Bring Your Own (Energetic) Bubble

Are you (or just everyone you know) going through it? Let's talk about how to BYOB—bringing your own energetic bubble—wherever you go.?

A study on people who score off the charts on compassion found they have one thing in common: great boundaries.

The most compassionate people you know know where they end and you begin. They know your job from their job. They leave work at work.

These are the leaders who can:

• Listen without needing to fix
• Take feedback with curiosity
• Share truth with kindness
• Include themselves in their generosity

We need them and love them. They show up. We’re not worried for them. They’re going to go the distance. Their boundaries are their "how."?

To give without depleting yourself, maintain a personal energy that supports you. Your energetic bubble is your leadership PPE.

You may have a weak or porous energetic bubble if you:

• Feel overly depleted by interpersonal interactions
• Pick up other people's emotions
• Confuse their work for your work
• Feel the need to save or rescue

You may be operating without a bubble if you find yourself:

• Disrespecting yourself or others
• Not trusting yourself or others
• Not honoring your needs or their needs

When we're tired, our energetic bubbles naturally weaken. When we're broken, our bubbles can break away. You may notice this as a feeling of being hypersensitive or more "open" than ever. You're prickly. You're crying. It's normal.

We can prepare for weak bubble chapters and full-on bubble break moments by building up our energetic bubbles daily.?

And, if you're in need of serious bubble rehab right now, here's my simple RX.

3 Step Bubble Rehab

1. Admit you are a person. Say it in the mirror: "I, (your full name) am a person." This may be a blow. It will allow you to give and receive with less insanity.
2. Be easy on that person. Struggling? See step 1. "Self-care" is not another thing to be good at. Do what you think you should not do when sh*t is hitting the fan. Rest. Play. Laugh in the face of doom. Veg out staring at the wall and ask "why?" (Tell us what it says)
3. Show up at <100%. You're doing better than you think you are. Maybe that extra 10 was over 100% after all

For the long game, build your bubble daily. The stronger your protective space, the better equipped you'll be to support those you love, work with, and influence through the reverberations of your bubble of love.

And, we get to BYOB together. A study compared the performance of energetic "givers," those who out-give, "takers," those who out-take, and "matchers," those who go tit for tat. It found that "givers" made up both the top and bottom performers. The difference? Givers who also receive the support of other givers thrive. Givers who do not, burn out.

We are a community of bubble-builders. I love launching Success Circles because it's more than a leadership program. It's an ongoing, self-generating culture-changer. Circles build giver cultures, where generous spirits flourish.

• Let’s talk about bringing them into your organization.

Want some bubble-shining time with me?

• Book a leadership presence coaching session.

Finally, we get to co-create larger bubbles of love together. Emily Nagoski , co-author of "Burnout," wrote a song about it.

From my bubble to yours,?

Lucia Brizzi

Owner,? Next Level Leadership

www.the-next-level.com

#boundaries #compassion #connectedleadership #leadershipcoaching #leadershipdevelopment #burnout #peercoaching #successcircles