Building a Healthy Relationship Foundation…Be careful who you trust! Salt and Sugar are both white!..Too much of everything becomes a poison…part 212

A good foundation doesn't require any special training or education.

Relationships are like houses; in order for them to stand the tests of time, they need a good foundation.

The very first thing you do when constructing a home is to decide what kind of foundation you want and need. Similar things are required, if you are starting a new relationship.

You have to do your due diligence and make sure the person you are interested in has the right attitude, good communication skills, and a solid emotional interest in pursuing something real.

If both of you are in the same place, and most everything fits together, your new relationship has a good foundation and a much better chance of success.

Don't play games with someone’s feelings. Be straightforward about how you feel.

Don't be afraid to tell people you love that you love them. Action speaks louder than words is a little outdated. Sometimes, action is sweeter along with words.(come on give me your smile.)

When you want to change your life, but don't know where to start, start with prayer and everything follows.

Soft hearted people are not fools.

Don't make your life revolve around with someone.

Don't push yourself to someone. If you did already everything you could but nothing has changed, have the courage to walk away.

Don't put anyone on a pedestal either, sooner or later, they'll get tired of you, and soon will also get rid of you.

Sometimes, you can't have it all.

Don't ever regret what you did if you were really happy at that moment.

Never go back in time. Past is past. Move forward

Give more than you think you should.

It is impossible to live without quarrels, in the same way as to go through all city only on green light.

If the crowd goes one way, try sometimes to walk in the opposite way to make a difference. You might never know what good things awaits.

Money can't buy health. It can only prolong your life but not totally can get your body back to as it was before.

An apology doesn't mean you're wrong, and the other person is right. It just means that the value of your relationship is more important than your own ego. Swallow your pride sometimes. It'll make a huge difference.

Sometimes, you have to play the role of a fool to fool the fools who think they are fooling you!

Sometimes, we cannot choose who we fall for. It just happen.

No matter how strong of a person you are, love at some point can make you weak, vulnerable and a total different person.

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Thank you …When you have a positive foundation, you have the knowledge, strength, and Confidence necessary to create anything you want and to take it as far as you like. It also gives you the ability to take a risk. This is a basic truth that those who have accomplished their dreams all share.

Even if you don't have what you need right now, there is nothing wrong with doing a little work to make your foundation as strong as possible. Self-actualized people know-and are comfortable knowing-what they don't know, and take the steps necessary to get the support they need to heal the issues that always arise.

Like homes, all relationships need regular maintenance and perhaps even serious repairs along the way. This doesn't mean you have failed; these are things that happen over time. Most contractors will tell you that, if your house has good bones, you can fix whatever you need to or even remodel and expand. This goes for the rest of your life as well.

Judging yourself or your mate harshly because something didn't go right (welcome to the human race) won't help you out of your problem. Relying on the foundation of what you have created together, and trusting that you can accomplish anything, makes dealing with those expected but unforeseen problems much easier. If you have the right tools, such as a belief that you belong together, a willingness to accept assistance and a loving partner, you can handle whatever it is that comes along.

Having a good foundation doesn't require any special training or education. You can rely on your talents, experiences, and the abilities of those you are with to create the life, love, or home that you desire.

Our foundations can come from anywhere. Perhaps your dad taught you how to build and fix things, or maybe your mom gave you a talent for and interest in decorating, and you've always been good at it but never really knew quite why. If they were good together, your parents also taught you how to build a good relationship, which is one of the best gifts they can give you.

Having respect for a strong foundation-whether it comes easily to you or you've had to struggle to build it--is the way you create a life for yourself and for those you love.

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Do you remember watching fairy tales as a little girl and being envious of the Princesses who all found their prince charming, and at the end of their adventure ride off into the sunset? Cinderella, Ariel, Snow White, Aurora… yeah no, that is not what love is really like. 

Love is not meeting in the woods while singing a song to the fauna, knowing nothing about the person, and the prince knowing he wants to make you his future queen after five minutes and a cute dance number. No one can have true love in one meeting.

But what is love?

And how does it work?

And what are the basic and most necessary foundations of a relationship?

And most importantly, what makes it a healthy relationship?

Love is one of the most misconceived and misunderstood concepts of all time. There is a lot that goes into a successful, happy, and loving, healthy relationship. A long list of confusing life lessons and plenty of downs that come before all of the ups in life.

And unfortunately, social media and social expectations and several generations where most families are broken, have really dampened what true love truly is and what it can be. 

Broadcasted media, social media focus very much on sexualizing everything, making that the main emphasis of relationships in shows and music. More traditional media portrays love as an ‘instant connection,’ love at first sight, and then happily ever after. But the sexualization and instant connection could not be further from the truth for most people. In fact, once you understand how love works, it’s better.

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One of the most important foundations of a healthy relationship is friendship. If you are not friends, it simply won’t work. I am talking about true, deep friendship – where this person is your best friend and first choice for everything. 

The kind of friendship needed for the home base of love is the kind where you know their deepest secrets and fears, and you know theirs. The kind of friendship in this first base is the kind when it’s never a question whether or not you can depend on them, or how far you would go for them either. They are your number one person. 

Obviously this is the kind of healthy friendship that isn’t built in a day, week, or even a month. And while you may begin a relationship before you truly know or have established a close solid friendship with your significant other, it is vital that friendship continues to grow as you two grow together.

 Friendship, after all, is a love language.