Building Healthy Relationships 101

As we journey through life it is good to consider what contribution we have made to humanity. If we have left the world improved and not diminished by our presence, then we have made a deposit and not a withdrawal. By consciously thinking about the good we can do now – today – we do not postpone our gift while living. Initially, we train our interior self to see where we have been the recipients of good, and then in turn we go the extra mile by giving back. Being grateful for daily gifts lifts our thoughts to a higher realm because where there are gifts there is a Giver. By acknowledging this generosity that comes from afar, we condition ourselves to become like-minded in both thought and deed.

By taking small steps that serve as a prelude to giving, we increase our awareness as to the wonder and benevolence in the world. We see the morning sky, smell the autumn leaves, feel the silky fur of our pet, taste the diverse foods we eat, hear the seasonal sounds of the outdoors, and sense that this is all placed here for our enjoyment. What remarkable things for us to receive upon entering this world via the gift of the senses.

Begin today to be a giver. A kind word, recognition, praise, and a listening ear are all things that can be given that are free of cost. Spend time with a person who has suffered a loss, read to a child who needs attention, brown bag a lunch for two and share with a friend, invite someone over for coffee and homemade cake, walk with someone who wants to exercise, offer a ride to someone unable to drive, and brainstorm with others regarding things you can do to contribute to making someone’s life a little better. Keep a list and do several things each week, or at least one act of kindness action per day.

You will be compensated with lightness of spirit, enthusiasm for living, spontaneous ideas for going beyond where you find yourself today, and an enhanced positive mental attitude. All these things in exchange for the gifts that you give to someone else are priceless and not for sale. You first must earn them by giving of yourself, and in exchange you will receive far more than you have given to begin with every time. Try it for a week and see. You will truly be amazed at your capacity to give, right here, right now, in this moment!

ALWAYS BE GREAT!

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