Breakthroughs and Swerves, Following Life's Curves
Amanda Jayne OHare
I teach AuDHD entrepreneurs how to plan their food, exercise and lifestyle to support their unique energy so they can thrive in life and business
It’s been quite a month for breakthroughs, for a minute, I even thought we were still in January.
Let’s say 2 months then.
I love watching house renovation project programmes; I love reading endurance sports journeys; what they both have in common is making mental and physical space for setbacks, detours, adaptions and changes of plans. How often have you thought about starting something but put it off because you’re waiting for all the details to come together perfectly - or even not started because you did and you became overwhelmed completely that it just felt safer not to start?!
ME! Guilty as charged.
I’ve also started things and realised just how much I’ve had to change and detour through it that I needed to adapt and accept that I didn’t know what the journey was going to look like in its entirety and that it was ok.
Even if it feels like a head fuck.
It felt like I was failing - but I wasn’t - for starters - it’s ace - but secondly, I learned of monotropism - I just can’t focus on creating the course and 'do' the sales at the same time.
Not because I can’t do them, but because I’m expecting myself to uphold unrealistic standards for my autistic brain and body (especially as a single parent).
It felt like I sucked at trying to sell my course because I couldn't get excited enough about it to describe it in an attractive way. I simply didn't have the energy or brain space to describe it - I'm just mentally tired from diving deep into the actual project, man.
It didn't stop me from feeling like it must not be very good. I thought, if I can't get excited about it - why would anyone else - but when I zoomed out, it was much easier to see that I was just trying to wear all of the hats.
I wouldn’t have learned and understood this had I never started.
When I stepped back this last week, I saw I hadn’t given myself much space to recover from my Autistic Diagnosis process and let it land. I just kind of barrelled through because I was already excited about my project.
January and February lent me to awakening and being aware of all of the ways I’m still making myself do business the way I think I should be doing it - instead of how I want and need to.
I LOVE to do work, I’m so happy in the back end creating blogs and podcasts and building things - I struggle more with Live aspects.
I still love them, but the way my life is set up right now - they’re just inaccessible.
I have so much to share and so many courses and products I’ve created and blogs and podcasts I’ve been dying to create - which I put on the back burner to attend to all the shoulds.
Wowsas. Told you! Breakthroughs!
But guess what? If I didn’t start, if I didn’t try - I wouldn’t have known.
What has been coming up for you in this last 6 weeks?
Thank you!
Amanda Jayne