Brewing a Stronger Relationship: The Power of Sunday Coffee Time

It was a sunny but chilly Sunday afternoon. My wife and I were on a footbridge connecting two big shopping centres. We were both feeling exhausted, both physically and mentally, from the stress of buying a house and doing major renovations. We decided to take a break and go for coffee and cake instead of shopping.

As we sat in a quiet café, we realised that we needed to change our approach to life. We were tired of trying to meet everyone else's expectations and constantly impressing others. That afternoon became the foundation of our new ritual - a time to slow down and focus on our relationship and family.

In the Christian faith, Sunday is meant to be a day of rest. We took this principle and made Sunday a special day for us. We go to church, enjoy a coffee, take a walk, and spend quality time at home. Our "coffee trip" has become a regular part of our routine, a time for us to connect and support each other.

We have a few simple rules for our coffee trips:

1. We only leave once both of us feel lifted. We talk about important and sometimes tricky topics; even if we don't find a solution, sharing and being heard can heal.
2. We stay up-to-date with each other's lives. We want to avoid falling into the routine of just communicating. Instead, we aim to understand each other on a deeper level.
3. We plan a lot.

Our coffee trips are where we plan holidays, projects, and even new endeavours like non-profit work, blogging and podcasting!

By taking this time to slow down and focus on each other, we have grown in our relationship and have accomplished so much together. Make Sunday a day for you, your spouse, and your family - start your coffee trip ritual.

For that reason, Sunday coffee time has become a sacred tradition for us. It helps us slow down, connect, and plan our future together. We've learned that prioritising our relationship and actively listening to each other is essential for a healthy and happy life.

I encourage you to give it a try. Make Sunday a special day for you and your loved ones. Find a cafe or place you love, order your favourite drink, and enjoy each other's company. Talk about anything and everything, empathise with each other, and plan your future together. This little ritual can significantly impact your relationship and bring more joy and meaning to your life.

Remember, Sunday is for you, your spouse, and your family. It's time to slow down, connect, and make memories that last a lifetime.

This article is from a series of articles from my Coffee Journeys blog from Intentional Life category.

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