to changing circumstances, and strive to inspire and motivate others.

In this dynamic environment, being true to a static, unchanging self is neither practical nor desirable.

Instead, we must embrace the concept of artifice – the conscious effort to cultivate our character, refine our skills, adapt and shape our leadership style. This doesn't mean being inauthentic or pretending to be someone we're not. Rather, it's about recognising that our authentic self is not fixed but fluid, shaped by our choices, experiences, and deliberate actions.

Just as an artist crafts a masterpiece through skillful manipulation of materials, we must also create ourselves through intentional practice and refinement.

The process of self-creation requires humility, self-awareness, and a willingness to challenge our assumptions and beliefs and become aware of our biases.

In essence, authenticity isn't found in staying true to some unchanging essence of self, but rather in the sincerity and integrity with which we engage in the ongoing journey of self-discovery and growth.

It's about aligning our actions with our values, inspiring trust through consistent behaviour, and fostering genuine connections with others.

So, as you bust the authenticity myth, you liberate yourself from the constraints of the what was and embrace the transformative power of artifice with “what if” and “who could I be”.

I invite you to cultivate the best version of yourself through self reflection, choosing who you want to be, conscious and persistent effort, continuous learning, and a commitment to being the best version of you so, you not only fulfill your potential but also inspire others to do the same.

Be Bold!