Breaking the habit of blaming-others and making-excuses

In this article we will learn the following

-36 reasons why we blame-others and make-excuses or play-victim or start justifying and become defensive [to create an illusion of security]

-24 negative consequences of blaming others - the real cost we pay when we become a chronic blamer - what are you losing out in life by blaming others

-26 basic tips on How to stop this behavior how to avoid the habit of blaming - all the cliché have their detailed do-it-yourself videos in our YouTube channel and blogs in our both the websites

Have you ever caught yourself making excuses or blaming others - just to divert the attention from your mistakes or follies.

If you pay-attention objectively - you may find yourself using [at times sub-consciously] - this tool - to rationalize and invent creative-reasons to defend your behavior - to postpone taking action or simply to boost your self-esteem.

Many times - few people may even feel that blaming others is the perfect and natural thing to do.

Masking the truth by making excuses and playing blame-game - actually play havoc with your self-confidence and all the important aspects of life.

When we consistently blame others for everything that goes awry in our lives - we also forgo working-on and finding solutions to our problems.

Life isn’t perfect things will go wrong and all of us will keep making mistakes.

36 reasons we blame-others and make-excuses or play-victim or start justifying and become defensive [to create an illusion of security]

1.?????Avoiding accepting our mistakes

2.?????Avoiding attention on our weaknesses

3.?????Denying and accepting failure

4.?????Suppressing embarrassment

5.?????Avoiding becoming center-of-attraction

6.?????Looking good in the eyes of others

7.?????Making others feel-bad and thus making us feel-good

8.?????Avoiding taking responsibility

9.?????Hiding mistakes

10. Hiding our fears and anxieties from others

11. Because some of them are really toxic-bad-evil

12. To create a false sense of superiority

24 negative consequences of blaming others - the real cost we pay when we become a chronic blamer - what are you losing out in life by blaming others

1.?????You will become toxic - and hurt people who truly care and love you

2.?????You feel and become powerless - just think - if you feel - that everything is someone else’s fault - then who is powerful you or them

3.?????You can’t have meaningful and satisfying relationships - because you will never develop empathy

4.?????Because you avoid accountability and suppress feeling negative-emotions - you won’t be able to let go of your pains-hurts-traumas

5.?????You will not have healthy relationships - as you will attract toxic people

6.?????You won’t be able to trust others - as you don’t have confidence to trust yourself

7.?????You will become chronic-complainer and whiner

8.?????You will have a big-ego and will feel hurt more

9.?????You will live a pathetic life of being a victim

10. You will have very-very low self-esteem, feelings of worthlessness and feelings of being inadequate

11. You will lose valuable friendships, relationships and jobs

26 basic tips on How to stop this behavior how to avoid the habit of blaming - all the cliché have their detailed do-it-yourself videos in our YouTube channel and blogs in our both the websites

1.?????Changing any negative behavior - needs as the first step - acknowledging and accepting that you have this problem - before you can even begin to address them

2.?????Even acknowledging -might not be easy for you - because ironically you will have to take the blame yourself - and hold yourself accountable for your actions

3.?????Ask yourself - what excuses do you usually make - when do you feel like making excuses - when do you feel like justifying what you did - when you become defensive

4.?????Ask yourself - if you don’t make this change right now - what all negative consequences- will take place [in addition to what are already in your life]

5.?????Then make a list of all positive transformation that will take in your life and how your life will be changed powerfully

6.?????Start to actively notice your thought process the next time you make a mistake - what is the first thing you do - blame others, justify or rationalize or make-excuses

7.?????Start making conscious efforts to start saying this is my responsibility to correct the mistake made by me - and not anyone else’s

8.?????We have to learn to be able to hold ourselves accountable for all the mistakes - big and small - undoubtedly it is going to be scary

9.?????Start learning how you can view your mistakes in empowering ways - learn to view the failures and mistakes as opportunities for your self-improvement and growth - instead to be blamed on others

10. All the time - acknowledge your responsibility

11. Learn to apologize - if you happen to blame others

12. Start pro-actively accepting mistakes - instead of trying to hide or when someone points it to you

For complete article please read "Why we blame others and make excuses & how to break it" in the blog-section of Success Unlimited Mantra - link in the 1st comment