Burn the Cape!
Sick, tired and frustrated
We are 3 weeks into January and most of you may have already put back on your cape or are at least thinking about it.
All those toxic traits of pleasing everyone else before tending to yourself are creeping back in.
Have you become like a vampire again, fully submerged in work mode?
When you keep putting yourself last.
The more you set yourself up to be gaslighted, the more you drive yourself to frustration,?and the closer you get to burnout and exhaustion.
The suicide of Lincoln University’s Dr Bailey is a reminder to all those who left the superwoman, work-a-holic, imposter behind in 2023 to burn the cape!
The cape will only keep you sick, tired, and frustrated.?Hence, we must find the time to put ourselves first and walk away!
But, this does not happen overnight. Remember, superheroes don't get paid for their work, that's what makes them heroes!!
Heroes vs Superheroes
Speaking of heroes this week marks MLK day!
He is definitely one of my hero’s?someone who truly understood leadership or leading with a servant's heart ??
To everyone posting MLK quotes this week, instead of just lip service, his legacy impact can still be replicated......
I hope all the posts and quotes will be aligned to actions and we keep showing up publically for our heroes.
The Dr Gay's or Bailey's of your organisation still need you.
Please avoid staying silent or sitting on the fence!
In the meantime, prioritising your sanity is not just a radical act of self-care, but also an act of resistance to put yourself first.
Hence, taking care of yourself is not selfish. You are not a superhero, nor do you have superpowers!
Identifying your needs, wants, and desires is NOT an act of self-indulgence, but an act of self-preservation.?
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If you are expected to perform unrealistic superhuman tasks, do the best you can and walk away!
Know this.........You can still help others and burn the cape!
Take care of yourself, walk away
Anyone, who has ever been on a personal growth journey will know stepping back or walking away is not the same as quitting.
Detachment is a healthy coping strategy to distance yourself from thoughts, feelings and activities which you know are harming you
I am not talking about the maladaptive coping strategy of disassociation, making it difficult to form meaningful or lasting relationships which is a trauma-based response, that will impact your identity.
Detachment from the situation is a useful self-care strategy which helps you to gain a healthy perspective.
You were never meant to do it alone, even superheroes had the support of their community.?You deserve to be loved, nurtured and supported.
If you know in 2024, you are ready to burn your cape.
PLEASE don't wait until you feel terrible. We know the consequences of this. Let's connect here
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10 个月Yes, agree, Marteka Swaby! Prioritizing yourself isn't selfish; instead, it empowers you to become a more impactful advocate for change.
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10 个月Absolutely! MLK's legacy calls for action and real change. It's important to move beyond just posting quotes and actively support the heroes within our organizations. Taking care of ourselves is not selfish but a necessary act of self-preservation. Let's break free from the superhero narrative, prioritize our well-being, and walk away from toxic situations. Detachment and seeking support are powerful strategies for a healthier perspective. Thanks for the reminder to align our words with meaningful actions! ??????
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10 个月Great to see you continuing to call out the greatness in others, Marteka Swaby ? You did it for me, I’m now doing it for others - the circle of compassion, expectation and illumination is growing ?? Thanks so much for spotlighting my new book, A Poetic Odyssey of Proclamations - much appreciated ??
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10 个月A meaningful read. And thank you for illustrating how doing too much is unhealthy and should be addressed. I recently had a conversation with a friend about this, who mentioned that his job stress resulted in getting therapy. I can't think of that as a healthy thing, Marteka. Those capes need to go.
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10 个月Prioritising your sanity as a radical act of self-care is also an act of resistance