Imagine life with an inner cheerleader instead of a critic. Isn't it time you owned your brilliance?

I?saw Brené Brown post this quote earlier this week, and it massively resonated for me.

‘Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom.’ —Viktor Frankl

Waaay back over 20 years ago, my thoughts were so painful. It was like there was a propaganda machine constantly pumping out negativity about myself; a loud voice determined to convince me that I was stupid, ugly/fat and useless. Nothing I did, said, or was, was anywhere near good enough.

Two things were in place that meant things got worse rather than better. First, I had no idea that not all thoughts were true. If I thought it, it had to be true, right?! There wasn’t any of that space to chose a response that Victor Frankl talks about, and so I carried on believing the horrible stuff my inner voice told me. Second, I did not know that it was possible to feel differently about myself and think different thoughts, and so I thought I was stuck forever in a pit of despair and self-rejection.

I behaved as if the negative voice was true. I treated myself with little respect, and when other people did too, it sadly seemed reasonable and to be expected. In fact, when I was treated far worse by others, it was easy to be convinced that I should accept it and not complain.?

My first boyfriend was a textbook older, predatory man grooming a young, lost girl (I was a girl not a woman yet, 16 when we met). It was a horrific , 9 year relationship that had me separated from my family and friends by convincing me they didn’t care about me, and ashamed to talk about the awfulness that was really going on.

I had no voice, and stopped trying to stand up for myself. The only solution that seemed to work was to check out, drinking, taking drugs, distracting myself, shoving all my feelings down and muddling through. Did it work? Nope. I just felt more and more ashamed of myself, more and more wrong, unlovable and like a failure. The downward spiral was horrific. Lots of people around me were worried, but I wouldn’t let them in to the truth of what was going on, because I was afraid that telling them how bad it was would cause them to reject me or be angry.

Eventually, after several years in toxic relationship and addiction hell, I became ready to do things differently. I was no longer wiling to tolerate the impact that feeling shitty about myself, having shitty, negative thoughts about myself and achieving sweet FA apart from destruction was having. I reached out for help and was greeted with open arms, love and clear directions for how to get out from under. It worked. I got clean and sober, blocked the abusive ex, and everything got better.

My health, my career, my relationships, not least with myself, all got better and better. I soaked up everything I was taught about how you feel good about yourself, from a place of understanding that this was the answer to no longer accepting crappy relationships or neglecting or abandoning myself again. It turned out I wasn’t broken, bad or damaged goods. Some healing, kindness and the right kind of help was all that was needed.

The last 20 odd, I’ve built rock solid self-worth, self-belief and confidence. Showing other women how to do this, how to turn that horrible inner critic into an inner cheerleader so that you too can think, feel and act totally differently and have the happiness and success you deserve, is my calling. No one should have to hit the kind of low self-worth rock bottom I did, be treated the way I was, or feel so hopeless.

All women, humanity and the planet will benefit hugely from women like you knowing, accepting and celebrating your true value and potential.

If you struggle with a harsh inner voice, with self-doubt and with speaking up for yourself, I need you to know it really doesn’t have to be like this. You can feel full of self-worth, and you can believe in yourself and your potential. You can have inner peace, you can have solid confidence and know you can handle anything in life. You can stand up for yourself.

It would be a privilege to show you how to turn your inner critic into an inner cheerleader. It would be an utter joy to support you, to share all my most powerful tricks and tools with you. It would be such a pleasure to share very best tools that I’ve picked up from trainings, my personal growth and more with you so that you too can feel brilliant about yourself and be happy.

You are literally one shift in perception away from having everything you want in life. Happiness, success and peace of mind.

Ready to be lovingly guided to believe in yourself, once and for all? The doors are closing imminently on my 6 week program, Own Your Brilliance: Turn Your Inner Critic Into an Inner Cheerleader. We start next week!?

Comment with a YES below if you would like the details and I will send a short PDF over to you.

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