Building Empathy: Understanding Allyship and the Power of Cognitive Empathy
Atefeh Taheri, PhD
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I have been deeply interested in understanding how allyship works and how people who do not identify as a certain minority can still be inclusive and become better allies. One fascinating observation is that individuals often become better allies when they have a personal emotional connection with a particular group.
For instance, I've witnessed male leaders saying, "I advocate for equal rights for women because I have a daughter, and I want her to have equal opportunities." Recently, a senior manager shared, "My child is gay, and witnessing the challenges they faced growing up in a small town has made me a strong ally of the LGBTQ community." While having strong emotional empathy for a cause is commendable, it raises the question of how much progress can be made towards equal rights if we wait for everyone to have a personal connection with a specific group.
Interestingly, one of my own direct reports, a blue-collar worker, once told me that I don't understand his life because I grew up in a middle-class white-collar environment. This made me wonder if it is essential to have a direct emotional connection or the same life experiences to truly understand the feelings of a particular group.
As I delved deeper into the subject, I came across fascinating articles by various psychologists, notably Daniel Goleman, discussing Cognitive Empathy vs. Emotional Empathy.
In his book "Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ," Daniel Goleman introduces the concept of emotional intelligence and its significance in personal and professional success. He explains that emotional intelligence comprises four primary domains: self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, and relationship management. Within the social awareness domain, he emphasizes the importance of empathy, which includes both emotional empathy and cognitive empathy.
Cognitive empathy, as described by Goleman, involves understanding and recognizing the emotions of others without necessarily sharing the same feelings. It's about putting yourself in another person's shoes, seeing things from their perspective, and understanding their thoughts and needs without becoming emotionally overwhelmed.
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Throughout the book, Goleman provides real-life examples and scientific evidence to illustrate the role of cognitive empathy in building effective relationships, managing conflicts, and improving communication in various settings, including the workplace, family, and community.
As a leader or manager, possessing cognitive empathy proves highly valuable. Leaders with cognitive empathy can better understand the perspectives, strengths, and weaknesses of their team members. By comprehending the diverse emotional landscapes of team members, they can create a positive and supportive work environment that nurtures creativity, productivity, and job satisfaction.
Developing cognitive empathy is essential to avoid unconscious bias, which can influence decisions and actions unconsciously, leading to unequal treatment and perpetuating social inequalities. Cognitive empathy plays a vital role in combating unconscious bias. By actively engaging in perspective-taking and seeking to understand the experiences and challenges faced by others, individuals can challenge their preconceptions and work towards fairer and more equitable interactions.
Enhancing cognitive empathy is a skill that can be cultivated with practice and effort. Here are some strategies to help you improve your cognitive empathy:
Remember that developing cognitive empathy is an ongoing process that requires patience and self-awareness. By actively working on understanding others and valuing their perspectives, you can become more empathetic and build stronger, more meaningful relationships."
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1 年Really well said, Atefeh! Thank you!
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1 年I appreciate the distinction you draw between emotional and cognitive empathy. Even though I identify as an empath, in reading your article and reflecting on your 10 suggestions for developing cognitive empathy, I realized that these approaches are not all "naturally occurring" to me--my own empathic nature can certainly be enhanced by these practices! Additionally it is refreshing to hear and remember that empathy can be developed and utilized by leaders who may not have an innate emotional connection to empathy, and yet can see and experience the depth of understanding and influence that flow from its embrace. Thank you, Atefeh Taheri, PhD, for this constructive contribution to the expanding awareness of the infinite power of empathy!