Brené Brown on Sympathy and Empathy

Brené Brown on Sympathy and Empathy

Have you ever tried to tell a friend about something difficult and they responded by wanting to fix it for you? You know that they mean well, but it's just not what you are looking for. Instead of feeling more connected and feeling better understood, you may actually feel more alone.

“I don’t want you to fix it!” you might say. “I just want you to listen to me!”

I wanted to share a wonderful (and short) video by author and storyteller, Brené Brown, about the difference between sympathy and empathy. In the end, you’ll see that she talks about just the situation I described above.

When I've been in periods of grief, I've noticed that some friends stay away because they don't know what to say. But it is the mere act of reaching out that makes the difference. I love the idea that the best thing we can do to show love is just simply to be there.

Tara Alexander, Ph.D., LCSW, PC

Psychotherapist for High Performers

4 个月

I love this post. It can be difficult for people to communicate under intense situations. Thanks for the reminder.

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Prajakta Prabhune (CA, MBA)

Decoding Gratitude, Kindness, Risk Management and Leadership||Associate Director UBS (CCR, LER, BCBS, Data Governance & Change Management Specialist)||Support Women Empowerment|| Opinions and Views reflect my judgments

5 个月

Truly amazing!!

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Jennifer Safian

Divorce and Family Mediator, Private Practice at Jennifer Safian, Divorce & Family Mediation

5 个月

So true

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Jo Brody

Family Mediator & Collaborative Attorney at BRODY LAW & MEDIATION, LLC

5 个月

Love Brené Brown and this lesson in just listening and “sitting with.” Have you see. Her “blame” video? That one is great too. Thanks for sharing Joy!

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Michelle Exline Minovi

Attorney Mediator at Minovi Law & Mediation and Adjunct Law Professor, Mediation Clinic

5 个月

Hi Joy, I love your post and the Brown video. There's a lot of truth to this. Especially about the connection component. Because I'm curious and love digging into this king of thing, what you think about this article https://www.nytimes.com/2023/09/28/opinion/sympathy-empathy.html ? You give me so much food for thought! Keep posting!!

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