Bullying Is Never "OKAY"

Today i'm going to talk about something that I've faced a long time ago and how it affects me.

Everyone has a phase in their life they want to forget.

This is mine.

I was in school when a girl befriended me. At first she seemed nice, she was good in her academics, sports and all the cultural activities and also she was our class captain.

After a while she started criticizing others, started bitching behind our back & started conspired about how she's gonna harm our reputation in front of other fellow mates & teachers just to make herself feel happy & to show her superiority.

She was manipulative and started bullying. Criticizing others was her favorite part time thing.

Once we had a fight & she stipulated every student in our class to stop talking to me and as usual everyone snubbed me for a whole week. I thought it was all my fault and i was guilty of something that's why nobody was talking to me.This wasn't the first time & also i wasn't the only one, Who had to face such kind of circumstances.

She was really terrible & we used to be afraid of her because her mother was our class teacher, She supported her in her Barbaric & Brutal acts by saying "They're just kids, Let them be".

See this is something you cannot ignore because the victim always remembers, Doesn't matter how old you were and how successful you've become. You cannot change your past and it's the truth, It will haunt you forever.

These acts really harmed us mentally, I became more cranky and quiet also i didn't talk to my parents about this. We were kids i thought it doesn't matter what she is doing to us it will always be a kiddish thing to adults.

She was transferred to another state and we never encountered anything like this ever again in our entire school life. But the thing is "damage has already been done". we never forget about her willful acts, about the things she had done to us.

Finally a few years back i saw her on Facebook looking all happy.

All those memories came back & started haunting me how mean she was, how every words she said just to insult us mock us, to make us feel bad about us.

Few months back, Finally i confronted her. I said all the things i was feeling at that time, i was afraid, what if she didn't recognize me, what if she don't accept the damage she has done to me.

But instead she apologized for her willful acts, she might not remembered the stories but definitely knew how manipulative she was. Her apology was genuine, I felt that because she didn't hesitate or argued with me about how childish my statement was. She instantly said Sorry for all the troubles we had because of her.

Since then, my heart is at ease. I don't hate her anymore, seeing her picture doesn't make me think why she's so happy & specially those bad memories don't haunt me anymore.

In your workplace or in your school doesn't matter, Bullying is wrong. And if something like this ever happened to you, confront him/her. Tell them how you have suffered all those time just because of them. Don't just bury it in your heart it will not help you to recover from all those haunted memories. Seek help from your friends, family or therapist.

Do not let it make you feel lesser than anyone.